Was going to meet a guy from online until I googled his name
@shaggin (72021)
United States
February 16, 2011 9:00pm CST
Wow what a wonderful thing google is to be able to put it someones name and the place they live and find things out about them. When I googled my married name it brings up some sites that I do paid to earn stuff which isnt a big deal at all. But I'm going to go through and edit the stuff on those sites so when I google my name that stuff wont come up on a search. What does show is when I was in the newspaper for the birth of my daughter.
Anyway to get to the point of my discussion I was going to meet someone at Dunkin donuts tomorrow. I started talking to him through the adult friend finder website. Obviously if I am looking for someone who I will fall in love with and be with for the rest of my life I am on the wrong site. I went on that site just to check it out and for fun. Dunkin Donuts is a safe meeting place. I decided to look up on google the guys name and town. I found two articles about him being arrested and being in jail for three weeks for stalking and harrassment charges of his ex girlfriend which is the mother of his kids.
I will make sure to tell him that I wont be meeting him after googling his name and not liking what I found. Granted he honestly could be a nice guy who got in fights with his ex over custody issues but I dont want to take any chances. I think after this I am done on the adult friend finder site. He is 42 and pretty darn hot so I'm sad things arent going to work out. Oh well live and learn lol.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Right!!! I do think it is wonderful that we have these tools to use to find out about people before we meet them these days. It's also a good tool to use to find out about new neighbors to see if you have a serial killer or whatever next door or just to know if you have something to worry about now where you may not have ever had to worry before.
It's a good idea to check them out now.
My daughter found out that a child molester/rapists had moved in just 2 doors down and she has 2 girls and 5 boys it was useful info for her to inform the children to beware.
I think you did the right thing!
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@shaggin (72021)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Thats exactly right. Better to be safe then sorry. I could have just figured well maybe the article was just full of lies and hes really a nice guy but instead I am choosing to not meet him based on the article possibly being true. I dont want to be around anyone whose been in jail. Its to bad if he really is a nice guy. When we chatted he was so nice but people can be deceiving.
@shaggin (72021)
• United States
22 Feb 11
It could have been so much fun though. He was 42 and had a great body and was pretty good looking. Finding that in my town will never happen lol so I guess I will never get to hook up with guys like that. I wonder when I'm 70 if I will still like guys who are older then me lol that would be like really weird. I had told my friend that I was going to meet this guy and he was like thats just crazy hes almost twice your age. Oh well I like older guys I just dont like strangers with bad track records.
@GardenGerty (160491)
• United States
17 Feb 11
It is good to find out in advance about things like that. When I met my husband it was through a Country Singles newspaper. I did not know enough about internet, and the options were not available that there are now. It does not matter, I did okay, but I got lucky. I understand you not wanting to date a guy who has a jail record. If nothing else it would mean that there are still issues with the ex. I am concerned though, that he may get mad and stalk you, since you are canceling on him.
There are good ways to meet people, but it seems this was just for fun.
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@shaggin (72021)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Well he doesnt know my last name and he doesnt know the exact town I live in so it would be harder for him to find me. He probably has enough going on in his own life that he wont be bothering me. When I've chatted with him he sounds like a really great guy but I dont want to take my chances. He was a pretty hot older guy like I've been wanting lol.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
17 Feb 11
Why don't you try to get to know people in here from your area instead? I mean those with sufficient post as well, then you can tell the character of the person from his posts. So new members don't count since they would read this and play smart to deceive you if they want to. And don't worry, I don't qualify. LOL.
Then again, to meet in public, yea, better be safe than sorry even though there are many people with the same names. Go, girl. Hope you find a good guy.
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@shaggin (72021)
• United States
17 Feb 11
That is a good idea actually. I know no one in my town is active on here. I dont know about from other areas. I worry that even on here people will lie to make themselves look better. I am not like that but it seems the way most people are. You have a very interesting idea though since I coud get to know them better by reading what they write.
@shaggin (72021)
• United States
19 Feb 11
Yep! He is really good looking and if I hadent read that about him I would have met him at dunkin donuts. I wouldnt have gone to his house or my house especially without getting a feel of what hes like in person. Its hard to tell online what someone is really like but in person I can judge someones character pretty well.
