Do you think your parents were too hard on you?

I think my parents were pretty hard when we were little but eventually they were more focused on my sibling that I got to get away with a lot of things. I don't regret the way I behaved at all, maybe I'm still defiant about those things. I do wonder what it would have been like if there were more expectations on me. I think a lot of parents are too busy about their own 'drama' that they don't even have time for their kids.

Well, I am kinda rebellious when I was still a teenager, because my parents (esp my mom) is so strict that everything goes her way. Even though I know that sometimes she is so unreasonable. But I came to realize, when I became a mother that parents are just too scared. They treat their child so fragile that they are too scared that there will be things/person that will harm your way.

Not at all. They were pretty permissive. Fortunately, there wasn't much I wanted to do that would make that a danger. I wasn't perfect, but I was (still) shy and much preferred to read books rather than go out and get in trouble. I do think they -well, my mom really- were overprotective, although there wasn't much need to exercise it. If I had been the type that needed supervision, my guess is there would have been stricter parenting in some aspects.

I don't think my parents were too hard on me. I think in some ways they were just right. I was allowed to do more then some of my friends were but I wasn't allowed to do too much and I had a curfew and rules to follow. I wish my mom would have pushed me to do more activities. I was always afraid to try things, and was very self conscience. I think being in a sport or something would have helped me. I bribed my daughter to try soccer last year and it was really good for her. The first day she was scared and she cried, but once she got started she was just fine. She still is a little wary about things, and if I really don't think she'll like it I wouldn't push her. There really isn't too much I regret, my parents and I usually got along pretty well and I was a good kid.

I think it happens every day, blaming parents for children's way wards activities. People has to blame someone so pointing fingers at parents. This is somewhat unfair. Yes, in some case, this may be true but once the children begin to have a mind of their own, they have forgotten every good words of their parents. It is now their own doings. For every good deeds on the other is also theirs alone. Some merits for the parents is good but not all. We're all different individuals, no parents and children are exactly alike so why blame or credit each other for their own actions?

Luckily, our parents weren't hard on us while we were growing up. My father though has the habit of hitting us with the belt while we were made to lie face down so it would hit our butt, but to us that's part of disciplining us. Siblings tend to quarrel so spanking would be done to pacify us. Nonetheless, our parents brought all of us well. We even thank them for being strict to us when we were small, because we grew up to be good citizens.

Unfortunately, I do honestly think that my parents were too hard on me. I think they never got over me being a black sheep specially during my highschool years, and until now that I am living with my siblings, that I have a stable job, I can still feel that they are still too hard on me, and this has really made our relationship tense. I just wish that they would just leave me alone, and just be more easy on me, like they are with my other siblings.

For me I actually tend to think that it was quite the opposite. I feel like my parents spoiled myself and my siblings more than they should have. We lived a life that was very sheltered throughout our childhoods. In fact, I was already an adult before I realized the fact that not everyone was blessed with many of the things that I took for granted in my life. For that reason, being a parent myself, I think it is important to make sure that my children see how blessed they are in their lives.

When i was a child and did not get my way I often thought my parents were mean. they were just being responsible parents. Loooking back now, I think my parents were too soft hearted. They could have been much tougher on their children than they were. I don't think my parents were too hard on me at all.

Since the start, I always think that my parents were hard on me. They want me realize how hard to earn, because they didn't give me anything i ask them. they always said , keep my money and use it wisely so that when you need to buy something, i will not ask them anymore. Happy mylotting

I did a lot of trouble to my parents when i was a teenager and treated them realy bad but i think that it is just a part of all the hormones that we can't control as teens. my parents weren't hard enef with me and basicly let me do everything that i wanted, including dropping out of high school. there was a period in my life when i used to blame them for not being more tuff with me as a teenager, but actually i don't know how i would react as a teenager if they would have ground me to my roon for instance, because maybe i would have run out of their house and something terrible woould have happend to me. today i can only thank them for what they have given me in my life and to learn from their mistakes.

I don't think they were hard enough.Being a middle child sucks lol.Because I'm by far the most intelligent(nice to blow my own trumpet there) of my siblings also most mature and sensible.I guess they never thought it was down to them to push me.They assumed I would do everything myself.Which is mostly true but it would have been nice to get a bit more support.

My parents were really hard on me on my youthful day, they had too many restrictions . Even now that I have becoming a parent too, I still think they're too hard. But I always look for the bright side, I know exactly how my children will feel if I do the same to them. I want my kids to have a happy life but I'm not going to spoil them, so I'll try my best.

Parenting is alot like trying to program a computer with a large rock and an open fire. Children are put together by genetics to have so many predispositions and talents that can match their parents skills or not. Most parents try to provide the right discipline, structure, guidance and love to make a positive functional adult. When it goes wrong it is not because the parents did not try to do their best. Their parential skills and knowledge, emotional needs and desires do not match the genetic predispostions and emotional needs of the child. Who is to blame for the children's problems? Everyone and no one. Children take from their parents what they can. Well adjusted adults use that material to grow and become good people. You are always responsible for who you are. You should not be blaming your parents for what you are. You get up each day and can either wallow in your parents faults and what they didn't give you or work on becoming a better person. Your parents may have given you a set of tool which do not serve you. You don't need to keep them. You can replace them with what you need.

they are... but now i understand that they do it for my own good... otherwise, i won't be the person i am now... so even though they are really hard on me, i am really really grateful to them... as they told me when i was still a child, i might not understand what are they doing to me at that time and why... but one day, when i am already an adult, i will understand... and it is very true... take care and have a nice day...