No boyfriend since birth

Philippines
February 13, 2011 5:52pm CST
It's Valentine's day today, and as always, I don't have a date. haha :) I'm 22 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Do I sound like such a loser or what? Oh well, I guess I just have to wait some more. God is probably still busy writing my love story. And I need to mature up some more. So that I will be a better person when the one that has been prepared for me comes knocking on my door. Happy valentine's day everyone! To those who have dates, enjoy this love-filled day!
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25 responses
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Feb 11
Hi miha, Lucky for you. Relationship is such a headache that you wish you never entered into such a thing in the first place. Believe me, it gives more sadness than happiness in the end. Its not that I'm scaring you away from it, I'm just speaking from experiences, both personal and from observations around me. Thank your lucky stars you haven't been to the ups and downs of having a relationship. Don't rush it or you may fall overboard with no chance of taking back your blissful innocence. Anyway, you shall have it if when you are ready. Just be ready...
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Yeah..a lot of my peers say that things like those would only come when you are ready. As they always say, there is a time for everything, including love. If we rush into it when it is not yet time, it won't be a very happy experience. I'm no exactly sure how to be ready but as of now I'm still in waiting mode! haha Thanks for your response and the advice!
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
btw, i'm 22 years old too. Asian. and i never had a boyfriend every since. not even suitors. I'm not even fat.. i'm just average. I'm tall too.. I dress fine, i have a job... got a lot of friends. But sometimes... i can't help but feel lonely. I feel like, i already have everything and the only thing that's missing is A PARTNER. D: i feel sad too........i'm turning 23 soon, and i'm still single :( i dont know why the hell guys don't like me. What's wrong with me.
@min8esign (167)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
You're right, God must have been preparing something remarkable for you for sure, and you should not have any sense of hesitant to believe it. Maybe this time, God wants you to more focus on certain matters not the affairs of dating. But even so, you have to keep opening your heart and allow others to love you, thus the God's plan and your desire will be in line.
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
Like! I agree. They say every situation we experience in life is a preparation for our destiny, of what God plans for us in the future. I'm definitely excited for what God has in store for me in this area. As they say, waiting develops stronger emotional muscles. I'm kinda excited of the fruits of all these waiting.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
It's good that you are willing to wait for God's best for you. There really is no need to rush into romantic relationships since they will only leave you wounded and scarred, especially if they are not meant to be. I don't think having no boyfriend since birth are for losers, I admire you that you are secure enough with who you are, that is why you don't need a boyfriend to prove that you are worth something Happy Valentine's Day too
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
I really agree. I wouldn't want to get into a relationship that I'm not ready for. As the song says, only fools rush in to love. I want to be mature and responsible before getting into such serious business as love. haha
• Malaysia
14 Feb 11
Hey don't worry, waiting is good. When you wait, you'll be rewarded the best. Good things comes to those who WAIT, remember! I met my hubby at age 25 but before that I had no BF at all. All I do is pray, so you too pray. I am sure you'll be suprised to see what is awaiting you. Be happy that God has given YOU a new day and good health. Many people out there has/had BF and is suffering. So be happy with the life you have, but cheer up...you'll have what you want. You are not a LOSER! NO bf doesn't make you a loser instead you hv a good future ahead...Relax and enjoy your life while you can. God Bless You.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Wow I am so encouraged by all your responses. Thanks a lot! It gives me a renewed sense of confidence. It's just that I am being teased about my singleness in the office and sometimes I just need a reinforcement of positive words. Thanks for all your kind words. You're story is so cool Caroline!
@zendie (10)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Yup... maybe the guy is also busy praying for you. It's ok.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Thanks for all your responses and the encouragement!
@buli23 (550)
• India
14 Feb 11
I am getting shock that you are about 22 years old and you have not any boyfriend. I just want to know you never fall in love or you loose you love. But my view different from your view. You may get your love any time but never able to enjoy the teenager love because in the teenage there is lots of emotions and lot of fun but in mature age love their is only responsibilities. In my view you have miss may thinks in your life.
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
Well, as they say, everything in this world is permissible not not everything is beneficial. Teenager love may sound fun and exciting because of all the emotions and other "fun" things associated with it. However, getting into such things has certain risks as well. I wasn't much of a risk taker. But I enjoyed life nonetheless.
