How would you feel about a neighbor walking through your yard without speaking?

@cream97 (29086)
United States
March 4, 2011 1:40pm CST
I have had this problem for four months now. The neighbors and people that live around this mobile home park, are like this. They will walk, and drive through my front yard. This happens a lot. Some of the times, I can't see them doing this. When I do see them doing this, I am standing to my front door. When I watch and wait for my kids bus to come in the mornings or during the afternoons, people will walk right through my yard. They will look directly at me, and they won't speak. They will look at me, then look away, then look right back at me. It is like almost to say, "Yes, I am walking or driving through your yard, and what are you going to do about it". I don't say anything to them. My expression does not change to pure dislike or to hatred either. I am renting this place with my husband and our three kids. A young girl strolling her baby in a stroller did this to me yesterday, she looked directly at me and she just kept on staring. She did not speak or smile. And the annoying neighbor of mines, his kids does it too. I don't say anything to them either. My daughter told her and her brother "hello" yesterday and they did not even speak. They both were sitting on their bikes in our front yard, just watching us. I don't understand them. These people around here act strange! I feel that it is very impolite to just walk through a person's yard and not speak, sometimes. I can even tell when someone drives their car through our yard at night. I can see the car passing my front room window. Why do you think they are doing this? And why don't they speak or smile? I could never just walk or drive through another neighbors yard without speaking or smiling. I wished that we had three big cars in our yard. Maybe then, it would be very difficult for anyone to at least drive through it. They would have to be that desperate to squeeze through my yard by walking too. I may have a decent sized front yard, but it is not that big. We have a long ditch that is in our front yard.
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18 responses
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
For me it is not good so be good to it so that as long as you are happy.
@xtank425 (10)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
That really is rude. very rude. no one's supposed to just walk right through someone else's yard without speaking. I mean, what is this world growing to, anyway? That mere act of barging right through someone's yard is already something bad. It's like he's saying "I don't care if this is your yard. This is mine, and I don't care about what you say about it!" What are they? Nomads? Cavemen? The only thing I can suggest, if you'd let me lay down my suggestion, that is, is to get a dog. Preferably an attack dog, if a guard dog won't work. If it still won't work, or if you can't afford one, at least have a wall or fence built around your yard. If someone asks, that's your front yard. It shouldn't be treated by your neighbors as an alternative for the Central Park or some public place. It's your property and it's a part of your house, and you have the right to defend it.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
4 Mar 11
That is totally rude to not even acknowledge you.. And they just stare? Unfortunately the term "be polite" is losing its power and that's sad. Even my stuck up neighbor won't go through our yard without saying something, going through her yard, yes she will ignore me, but not in my yard...
@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Mar 11
It seems to be their way. I would ignore it and be glad it isn't worse. Try to polite and nice and if they don't resipricate then what more can you do? You aren't ignoring them, you aren't being rude, so do the best you can. Maybe they are hiding something. Maybe there is more than meets the eye.
• China
27 Mar 11
I feel so bad when some of my neighbor walking through my yard without speaking. But later i try to find out the reason why my neighbor do this.May be they don't like me or may be they were so busy. If they don't like me then i just ignore them and never look at them because i will feel bad if i do look at them. Have a good time!
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
27 Mar 11
Hi. dreamsharmin. I do the same thing too. Since they don't speak, I don't make it a habit to look at them either. Why even bother?
• China
29 Mar 11
Yes exactly why we even bother. Just cheers in life.
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@margeryann (1845)
• United States
5 Mar 11
That would be strange. It would make me feel that they have a bad attitude. That is real bad that they don't say hi after they are told hi. It would definitely be awkward.
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• United States
6 Mar 11
some people are just plain rude. i caught a neighbor letting her dog poop in my yard,and i was furious. i told her "the park's down the street!" and slammed the door. manners seem to mean nothing anymore.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
5 Mar 11
I live in a Mobile Home/RV Park in South Texas USA. The Park has rules that disallow anyone from walking through their neighbors property. Some people who live in the center of the park do walk through between houses because its much longer to go around. These people are on friendly terms with their neighbors so nothing is said or done about breaking this rule. This is a very friendly park and we all get along very well!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Mar 11
hi cream third time I lost my response. I would ask my landlord for some sort of fencing around your front and back yard as you ha ve no privacy at all this way. I would also tell him about these odd people trespassing on private property. they have no right cutting through your yard at all. It would also worry me too.Also I would really let these people know that they are trespassing too. good luck and God bless.
• India
5 Mar 11
Hello my friend cream97 Ji, Well, I consider as a changing pattern in society, people do not have any belongingness, even in my case I am not living in any park etc. biut early morning when I open my gate to pluck some flowers from myn garden or picking news paper etc. my neighbour will lookm at me and never respond to my Good-morniong repeatedly. So it is across Atlantic as well. We hagve to sallow it. But by the way so called your area, has it bneen defined in leagal terms, then I would suggest to get it enclosed in order to make transpassing by unknowns. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
5 Mar 11
I would try not to tak it to heart if my neighbor did not speak to me. I would consider that my neighbor might have something bothering them. i may even seekout my neighbor to see if there is something i can help with. sometimes, we just have those days though when we just want to be left alone.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
8 Mar 11
People are just strange. Never mind cultural differences, but some are just brought up 'differently'. I too would consider it rude if somebody just walk through my premises without acknowledging my presence if I am standing there. Even if you're just renting, it would still be tactful if you said hi, or hello. Or even sorry for passing thru.
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@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 11
I feel its rude especially when you greeting first. I don't know the matters there but here we know each others and try to polite to one another because when we in need they were the first one who helping us. Maybe the best solution you come to their house and introduce yourself. We usually making small party when moving and invite our neighbor so we know them. And every one will try to be nice because you already feeding them .
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4 Mar 11
i guees that they are a little bit antisocial and theres always the chance that they dont consider passing though your yard unpolite ( but it is ) so why dont you try to say hi to them maybe they are good persons or maybe they wont do it again
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Hi. volvere. Welcome to myLot! I have spoken to a couple of them once. A guy and a girl once. They don't speak anymore though. And the neighbors kids, did not speak to my daughter yesterday when she spoke to them. I don't think that they are that antisocial if they can just deliberately walk through my front yard without even a simple hello or a polite smile.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
4 Mar 11
that sounds terrible. if i were you, id ask my landlord for the same question. ask him why everyone just goes through your yard and wont even speak. tell him it makes you afraid of leaving your kids out any. since you dont know why they do this or what kind of people they are since they act so strange
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Fortunately, people around here doens't seem to do that. In the summer, people walk their dog, I have seen the owner let them pee or poop on the edge of my yard, aslong as they pick it up, it doens't bother me, pee is fine, all dogs pee on the street.
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• United States
4 Mar 11
It is my opinion that when you enter a room or area the person entering should always acknowledge their presence. In my culture we consider the person to be rude and uneducated if not done. It would not cost the person a nickel to say Hi, at least. I would feel disrespected if it was a constant occurrence. Does he shows signs of being odd while walking through? If not then someone who is rude and does not care for other's privacy would be my opinion. It is like an invasion of your privacy.
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• United States
4 Mar 11
Some people are so rude. Stay on your own property and off your yard geez. People sometimes are weird.
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