nice warm feeling

Hm, there is that possibility...

You could've said, "Yeah, my kids are my life." The guy is in denial (still) and his question isn't worth answering. Also, you could've said, "No, but it DOES give me a warm, fuzzy feeling inside knowing that I'll be shut of you VERY SOON!" Or is that one going a bit too far..possibly..possibly not!

Dear Miss marguicha, Miss "But I can´t accept this "I´m not the one who broke the eggs" routine" Allow me to share with you some of my story, the details can be corroborated on my website. You can think of me and men what you want, but not all men are jerks. It started with being a witness to an accident, I am a truck driver and I needed to make a turn through an intersection where my next turn would be into the work company driveway where I was based out of using a truck labeled from our parent company two towns away. I was accused of the profanity that another person spoke by a detective that nearly ran me over while I was trying to keep the scene safe from some motorist that was mouthing off at me for the second time in two weeks. (I wasn't allowed to speak of that in District Court to get the case dismissed) In fact in District Court I wasn't allowed to speak to any point because the judge sustained an objection from the detective the man bringing the charges against me. The judge later apologized to find me guilty and appealed to me three times to appeal my case to County Court and to bring a lawyer with me. I found out the lying detective had been reprimanded with a written reprimand placed into a court file in another unrelated case. In County Court the Court Judge walked into the Court Room with a novel to read he carried the novel in his right hand the novel was wrapped up in blue construction paper so the title of the novel could not be read. The judge proceeded to read the novel during testimony of my court case. This can be verified through the court transcript. Ten days after County Court the Church and my wife got together and had me involuntarily committed based on more fabricated information. I spent 14 days in a psyche ward pumped up with five different medications and another 13 weeks out of work. I have proof that people lied and people were going to lie again to accuse me of things that I did not do. Do you want more details? Why am I so hated? Check out my reports about my Grandmother. I'll give you over a million reasons why the next of kin should be involuntarily committed!

You know the sad part about this is I was totally naive about the whole process. I made similar comments to my wife to be ex. and I was sincerely trying to open a door, instead I was blasted with harassing her and I never meant to be harassing in any way. I was blindsided, and she was coached to hate me. That is why your conversation hurts so much. It is one thing to be hated, it is another when the hatred has been encouraged.

Excuse me for interfering. I had a very good marriage for almost 40 yesrs and I´m a woman. And I want to ask: What door did you want to open, GreatWhiteBuffalo? Didn´t you have it open for the lenght of your marriage? A divorce is and end, doors that have been closing for a long time and when the word "divorce" is on the table, the door is CLOSED. So any endearing word is, to a woman, just as if you were walking in the street and some unknown S*B grabbed you. Worse still, because he should know better. THERE!!! I´m sorry if I interfered. But I can´t accept this "I´m not the one who broke the eggs" routine.

Fortune cookies lol

Yeah, no kidding about coming up with stuff too late. I bet if I said to him, "you had a chance a year ago to get into anger management, and you chose not to", he'd offer too, and it's way too late now.

I don't think he would actually go unless I guaranteed that I would stay. (too cheap lol)

You sound exactly like I did with my ex, dawnald. He even went so far as to GO to anger management after I had left, letting me know about it, of course, because he wanted me to come back. When he told me that, after only going to two therapy sessions, he was "cured" of his anger problem and I did not believe him, of course his anger "came back" in all it's glory when I would not come back. They are sad, lonely little people but they do it to themselves. Good luck and stay strong!

Or perhaps I should encourage him to start looking!

Yeah he's very good at it. Usually I can tell when something "feels" wrong, but it takes my longer to analyze why....

Make me feel guilty? Oh no, that is the last thing he wants. lol He says he doesn't, actually, but he is a master at guilt...

Thanks. I'm hoping every goes as smoothly as it can for you. Hang in there.

I think you have probably nailed it exactly.

I don't think it's sarcasm. I think he's telling me what he would want to hear...

DSM? I think he's still convinced that this is the wrong decision for me, and is letting me know the door is still open. Also he's delusional.

DSM(might have the initials mixed up) is the shortened version of the handbook that has all the psychiatrists syndromes and such in. Like my favorite: multiple personality.

Are you sure we aren't talking about the same guy?

I wish I had told him more when it was true, but it's not true any more. :-(

That's the whole point here sweetie. That one seem to live on another planet or something.

I know Dawny.

For now, but not forever...

God blessings are with you always. Have a long life.

The decision is made, the divorce is already in process. It's just the living arrangements that need to be worked out.

I wish you the best of luck, my friend. And keep in touch, you hear? I give you Robert Frost, who said, "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference."

More the second one, I think.

Maybe. But he didn't get a reaction...

I do have a fair number of past discussions documenting his blow ups. I know people who have been through much worse, but I've had enough.

Hopefully...

Well when he's feeling bad he does. Mostly I think he's just still trying to fix things in his own weird way.

Don't know, don't care. lol