Fighting over trivial issues...

This sounds like a relationshiop in trouble. Fighting with someone just for the fun of it is not a relationship but a way to get noticed. And the husband missed seeing the new dress says a lot about the relationship. No, I don't fight with my spouse. The idea is to be supportive and generous with that person. Fighting to prove who is right or who can beat the other is about competition not a partnership. Yes, we both have differences in opinions. The difference is that I don't need to be right and neither does she. What does need to be determined is what is going to be done. (If that needs to be determined.) Most of the time it is about who has the most invested in the actions to be done. We go with that. Dr. Phil has a great way to determine which way to go. We rate how important it is to each person. If the situation and what needs to be done is a 9 for my wife and a 2 for me. We do it the way she wants. Just the opposite, we do it the way I want it done.

Once in awhile my boyfriend and I do fight over trivial issues. We are both fairly young though, so I think that may contribute to it. We both also have emotional issues, such as anger problems, that make little problems turn into arguments that may last for hours. It can get pretty ridiculous... We have been trying to work on it, though I realize it might take a lot more effort and time than I think.

I will fight tooth and nail with anyone if someone says that I have done something that I have not.THere is no discrimination be it my partner or anyone else. Regarding this particular question, I can say I don't.Generally I am a very peace-loving person, hate confrontation but I can never tolerate unjust accusations and untruths[righteous I may sound but something just flares up within me ; in my due credit I can say that I do not go anyone's way and would never pass any unwanted comments.]

Hi Mimpi! Good Morning! You see fun fighting is part of married life. It is said that "where there are more than two utensils, they will bang/collide each other at one time or the other". . We also fight sometimes for 'no issues' and you have rightly pointed out that it takes few minutes when the fight between both of us takes an ugly turn. However, before the fight gets very bitter, I try to resolve the issue somehow. I do not want that due to ego problems we both reach at a point of no return and remain tensed and stressed through out the day/night. It is for sure, when you have fought with your partner, irrespective of the fact that who was right and who was wrong, both will get tensed and ther BP will shoot up. Difficence of opinion is the major cause of fighting between couples, so I think both should be accommodating and flexible. If both are rigid, then life gets difficult.

We do fight over trivial issues that are completely unavoidable.I am basically a peace loving person who always tries to do without fighting and arguing.But my husband is of reverse nature and always argues even for trivial issues like what i am wearing,eating and doing .He always finds faults in me and that does put a negative effect on the relationship.But i always try to remain calm because i know that fighting will always going to land me in trouble because i am not witty and i just cannot argue much,that is my nature.

I sometimes fight with my wife regarding trivial issues, sometimes the simple ones like who won 2008 nba finals. Thinking about it just makes me laugh hard. We often resolve it by getting over it. We both know that it's nothing.

I have seen a lot of arguments start between couples over small issues and even for fun sometimes with a little teasing and become a big fight. The arguments bring out the subdued emotions and issues and then it goes on and on with finding fault with each other. I recently remember an incident involving someone I know. The wife was teasing the husband over a particular choice of shoes he was wearing. He told her that she helped him select it. That turned into a nasty argument with the end result that both were not speaking for 2-3 days. Some may say that something is amiss and requires a lot of understanding bewteen two people when a small issue becomes big. The point is, if they love each other, they will quickly realise their folly and make up for it. I personally would have no hesitation to say sorry, even at times when I am not at fault and try to make up. After all when you share a relationship and love someone, why should the ego come in?

i try my best to minimise arguments with my hubby especially if it is only over trivial matter... it is so tiring and draining mentally, physically and emotionally... and it is unhealthy as well... so i prefer to back down or keep quiet nowadays and find a better time to talk to my hubby if i dislike something about him rather than fighting and arguing... take care and have a nice day...

Our home is an argument zone :( Through conscious effort we have bought it down quite a bit. When we were newly married, most of our fights were over trivial issues. Unless two people are really mature adults, that tends to happen. I've never had a just out of fun getting turned into an ugly argument.....but it's most often when I try to discuss an issue that involves the kids and my husband assumes that I'm taking a dig at him and then I don't know when and how the argument flares up. Resolving never happens in this family and that is exactly why the same kind of arguments keep cropping up again and again and again.

In the last nine years I can only think of twice that I've ended up fighting with my husband. The first time that we had a fight was because we'd gone to a bar and he thought that I was a little bit too close to some of the other guys that were there (we'd been friends for a while before I met my future husband). The second time was because I was being stupid and started it with him about the fact that he never wanted to spend time with me. We resolved both of the fights that we've had by talking them through.

When you fight with a partner in a ny relationship, it usually involves something simple that snowballs into something blown out of control. Often we can look back on these times and laugh. At the time we are fighting, these matters seem to be far from amusing.

Hello mimpi1911, in a relationship, fighting cannot be prevented. Sometimes you fight over unimportant things. Actually fighting is one way to spice up and strengthen the relationship. It is just a matter of how you handle a fight and how you end a fight. A couple should always make sure that they should not let the day without making amends with each other after they fight.

Yea sometimes but not always, just have a little chat with your parents and everything will be sloved easily. Happened to me once but yeah, parents are the only one will turthly love you no matter what so good luck.

I have made it a point in my relationship that I will never fight with my partner. Raising voice and fighting over trivial issues is one of the easiest thing you can do. But at the same time it is not difficult to uphold any relationship. We always crave for attention from our partner and when it is not given we feel disgusted. In this case we should always remember that we should not loose our calm and accept the situation as it comes. Fighting for it will only ruin your relationship. So the choice is yours, either to keep quiet and ignore the matter or fight and ruin your relationship. Try changing your way of expressing things. To grab his attention be a little more polite and humble.

hey its because your friend wants her husband to act as she wants its wrong that man may have another tension so he might have not notice about it your fried should appricite her husband and trust him she shoul not fight on this silly topics they both should be understanting!

Nah, we never provoke each other which is really sillyWhy exasperate then regret later, it's just like playing with fire & hoping not to get burntWe always keep this simple rule that has helped us all along the way - the problem is the problem & your spouse is NOT the problem. Being objective surely helps a lot.

Fighting over trivial issue is a common thing between couples. In fact I know of a couple who separated just because they fight over how to use toothpaste properly. Imagine that? That is how dangerous fighting over trivial matter is. It can break a relationship at any one time. Now I am not saying I and my husband have never fought over trivial things. We did and a lot a that actually when we were just starting to live as husband and wife. Nevertheless, as our marriage grows longer we learn to mature with it. We learn to set aside trivial matters and become more concerned about sensible matters instead. When trivial argument is getting in the way, we both would stop and think that we can't be allowing this trivial matter destroy our day. Life is too short to waste and one way of wasting it is through fighting. Better just keep the air of love and understanding for as long as we can. Trivial or non trivial we better just agree and live life happily. And before I forget, let me quote an admonition from the Lord straight from the word of God: Ephesians 5:21-25 [i]Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; [/i]

Little fights are spice of married life. It makes the partnership exciting and romantic. We have this little fights, too but as much as possible before it turns into big fight, I try to get to talk with him. I always try as much as possible not to sleep with a little fight not until it has been resolve if not totally resolved! If I have to make the first move, I do it, but of course not always,hugh! Women!

Luckily, because we are older now, my husband and i don't fight over trivial matter anymore. We learn to understand each other's mood and learn what makes one get angry and avoid it. Though sometimes, out of fun we would do things silly to each other that would end up irritating the other one. When that happens, the irritated one would tell the other to stop or it will be blown out of proportion.