Another Friend w/CANCER

I certainly would've called him. Might even go over, even if his wife is around.

Yes, I certainly would have called him. He is your friend. No matter what happened between his wife and you, he is your friend. You did right to call him. I will also put him in my prayers. I sure hope he gets better with all they can do these days. Just hang in there and when you call him again, if you do. Let him know if you feel up to it that you are there to help if he needs it. That may make him feel better to. hugs...

It sounds as if you did the correct thing. I agree that we are hearing about more and more cases of cancer. Last week, we met a man that we had not seen in 20 or 30 years and was told that he has cancer in more than one organ. It is stage 4. Not good, but he is still up and around and comes to the senior center for his noon meal most days. He even stays and plays cards with some of the other seniors. This week, our across the street neighbor told us that another neighbor, who lives 2 doors down, has lung cancer. One of her daughters told the neighbor who told us. She also said that the neighbor doesn't want anyone to know about the cancer. To compound our problem, the lady with cancer is from Japan. She married a US serviceman and has lived in the US for many years, probably more than 40, possibly as many as 50, as she is getting close to 80 years old. Her children and grandchildren were all born here. We have been friendly neighbors for around 35 years, but I've never been inside her house. I don't know how to handle the situation, as I'm not supposed to know.

I am glad you called him. He was glad to hear from you. Cancer is an ugly disease. I have heard from my good friend that her younger sister is dying of cancer. She was just recently given two months to live. My friend just lost her own son to the same thing about a year ago. How horrific is that?

I was not wrong. Neighbors are very important in our life. They're even more important than our far relatives. So, making a close relationship and caring him is well.

That is awful. Hopefully he will be able to get rid of it. I will pray for him. I feel that nothing is wrong with you calling him. If you feel comfortable to call him that is all that matters. I bet he really appreciated it. You sound like a very sweet person.

I think it was nice that you called him. I just hope that his wife will get over her problem and you could all be friends agaain. As for the cancer, medical technologies have made such advancements that they are finding more things now then they could 50 years ago. Another thing that I think makes cancer so prevelant now is we have so much more "artificial additives and perservatives" in our food then we did 50 years ago. They can't be good for our bodies. Also the way we cook, so much stuff is done in a microwave now days. I personally think all of these lead to cancer and that is why its more prevelant now days. My prayers to your neighbor. How is your daughter n law?

He is your friend and you should be able to call him. Goodness, between you and the neighbor lady one of you has to be an adult, and it looks like you are the one. She needs to get over it. I have heard it said that if we live long enough we will all have cancer and diabetes.

You were not wrong. Even if his wife won't play nice, he's still your friend (from probably before he even got married, I'm guessing). I'm sure he knows about the tiff, so your concern probably means even more to him.

I think you did the right thing...I would have called and p*ss on her....and I will include Joe in my prayers....everyone needs prayers once in a while!

I think it would have been wrong not to call even though his wife is being childish right now. Especially if at some point down the road you and the wife patch things up, you'd be really upset that you didn't offer your support during this difficult time.

you are such a great friend and neighbor. i would have been afraid of his wife answering and cussing me out. ive had that happen even when my intentions were good. but you are so nice and brave. i will put him in my prayers along with your dil. hugs, bon

You were right to call him. If his wife is being foolish then that is her business but as a friend and neighbour you did the right thing. Look at how long you have known him? I am sure that your call made him so very happy. He is probably feeling awful and has trouble accepting the news but if it was caught early then he has a chance of full recovery. My prayer group will pray for him too.I wish him a full and speedy recovery to full health.

You did the right thing! I would have called him too, regardless of the relationship that I had with the wife. At a time like this most people would love to know that prays are being said for them and that someone cares. I will definitely pray for Joe.

never hurts to call anyone to say how sorry to hear that they have cancer and to say if ya need help I am here for you and wife! n matter wht add and wife!

for me it seems like everyone knows someone with altzheimers including my father in law. that seems to be the thing that is out there too much. i think it was alright that you called them. whats the big deal? you just wanted to wish him well.

OH, JO...my goodness, such another burden. I truly, truly believe that your did the right thing by calling...not only for them, but for yourself,too! Such terrible news, so I am sure that they need all the kindness & support that you can give. It truly was big of you, to let by-gones be by-gones, bite the bullet and share your kind thoughts. You are a treasure and a trooper! LUV & HUGZ!

Cancer is a common problem nowadays...for me it is as common as cold and a flu but sadly, it cannot be treated as easily as cold and flu. For every circle of friends I have, there is always someone with cancer. I think it is our fault too why it is a very common case. Our environment is too much polluted that our body can't control the toxins anymore. It is always sad hearing someone with cancer especially when he is someone dear to us. The best we can do for them is to offer them prayers or assist them financially in their chemotherapy and to keep them happy always.

That's terrible. I don't think you were wrong to call at all. He probably needs all the support he can get. As far as his wife...maybe it is your extension of concern that will make her see how silly she is being.

I would have done the same. Glad you called and put him on prayer list. Hope he gets cured. Take care.