How often do you quarrel with your lover?

Arguing and quarreling are part of being in a relationship. You can never really say you've been in a real relationship if you've never experience this two. Me and my girlfriend always quarrel a lot but we see to it that at the end of the day we've come to some agreement and always try to listen to each ones' opinion. Although sometimes it's really hard to listen and understand her and she's just getting into my nerves that I'd rather listen to some rock music than to listen her nagging.. :)

I don't like quarrels but it's inevitable in a relationsjip or marriage. Arguments allows two parties to understand each other better and to learn from their mistakes. I can't imagine what's going to happen if there's no argument in a relationship. By keeping quiet or having cold war, the other party won't know what they have done wrong, and if they do it again, it's cold war again? How many cold wars can a relationship take?

Oldsix691418, A Spanish proverb once said: “It takes two to quarrel, but only one to end it.” In the first place, quarrels are inevitable in any relationship as all of us have our differences at some point of time. As long as we have another person in our life, be it a friend, co worker or even spouse, we will have our fair share of verbal exchanges. Call it learning, adapting or understanding one another, it does not really matter other than how we go about settling our differences and make up. While it is important that we should consider the other party's feelings, let's not forget that quarreling is not at all damnable. For it is handled correctly, it will reap benefits to the relationship and all parties concern. As for my living rule about dispute which has worked for me to this very day is: “Be not the first one to quarrel, nor the last to make up.” Take care and have a nice day ahead.

My husband and I do try not to fight, or at least fight as little as possible. It's not something that we like doing. We just don't like being angry with each other, which is why we try to do it as little as possible.

Always everyday. I hate it. Seems like he is having his opinion every now and then. And we broke up then. It seem relieve since the break up. I am still single now and hopefully I will meet my destiny soon.

When me and my husband was still boyfriend/girlfriend, we quarreled almost everyday and it remained the same when we got married seven years ago. Im so sad knowing that our relationship didn't grow and its almost like that thru the years. Quarrels been a regular mainstay in our relationship as a couple. Right now that we're into 8 years of marriage, im just glad that it stopped, we never quarreled anymore and its just so pleasing and light to my mind knowing that im never fighting with someone whom I should call partner for life. Its just turned out that way, hope it will be till the end already, LOL! Have a nice day ahead!

Yes Oldsix691418 quarreling kills the even most beautiful love. The quarrels just freeze love. The quarrels always damage the most weaker member, and if there is not enough love to repair the damage... the open hole lets the love scape through. I try to be patience with my huby shortcomings. And when I´m very anger, he doesn´t loose his temper. That´s why we have 13 years together. Blessings!... Dainy

I can honestly say that I never quarrel with my lover. It is simple. I don't have one!So I cannot quarrel. I go eat where I want, I only have to put up with my own shortcomings, and I don't have to worry about which family I will spend holidays with! lol!

Oh, that is so kind of you. It only shows that you respect and love your wife and your family so dearly. During the last two years, hubby and I argued a lot about a lot of things. May be it was because of the trust issues between us and my growing resentment to him and his misbehaviors. The relationship was on a shaky ground. I even attempted of leaving him for good but for the sake of the kids, I decided to stay at the end. At the end,I get tired and perhaps ,he, too. Nowadays, we hardly quarrel. I can not say that the issues between us has been resolved but none of us wants to talk about it. We are trying to be decent and civilize with each other. Somehow, we learned how to ignore each others shortcomings. As for me, I still sometimes feel the resentment towards him(long story)but I am doing my best not to voice it out any more because doing so is just useless.

hello friend! Nice to know that you never quarreled with your wife.your wife is so much lucky.i do quarrel with my lover.he is also my friend that is why we do it so much i think twice a weak at least.but we love each other so much.he said that with out quarrel our relationship will be very boring.i do not think that.sometimes for this love is going down and i do not want it. thanks a lot.

Very often i do quarrel with my lover. I am unmarried so i do quarrel with my lover. I do quarrel as my lover is my friend also.So when we maintain our friendship relation then we quarrel very much you can say once a week at least. And very rare i do quarrel when we main lover relation.

I can say that I have never quarreled with my exes.We had petty misunderstandings but that's about it.Im not the confrontational type that is the reason why didn't have any quarrels...Even my breakups with them didn't end up in quarrels.

I really had very idealistic views on this. Later on, the sad thing i found out was that my wife never intended for this to happen. She just wanted to act like the center of attention, and does not care about this relationship getting hurt. So, everything went down the drain. Patience do run out.

I and my GF always have quarrel over some trust issue... we are in the different university and only meet one a month. She afraid that i might be cheating on her but i've never done that. She also admitted that the whole cheating thing is just her imagination...what the .... The problem is I try to talk it out with her but everytime she would just be silent and when she cooled down everything will be normal again. It's not good coz we never talk about the problem seriously. I will break up with her. Cant take it anymore...

I commend you for the fact, that you have recognized that you have shortcomings! And truly hope that you will learn to deal with them, as so often "in the heat of an argument" cruel and mean things, are said that are NOT true. When I see a mature person in a fit of rage...I always think of a small child, spoiled rotten, having a temper tantrum! I truly hope, that you will take "time to smell the roses" before you unleash words...that you will forever be sorry for. Take care..and Cheers!

Hubby and I usually have at least a little quarrel every day. :) We're both naturally argumentative and like arguing, so we usually find something stupid during the day to argue about. It reminds me of Dr. Cox on Scrubs...lol. They're not really arguments since neither of us are mad when we quarrel, we just enjoy messing around like that. On the bright side, it means that we never really have large arguments or anything because we get it out of our system daily. I think some amount of fighting is healthy in a relationship. Obviously not yelling, screaming, whatever, but just disagreeing and having disagreements about things is natural and happens with everyone. I can't imagine any couple that hasn't had a disagreement and argued about it at some point. I mean, you can argue without raising your voices and getting rude about it, but it's still arguing just the same.

Quarreling doesn't always have to be done in a mean spirited way. Some lovers quarrel to keep that spark and fire alive. it doesn't mean that they don't care for each other. Quarreling can often lead to the bedroom and isn't that where lovers want to be?

On the average, we almost quarrel everyday. But of different reasons. Some are just sweet quarrels like we just want to get cuddled. LOL. But I think it's normal in every relationship. I'm just wondering, you never quarreled with your wife? That's amazing.

Daily we will put some fights and came to cool state after one hour.. She is gr8...