How Did You Select The Name Your Child/Children ?
By AKRao24
@AKRao24 (27424)
India
March 4, 2011 1:45pm CST
There are many ways people they select the names of their children.In India many people name their children according to their horoscope! The Priests give a letter with which the name is suppose to begin with! Some people simply name their Kids after some of their favorite people in the Society.Many of my cousins have names of Indian Freedom fighters, as these people people were born when India received its Independence from the Britishers!
For me I wanted to have my only son's name to start with the same letter of my late Grand mother whom we all loved very much! Just as a mark of respect I wanted to name my son so! For that practically I have referred many books and many dictionaries and at the end I settled for a name which was neither too common nor too unique with some good meaning! Si I settled for 'Mayank' which means the 'Moon' as I want his name to begin with the letter M!
What is your story? You had anything like this while naming your child/children? Please share your story! Thanks !
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15 responses
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Well the names at my side of the family usually starts with R.
Don't ask me I just don't know what is so special with that letter.
So that is the first consideration.
My son's name was based on the names of his 3 grandfathers.
Rufino, Federico and Ted.
I took out the last letters of Rufino and Federico.
So he's name is Rufin Federi.
Since a third name might be too long for him to write in school.
I just nicknamed him Tedi.
It is more of a gratitude for our fathers.
If not for them, two people would not have the opportunity to be in this world and something as special as my son couldn't have been born.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
11 Mar 11
Hi Dear Sweet Pea! Yes, I can understand, some families want their names to be started with a particular letter! May be they feel lucky about it or there could be some other belief behind naming with that particular letter! So I think your fore fathers must have been comfortable with the letter 'R'. I am happy that you are still giving respect to this decision of theirs and you have this letter as the first consideration while naming your children!
I am really happy to know that in the fond memories of the three grand fathers you have named your son which is starting with the letter 'R'. I appreciate your practicality in naming the child, so that the name shouldn't be too long to write in school! Tedi is cute little sweet pet or nick name! And again that has been named after one of the grand fathers!
Yes you are definitely right, I also have the same feeling towards our parents and ancestors and pay due respects because whom to day we are in this World! I appreciate your values in life and sincerity! May God bless you all! Thanks for responding!
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
15 Mar 11
Yes! I can understand, this normally occurs with most of the children! So to avoid this confusion we taught our son about his actual name he used to say his actual name when ever some one used to ask his name! This has helped us a lot to prevent the difficulty,like what you have had! Now remembering those things your son must be having smile on his face! Thanks for responding!
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
Actually we have encountered problems with his name when he started schooling.
He knows his name by his pet name which is Tedi. Although, I had him recite his full name. At the first days of his class, his teacher calls him Rufin and my son doesn't react to his name. So the teacher told us, to call him by his real name at home.
@blosiewinkz_16 (116)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
Well, I'm not yet married and I don't have any children but I also want to share how our names were made. Our parents are quite a religious persons to the extent that made the first letter of our names to be of spiritual significance as well. We are six in the family. For my parents, they have the initials J and C and for us, my siblings and I, we have A, M, E, and N. So, to sum up all our first initials, we would come up with JC-AMEN or Jesus Christ, Amen.
There's also a biblical story behind our names. From the eldest down to the youngest, all connect with each other. :)
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
7 Mar 11
Hi Dear Blosiewink! It is quite an interesting to know the way you and siblings got named. Was that coincidental that your parents had their initials of J and C , or they got married on the basis of names! I am hearing for the first time that some one can really use their brains and come up with such an imaginative and spiritual idea! hats off to your parents for their thoughtfulness!
Now you are having JC AMEN in your family - What are you planning to name your children when you will have? Please respond!
Thanks for responding!I liked it!
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
9 Mar 11
Hi Dear blosiewink! How sweet of you to think about your future plans and showing the consideration for your would be husband! I am sure with this loving nature of yours your husband will surely co operate with you to have your kids be named after the way you brothers and sisters got from your parents! Wish you all the best! Have nice time! Thanks !
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@blosiewinkz_16 (116)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Hello AKRao,
It was just coincidental that my parents had their initials J and C. I also salute them for having a brilliant idea on making names. =)
For now, I have not thought of any names for my future children yet but if ever the time comes when I have to decide as such, I would probably follow the footsteps of my parents. The names that will be made will depend on the spiritual experience we will have during that time. I want that my husband-to-be will also take part on this matter as we both will venture life together.
@madebyrobyn (616)
• Australia
8 Mar 11
I had the name of my first child picked from a very young age, about age seven I think. However when finding out I was having a boy I had to come up with a masculine form of the name - which has worked out well, he really likes his name. The second child my husband and I came up with the name while I was pregnant but my aunt who was due on the same day as me ended up having her twins before me and 'stole' my planned name for her first born. We then had to swap her name around so her middle name to be became her first name.
