Giving advices
By staria
@staria (2780)
Philippines
35 responses
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
That is very true. I find myself in that similar situation most of the time. But i try to follow my own advices, however, there has to be more effort.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I am excellent when it comes to giving advice and am very proud when other listen and or take the advice. I think it is harder to for me take my own advice even tough it might be a similar situation as the person I had advices, simply because I think we somehow need confirmation and or affirmation.
Somehow I tend to believe it is the insecurity within me. However I find that I am very high with self esteem so it has to be a bit of insecurity.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Feb 11
By all means suny, as I am always willing to help, advice you and many others. ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@picjim (3002)
• India
15 Feb 11
Each person who is facing a problem will be able to understand his strengths and weaknesses.But due to some difficulty he may not find a solution to his problem.Those giving advise see the problem in a detached way,hence they can offer a solution.But if we are placed in a similar situation, i feel one will know immediately that it is difficult to put into practise rather than give advise.
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@MsPatriciaDV (636)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Somewhat true. Maybe because we don't trust that much in ourselves that we will give out an impartial suggestion. Or because we think we need an unbiased answer, because if we are to ask ourselves, we'll be biased.
It's like being in a labyrinth. The view of the person inside the labyrinth is different from the person who is looking at the labyrinth while riding a helicopter. Hope you got what I mean.
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@MsPatriciaDV (636)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
:)
I just thought, in times that we want an advice then when someone gives us an advice but it is contrary to what we think, we disregard it immediately. We even just listen to advices that are --- like what you said, "hear want we want to hear". If that is the case, why should we ask for an advice in the first place, right?
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@cherryzou (10)
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15 Feb 11
I agree, sometimes we can not control ourself even know how to do
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@magneto2011 (112)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
In some cases, that could be a true observation staria; it's far too easy to give an advice to others than follow it ourselves. The reason is, one can afford to be objective in assessing the problem rationally when he or she is just an outsider; when one is not directly hit by the problem itself. It is entirely different when the person owns the problem because his or her outlook is swallowed by his or her subjective preoccupation which is emotionally laden; the rational part is clouded by the onrush of the feeling of disappointment or disapproval, as the case may be. What multiplies the difficulty is the inability or unreadiness of the person to accept it. On cannot help but struggles deep within with the nagging question: Why me? This explains as to why that person has a hard time taking heed to the advice or pieces of advice given him or her. The bottom line is, it is easier to say than do it.
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@rsa101 (38115)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Because when we give advice we tend to look for the ideal solution and from that we do not know what exactly the situation is. So sometimes when we advice we give the best advice that we could think about but, of course each person has its own circumstances to deal with and our advices may just not apply on the person we give our advices as well.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
15 Feb 11
Good morning, staria! I am wondering if this is an affliction of our younger years? As now, in my more senior years...I do not, unless specifically asked--with undying attention...GIVE out advice, Good, Bad or Indifferent...as I have learned that often, the entire case is not laid out for me...so I do not have full comprehension of the situation...and could adminster some really "untoward" advice! I find it much more productive to just be a "sounding board" and by the time those seeking advice, have finished their diatribe, they have solved their own problems, just thru explaining them! Take care..and Cheers!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
2 Mar 11
Why, truly "thank you" for the best response, what a wonderful gift first thing in the morning...a truly bright star (seeing your's--great avatar) when today is predicted to be a day, fraught with Mother Nature's anger...Hurricane force winds, so that means by the time I get home from work...NO POWER, and that will last for days (so I won't be on the "Lot")as with winds that high, NO-ONE will be able to come to this small Island, as the Pacific Ocean will be nasty! OH well, get out the reading material and the knitting.
Many years ago (and I mean many)my dearest departed Father always said; "The good Lord gave you two ears, and one mouth...that is for you to listen TWICE as much as you SPEAK!" It has stood me well thru my life!![](/Content/images/emotes/niceday.gif)
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
oh, no problem w/ that!
I truly hope that you're okay given the situation there and I hope my well wishes arent too late (I think you replied days ago?) Sorry I'm not really sure, mail's being crappy nowadays. lol!
