Why ask for suggestions?

It depends staria, some suggestions, though really good, won't work for that particular person. For myself for example, what if I wanted suggestions in taking college classes. Some will say just sign up, but I don't have the money to even take out a loan. Others will say fill out this form to see if you qualify for a pell grant, a grant that pays for classes, but I have no car. Then another says to take a bus or ride in with a neighbor, both are not accessible. Then finally someone says, take your classes online. So, until that last suggestion is made, all other ideas won't work for me. So if I ask for help and only got the first replies, I can't use any of them.

Well, I guess it's somehow looking for affirmation or justification of what you really plan on doing. It's sort of like doing an informal survey on the opinions of your friends. You weigh the pros and cons of it, then you decide. And your decision may not always be similar to what your friends had suggested. But it doesn't necessarily mean that you're repelling all their recommendations. It's possible that what they recommended doesn't fit in your intended plans.

Why not? I always ask for suggestions especially when I am torn between two sides of the decision. I ask for suggestions because there could be other options that I haven't thought of. After all the suggestions are gathered, I weigh them one by one and come up with the best recommendation and decision.

hello staria! does this situation apply to you now? oh, this topic has been posted two days ago so i guess if you have been in this situation, you now have known or have solved this kind of problem, am i right? well, anyways, can just give in my opinion anyway. there are people who are really like that. it may seem like they want to know your deep thoughts or opinions on such matters they want to be solved. or it might be they just want to fight or want to start an argument or something. no matter what it is, it's their choice. i think i have encountered people like that but if i know i can hurt their feelings, i just keep my mouth shut. unless they really want to hear my real views,i am willing to let them know that. sometimes, we really have to be open and straight forward on what we are thinking and what we want others to know for them to know where they stand and learn to value other's opinions as well.

I think some people ask for suggestions because they want to receive a certain answer that would match their points of view,and if the suggestions they receive don't correspond to their expectations,they feel disappointed and reject them.I think it's a matter of self pride,they just want to see that there are others who share their opinions.Of course,this is quite a useless activity in my opinion,but at least it isn't useless for those who give the suggestions because they earn something from them.

For underlying reasons such as: a. to have a better choice of decision; b. to be able to satisfy one's self without regretting; c. to be able to adhere to the saying, "Two or more heads are better than one"; d. to be able to go with the adage, "No man is an island"; e. to be able to open an ear for constructive suggestions; f. to be able to weigh things first and well before deciding; and more. He/she might be repelling your suggestion because he/she seem that it isnt fit for him/her. Just simply understand him/her because he/she might not be the right person yet to accept your piece of mind. Your time will come. Just wait for sure you ownt agonize in waiting. It surely pays.

Hi, staria.....Yeah, I've noticed that also. Not just lately. It's been going on all day. How you doing? Hope all is well.

I believe many people who join myLot with the intention just to earn money, they do not bother whether they really care about what other respond to their question or suggestion. And this person probably a trouble maker that like to create trouble.

LOL staria I do know someone like this and I have stopped responding to discussions as I do not need the added aggravation. It is unfortunate though as I am one who is completely open to all suggestions, always. I may not agree but I have to tell you that I do read and re-read and sometimes I have found some opposing suggestions to be very helpful. In fact one member on here in my early membership, it felt like each time the member responded I felt like it was intentional attacks, but the more I read the responses from this member, the more it made me think. To date this member and I are very close and I so respect the member as the member is very wise and caring.

In fact, this type of people has something in their mind. In order for him or her to be decisive in what they want to do, they just want to collect the positive opinions to support their plan. This type of people is very dangerous and hard to deal with. For me, I shall keep a distance away from them. ha! ha! ha! I hate to confront or to be confronted.

I always find it's helpful, when I'm asking for suggestions, to explain everything I've tried already. That way I don't look like a jerk saying "no, no, no, that didn't work," etc.

There are people who really don't care about the suggestions of other people. They will just ask about something for no reason at all or they just want to emphasize that they know something. But when they receive suggestions, they will always turn them down, and sometimes they will even make rude remark about it. We cannot change the way of thinking these people have. What we can do is that we just leave one advice and if they take or not, we leave them and never bother to give them any advice.

There are various reasons for it staria. One is, the person does not actually need the opinions given in response to the request. What he or she is after at the moment is to be able to release his or her pent up emotions (either anger, frustrations, disappointments, disbelief, among others)lingering within. Once they are released through soliciting suggestions, the same person feels relieved and is back to his or her most desired stable condition. The suggestions, in turn, don't matter or hardly matter at all.

That is very typical of people whose head are a bit hard and chooses to listen only to things she would like to listen.

Sometimes people have made their minds up, and they just want validation. Other times they really want advice, but they don't agree with the advice that they get.

This kind of people staria crazy and would not deserve to be given any suggestions of whatever his/her concerns...Leave her/him alone..Have a nice day.. Mbohmeir here..

I only ask what other people do in a given situation to get an idea on how the other thinks or what other possibilities there are. I would judge it first to decide if I want to follow or invent something on my own.

I never ask suggestions for my personal things with anyone instead I will ask for my official things..

Asking for suggestion and then do something different are parts of human behaviour. Most at times, this findings are noticeable in private company where the head is a dictator.