Oh no,don't touch me!
By dreamertink
@dfollin (25351)
United States
February 16, 2011 8:44am CST
I remember in the '80's I said that I did not want my kids in public school.My oldest son went to a christian school for kindergarten and due to some medical issues I had I could no longer pay for it.So,he had to go to public school for first grade.And I remember the teacher calling me asking me to come in for a conference,told me that it was very important about my son's behavior.I rushed down there and the teacher said that my 6 year old son had touched another child inappropiatly! I looked at my son and asked him what happened and he said that he had put his arm around his friend and touched his shoulder,saying hello.I looked at the teacher and she confirmed that's what happened.I started laughing
and I said to her,"You panicked me and called me all the way down here for this?"
I have always homeschooled my daughter,but this year she wanted to spend 8th grade in a public school.One day in the hallway she saw a friend(female)from our church and they smiled and hugged each other,like we always do.The principal was in the hall and stopped my daughter and got mad at her for inappropiatly touching someone,.
But,in FLE(Family Life Education/Health in my day and I am only 49) that teach homosexuality.In some high schools they give out condems to the students and as I had a previous discussions about an elementary school would celebrate Valentines Day! Huh?
and I said to her,"You panicked me and called me all the way down here for this?"
I have always homeschooled my daughter,but this year she wanted to spend 8th grade in a public school.One day in the hallway she saw a friend(female)from our church and they smiled and hugged each other,like we always do.The principal was in the hall and stopped my daughter and got mad at her for inappropiatly touching someone,.
But,in FLE(Family Life Education/Health in my day and I am only 49) that teach homosexuality.In some high schools they give out condems to the students and as I had a previous discussions about an elementary school would celebrate Valentines Day! Huh?3 people like this
8 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Problem is because of abuse in the school system, they went way overboard to prevent it from happening. Yet it isn't good. What I want to know is, has a girl ever gotten into trouble for hugging or kissing a boy? (light friendly kissing, not smooch kissing, like a peck on the cheek or blowing a kiss) I don't know, but it is outrageous that some boys get into trouble over just kid stuff.. An adult should be able to discern the difference, but obviously not, so any kind of friendly touching is off limits..This is one of many reasons why I want to home-school my son, but my husband is against it. Are you able to home school? In my state there is a program where it cost next to nothing to home school your child.
@dfollin (25351)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Yes,my oldest son that went to public school got into trouble because a friend of his ( that no longer went to that school) girlfriend was having a bad day and she went up to him put the front of her head on his shoulder and said that she was having an awful day,he patted her on the back of her neck and told her that it was going to be alright then a teacher grabbed him by his arm and yanked him to the principal's office.
I always had homeschooled my daughter till some people started saying that it would be better for her to go to public school.She shut down and refused to do her work.And then against my advisement she wanted to go to public school.But,in this state the children can make their own choice when they turn 13 and there is nothing I can do about it.
I always had homeschooled my daughter till some people started saying that it would be better for her to go to public school.She shut down and refused to do her work.And then against my advisement she wanted to go to public school.But,in this state the children can make their own choice when they turn 13 and there is nothing I can do about it.1 person likes this
@dfollin (25351)
• United States
20 Feb 11
She is doing great socially and getting some improvement academically.But,when she was homeschooling and doing her work she didn't have as high of standards as public schools require and they are requiring her to learn a lot of stuff that she doesn't need to know because she is not going to be a rocket scientist or something like that.She has no electives and expect her to stay after school for the after school classes they have plus homework.Public school requirements are so crazy.This semester they added another math class for my daughter and a LOT of other students cannot keep up or understand and this class takes them back to the previous year's math studies.
She is now so tired that she cannot keep up with bowling league that she enjoys a lot.
that she enjoys a lot.1 person likes this
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Wow, that stinks..So how is your daughter doing? Both academically and socially?
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@juneebubby (79)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Wow I cannot believe how people misinterpret things. It was just a simple hug. I mean like how can anyone not see that it was just a simple hug? Are they blind or something? They shouldn't put too much meaning in the kids' gestures because it might just affect the children negatively. They should just let it go, I mean it wasn't like anybody harassed anyone. What is wrong with these people? You are a nice woman and nobody should treat your kids like this.
@dfollin (25351)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Thank you
But,they said if a simple hug is allowed they will have to allow other kinds of "touching".
But,they said if a simple hug is allowed they will have to allow other kinds of "touching".
@curtangel (108)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I think the problem is that there have been problems with kids getting sexually harassed and bothered at school and instead of dealing with those problems when they come up, they don't allow any kind of "romantic" touching out of a sense of "fairness". Its silly, and wouldn't stop the kind of boy who would grab a girl who didn't want to be touched.
@curtangel (108)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I remember hearing even when I was a teen about it happening between peers - there's a fine line between flirting and inappropriate touching at that age. If a boy is grabbing onto a girl and she's laughing and saying no, should a teacher interfere or not? Having absolute rules makes it so they don't have to make those judgement calls.
And for some reason, they do it for all ages, which is ridiculous. We're raising a generation of touch-starved children.
@dependability (24)
• United States
16 Feb 11
It is a sad reality that does not make sense to me. "Touchy Subject" lol That is exactly why I chose to homeschool when my children were younger. Great topic of discussion
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@dfollin (25351)
• United States
20 Feb 11
I homeschooled my daughter till this past October.Then she chose to attend public school against my wishes.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Your life is a creamy cake caught up in maggots. Why are people treating you this way? You are a wonderful woman to be too caught up in junk. I have never seen this much hatred before. It is very sad that people are mean. Nothing is wrong with a person touching or hugging. What is their problem? Your son and daughter are not being gay.
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@dfollin (25351)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Thank you,I don't know why I seem to have a dark cloud that follows me.It is public school rules,but they condone being gay.
It is public school rules,but they condone being gay.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Things are in a sad state when it comes to things like this. I don't agree w/alot of things that goes on nowadays.
