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Maybe she is so indispensable that she it's so hard to replace her. Maybe she knows almost all aspects of the job, that replacing her would jeopardize the company as a whole. Or maybe the office manager is afraid because she is a very close relative of the owner or one of the owners herself ?

I've wondered the same thing. What does this woman have on them that they aren't willing to do anything? I sometimes think they just don't want to go through replacing her and training someone new. Laziness on the part of the office manager.

I agree with everything you've said. I've come to the conclusion that you just can't make some people happy. I believe her home life is so miserable she gets her joy from seeing other people just as miserable. I have tried to buddy with her just as you said, but it never lasts for long. I can't get onboard and gossip and talk about the other ladies in the office the way she wants. We are a very small office and close knit for the most part. I care for the people I work with and I'm just not willing to be a part of the back biting and lies. I guess I make it harder on myself by openly saying, I'm not going to have this discussion which in turn puts the target on me. I'm still hoping things will be handled by the office manager for better of the office. I'm always the first one to say if you don't like the way things are find another job. That is so easy to say yet so hard to do. Especially when you have so much time invested.

Yep! I think we KNOW the same woman...lol. I NEVER wanted to leave where I was working, but this woman made my life a living nightmare! I tried to "swallow my pride" and asked her out on several occasions for lunch and she would accept, but then the day of the lunch "date" she would turn me down and run me down to everyone that would listen to her. As far as senority went I had the senority, but she kissed up to the bosses to where they turned a blind eye to the evil little being that she really was. I felt that most of her anger and resentment was directed at me, but was helpless to have anything done about it. In fact she told so many point blank lies to the big boss that I was constantly called on the carpet and pretty much told that if things didn't stop they would have to let me go. There was a huge blow up one morning and I picked up my keys, told her that if she wanted my job THAT bad then she could have it, I was done with her tirades! I left the building and came home and my boss would only accept a resignation on my part. This woman was constantly in tears because this or that was going on in her home life....but most of it SHE started! Her oldest son and his wife FORBADE her to be around their child because of the way she is. It was just ALWAYS something with her. So....I feel what you're going through. It's not easy to bite your tongue and go on especially when you'd really like something to be done about the situation and nothing ever gets done.

I work in a doctors' office and there are only 7 of us. We've all at some time or another complained about this lady, the doctors and the office manager say the same thing so I'm really confused as to why this is still happening. Such a damaging situation on so many levels. I'm glad it worked out for you and am still holding onto hope that something good will come of this.

Sometimes, I wonder if they are trying to make the employee's fight for position by causing conflict to see if they can handle it. Or if they do the things they are blaming others for and passing the blame so they are not noticed. I just used to wonder that because there really is no reason for that kind of behavior...