Take care my dear and see you around! ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
yes, the advice given will only be useful if it was taken by the one in need of advice. Agree, it is sometimes better to listen than to talk as they will just hear what they want to hear and in the end follow their own thoughts re the situation.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
It is true staria. But it is all depends on what kind of problems we encounter. There are problems that are so heavy and minor one. It easy to advise then to other because sometimes we experienced and encountered it already and we are just sharing what's the best solutions.
If the problem we encounter is so hard and heavy for us to bear, most likely we can't think well what is the best solution since our mind is in trouble. Especially if that problem would be the first to us.
Easier said than done if we survive and overcome the problem.
I think that's all I could share..Advices make us comfort and would give us strength..
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@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
In my case, this is somewhat true. You tell people what to do in a given situation but when you find yourself in a similar one, you tend not to follow your own advice. I feel it's easier to give a piece of advice than to practice it since you're not affected by the consequences that may follow. I mean, for example, it's easy to tell a friend to break up with her boyfriend even if you know it would hurt her since you actually wouldn't feel the pain she'll undergo. But when you're in the same situation, you might hesitate to do it because you do not want to get hurt.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
It's easier to give advice because you have a different perspective of the problem at hand and of course you being objectively evaluating the situation and there are no personal emotions involved. If the same situation happens to me with referral to the advice i gave, it seems that it would be a different story since you are the one affected and emotions seem to creep in and confusion sometimes sets in making it hard to think just right.
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@Marmot (590)
• United States
15 Feb 11
It is true, I think. When things happens to others, we are outsiders, so we are much more calm than those people facing the problem. In that way, it is more likely we can figure out a better way to the solution. However, when we facing the problem ourselves, our mind go crazy and only a few of us can remain a reasonable mind. So, giving advise is much easier than facing the problems ourselves, I think.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
That is true staria as most of us are like that. I noticed in myself sometimes that I can't apply those advises I've given because I need to have affirmation first from other people if what I will do is the right thing for me to do or if it is applicable in my situation.
Often times when we are into a dark situation we can't think clearly as our mind is cluttered with so much worries. It's easier also to give advises because we are not into the situation as we can think clearly. It's easy to say than follow those advises when we are already into it.
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@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
It's true. It is easier to give advice than to suffer the same consequences. In reality we can't do something about problems,it is natural, we just have to accept it and be positive about it. Have faith and God will do the rest.
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@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
Be positive always because there is always a reason for all the things that is happening with us along the way. As long as God is with you, no need for us to worry, just do your part and He will do the rest...God bless!!
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@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
so True! and it's even harder to follow it the more important the decision is or the more there is at stake.
Don't you think?
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
hi staria!
yes, its very true! sometimes I am also like that. I think its because when we are actually in the situation, its difficult to do what we advice because we are affected by our feelings. Unlike when we are just giving an advice, we say this and that easily because we are just using our mind and not actually affected by our own feelings... just a thought...
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@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Yes, it's true! It's easier said than done so they say. It is easier for us to give advices because we are not affected by the situation and we can give advices without our emotions involved in the situation. We are on the right mind and we can give the right thought about the matter, but if we are the ones involve, what we first do is cry and release our frustrations and do not have the ability to think things over.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
yes, staria! very true indeed!
well,it is easier to give advices cause we are really not in the situation. it's just we have to comfort someone who is in that situation and give out what we think is right and what actions to do with that situation. but then again, if we are the ones who is in the same situation, we really find it hard to deal and do the things we know right to do. we just have to keep our mindset ready and focus on things we really want to accomplish.![](/Content/images/emotes/cool.gif)
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@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Indeed, and every time i found myself advising someone i would ask myself if i get into her situation would i do what i just told her/him? haha ironic isn't it, sometimes it is easy for us to advice someone, but when it comes to our own personal life we go blank, as in i would be left asking what should i do?
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@pmccarthy1 (32)
• United States
21 Feb 11
Easier said than done, I believe the saying goes. Very true, when looking in from the outside it's always easier to tell someone how to handle a situation because we don't have to do it.
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