• United States
14 Feb 11
Well that is quite odd. Ever since i was around 15 i have always had a boyfriend and at times there were days and months and maybe a year i didnt have a boyfriend but most of the time i always did. I guess because then i was a girly girl and a cheerleader in high school. Maybe just be girly and change some ways and you will soon get a boyfriend. I love my life and wouldnt change it for anything and love my boyfriend.
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
I am actually a girly girl. Although I wasn't a cheerleader like you becuase here in our country, our high schools don't have a cheering squad unlike in the western countries. As the other people posted maybe its just a difference in culture..hehe.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
Time will come when the right one comes along, but i would presume that you have your "crushes" as would any at this age. Just be patient and when he comes, then you would feel the splendors of love..happy myLotting..
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Yeah, of course. Crushes are normal for me. I change crushes almost everyday. They range from the normal people I meet everyday to the celebrities I see on TV (but there are more celebrities) ..haha. Anyway, yeah, I'm just waiting for the right time. As they see, there is a time for everything, and there is a right time for love.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
14 Feb 11
Just don't be sad and don't try to criticize yourself. What means: "I will be a better person"? Aren't you a good person now? You should learn to love yourself and love will come.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
When I said I will be be a better person, I meant that I will improve myself. Because I'm far from perfect and even if it's not easy to be perfect, I believe one should always aim for perfection and become better, right? Because if we just remain as we are without improving, then we would just be like stagnant water. What do you think?
@jennermb (17)
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
I also think that opinion of people regarding your situation is culture-based. For people from conservative culture then probably it is ok. Others, well, will be more merciless in their opinions. Then again, it can be your own choice to be such. Or that it is not your top priority.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Yeah, I guess it's just not in my top priority right now. My priority right now is my career and personal growth. I want to grow more as a person and become rich so that when the right time comes, I'll be ready to marry and have kids.
• United States
14 Feb 11
Yeah, Valentine's Day really isn't such a big deal...people just make it out to be one so they can show off that they are even in a relationship. It's also just an excuse to buy gifts for your partner, even though you're perfectly capable of doing that any other time. You don't need a holiday to tell you that you can give someone a gift out of love.
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
That's true. Can we just scrap Valentine's Day altogether? hehe kidding! Now that New Year's over, this red-filled day is coming again. How time flies so fast!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
13 Feb 11
The response will depend on in which country are you living. If you are in India it is quite ok. Normally people in western countries like USA, Britian start dating and having boy/girl friends in their teen age. You will get your man soon. best wishes
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Oh. I'm somewhere in Asia. So I guess it's ok since it's not in the western countries? Oh well, thanks for your response.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
That's a record. But life is not complete without it. don't miss it.
@goodgurL (92)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
hey! sounds interested...but cheer up girl you're not alone. just wait for the right one for you maybe God prepares you to get mature to have relationship. You should learn to love yourself first.^_^ im not saying you don't love your self but maybe there are ways that you can't control how to give love or to show love. ^_^ God bless
• India
14 Feb 11
Hey dont worry more, one or the other day you will find a right choice for yourself. Thats great you are single and enjoy the life as it comes to you. Rest God will find a better soulmate for you.
• Philippines
14 Feb 11
You're still young, and you still have a lot of time to look for that special someone. . I'm sure he's just out there, also looking, and when you finally meet each other, it would be an incredible day. Happy valentines to you too!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Feb 11
It's okay dear, all comes in the right time and you are very brave to follow your beliefs and that you give time for your self, I admire people like this.
@angel107 (307)
• Germany
14 Feb 11
Good news my dear. To those NBSBs (No boyfriend since birth) people. Most of them find their true love in the first relationship. Do not feel like a loser. Your love will come. I first fell inlove when I was 20. Happy Valentines day.
@HarryS88 (31)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 11
Don't be desperate if you have none to date with in this special day. As a man, I never had a girlfriend until I was 23 years old when I worked for the first time. At that time, when I saw my friends walking hand in hand with their girlfriends, my heart ached so much. I wanted to shout out to the Lord above that I wanted a beautiful girlfriend, but I buried my love story deep inside my heart. I just thought simply that the Lord had not yet listened to my prayers and willingness not because He didn't want to, but because my time to have a girl had not yet come. Some years later, I got a girl and got married. I thank God for this blessing. I remember what the Lord says in the Bible that He has made beautiful in its time. So, enjoy your life, keep praying, have a lot of friends, and you will never ever feel alone. Happy Valentine's day.
• United States
14 Feb 11
Your not a loser, because if you were then I would be too, its the same story with me.