My boyfriend does not want to be Catholic

Religion is really not an issue for loving and accepting someone. It should not become a hindrance to any couple who wants to live together. If he really doesn't want to convert, you should just try to accept that. If you insist on what you want, it would just become the cause of any unwanted scenes.

Hi It is said that "God is Love and Love is God". Now in your case you have to choose between God and love, if you really live him, that is. The choice is entirely yours, since you are going to spend the life with him. So weigh your pros and cons and then take a decision which you should not regret later on.

If his religion and refusal to change are a factor, maybe you shouldn't marry him. I would think that if you loved him enough, you wouldn't care what religion he is, or you would change religions. I think as long as you both believe in a God, then how you believe wouldn't be much of an issue. At least until you have children and then you might need to compromise. Compromise is a lot of what marriage is anyway.

Asking someone to change his or her beliefs for you is a very selfish thing to do. You can't believe things just because you're told to -ok, ok, I know, millions of religious people who behave like that prove me wrong, I mean, you're not supposed to do something like that, and have some personality and choose yourself-. If you can't accept that person as he is, you shouldn't marry him, as you're not going to make him happy.

To my mind religions are the various paths to pray and approach the same God. Whichever path you select you are ultimately going to reach the same destination so why should we bother which path we follow? If you are really in love with the boy don't worry which religion he follows as long as he does not object to your following of your religion. Your acceptance of marriage is more than even church accepting it.

I can feel what you feel right now. I am a Catholic, too. As a Catholic, we need to worship the Holy Trinity as opposed to any other religions. You need to influence your boyfriend to be a Catholic. What will happen if your kids are not Catholics? They will be confused on what religion they need to take in the future. Should your kids follow your religion or your husband's religion? Before that happens, you have to convince him that a husband and wife need to have the same religion, so that your kids will follow yours and everything will go very very well in the next days. Just imagine that you and your husband go to the church on Sunday morning along with your kids. What a good scene.... Hope that helps. Happy Valentine's Day.

Your faith and belief in God is a part of who and what you are, as it is to your fiance. Getting married in the Church is important. Marrying someone of a different faith or denomination will affect your marraige in some ways. I was brought up Lutheran and my husand was brough up Baptist. They were too different for either of us to change to the other. It kept us and our children out of church at all for many years. When I needed to go back to church, I went alone. I later converted to the Catholic Church and went alone for many years. Some time later, my husband also converted. So, it can work, but it also may cause underlying problems.

religion is not an issue. plus you cannot force someone to change religions or enter into one. plus its not a measure of love... i am a catholic but i am not a devotee or something..my huby is catholic and he also is not into it..i do go to church but i do not force him to go with me, we both have faith and we know where GOD is in our family and it is keeping us both strong but we do not follow all those hullabaloos of the catholic religion.

religion is case serioulsy when we decide to marry wth someone.. in my faith, we must married with same relgion.. and it must be done...

dont let religion come between your love for one another all i can honestly say (:

Just accept him what who he is, the way he accepts you who you are. No matter what your religions are, the important thing is you love and respect each other.

That's unfortunate but let always your love be stronger than social conventions.

What if he said to you that it was important to him the YOU believe whatever he and his family believe (even if it is no religion.) What if he was making you feel guilty because he wanted the whole family and his children to believe the same as him? Would you be able to just switch what you believe? Or would you go through the process of converting and lie to him your whole life together but still be Catholic in your heart? Or would you tell him, no, being Catholic is too important to you and your family, and it is part of who you are? If it is so important to you to marry a Catholic, why did you ever go out with a non-Catholic in the first place? I'm curious about that.

Maybe you could talk it out with him if you like to be wed in a Catholic church. Then, should if he want also in their own religion then you could too. That way both parties are given favors. But as to him getting to be a Catholic, please don't do that. Just respect his religious preference. What is important is that you both believe in God.

Ok Tkonlinevn, What I see here is a one-sided argument. You are Catholic and obviously a devout Catholic. Because of that you expect your future spouse to convert to being Catholic? He obviously is devout in his own faith as you are yours and is refusing. Yet he is not asking you to convert to his faith. He has accepted you as you are and you are on here asking for advice on how to change him or if you should choose a Catholic?! Why would you even date outside of your faith if you were not willing to accept the other person for who and what they are? From the sounds of your post, I don't think you should marry this man at all and not because he refuses to change. I think you should just choose a Catholic to marry.

You need to evaluate what is more important to you: the love that you feel for him or the desire to marry a person from the same religion of yours. No one can decide that for you. Does your love for him overcome the necessity for marrying a catholic? Think very well about it and good luck with your decision! ;-)