From that point on we vowed never to name our babies until they were born, so we named number 3 as soon as we saw her - we had a short list of names and we picked easily from the list within the first five mins after she was born.
Our last baby didn't actually get her name until she was 4 days old. We settled on two of our long time favorite names, finally! She has very grown up names that I am sure she will grow into as she gets older.
I have not regretted any of the decisions that we made naming our children, they are all beautiful and their names are quite fitting!
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
9 Mar 11
Hi Dear Madebyrobyn! I am really surprised to know that you had your child name in your mind when you were just seven, it is really something wonderful to know about! So you have given that name a masculine form to make it suitable your son !
I felt sorry that your name for your second child got stolen by none other than your own aunt! Any way the name is near by you only being used by one of your relative only! LOL!
So having taken precaution, you ultimately could name your child of your choice from your prepared list! But then you had to do it within 5 minutes of her birth before some one again steal that name!
So your last baby is yet to get her final mane, as you think that both the names selected by you and your husband are your long time favorites and you think thy will suit her as she will grow up!
Oh dear why should you regret about any decision of yours as you have taken so much of pains in selecting those lovely names to give an identity to your loving kids! May God bless you all! Thanks !
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@donnay81 (6)
• United States
6 Mar 11
I found that names are tough. A boy's name was not an issue because I knew that I wanted to name him after my father - Joseph. However, we have so may Joes and Joeys running around in our family, I did not want to call him by the name or derivative of Joseph. The solution for us if it was a boy was to name him Joseph, after my father and Scott, a name that I like. Scott Joseph didn't fit for me so the name would have been Joseph Scott but called Scott, Scotty, etc. This would have worked in our family because my mother and all of her siblings were called by their middle names. I had a girl so that all ended up to be a moot point. The girl's name centered around finding a name that could utilize the nickname, Bri, pronounced Bree, like the cheese. Brianna was in contention until a neighbor moved an with a daughter of the same name. I like Gabrielle, but often Gabby is associated with that name and I did not want that to stick so that was out. Then we came across Bridget, but my husband would have called her the German form and it sounded too harsh. And a friend put in her 2 cents and said Bridget is what you call a dog. She was a dog groomer and apparently had a number of Bridgets during her career. So we finally settled on Sabrina. Everything works - Bri is a great nickname and the name is different but not too out there. The rub is that my daughter doesn't like the name Bri. Maybe we should number them and when they are old enough they can choose a name they like.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
7 Mar 11
Hi Dear Donnay! I am really happy to know how hard you worked to have the names for your Kids! Though you had no problems in naming your son,you people have shown your intelligence there too,making it fit for the family and the society too in which the child will grow up!
I am pleasantly surprised with the ideas you had to name your daughter and it was really funny to know that you were hesitant to decide on the name Brianna, only to find out that the name has been already used by some one from your neighbourhood! Similarly the much liked name Bridget too was discarded as you have lot of Dogs with that name! I think Sabrina is a beautiful name and that includes your 'BREE' also in it to use it as her pet name! But you say that your daughter doesn't like it!
I liked your sense of humour and I think many of the parents they face the similar situation , where in lot of efforts are being put in for getting a nice name and at the end those names are not liked by the children! So I too agree with idea that we should number them and leave it to their discretion to choose a suitable for name for themselves!
Thanks for responding!
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
13 Mar 11
Hi dear Kh Rabbe! I am happy to know that you are taking the help of the holy Quran for getting the names and choosing some from them for your children! yes by doing so you can, not only get some beautiful names but also get some famous personalities with whom you can associate your children with! It is good idea indeed! Thanks for responding!
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
4 Mar 11
our oldest daughter is named after a sister of a friend of mine. i really loved her name and vowed that i would name my daghter the same name. our youngest is named after my hubby's aunt who drowned when she was in her 30s. her name was johanna, we dropped the jo and added an h at the end.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
5 Mar 11
Hi Dear Cher! I am really happy and sweetly amazed how determined were you and you have vowed that you would name the daughter with the name of your friend's sister, and finally you did it! That is some thing great and worth appreciating!
Regarding the name of your youngest daughter I must say that you people are loving and caring sort who in the memory of departed one named your daughter to make her alive again in the family! I appreciate this sweet gesture of yours! May God bless you all!
Thanks for a wonderful response dear friend!
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@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
4 Mar 11
My oldest is named after a best friend from Junior High School and my second "Mom"-my favorite aunt. I actually dreamt about my oldest son when I was about 14 or so...including his first name. He is named according to that and carries his dad's name for a middle name. I got my youngest son's name while listening to the Yankees game update on the Radio-They were playing at Shea Stadium. I wanted an unusual name for him, his dad is a Yankees fan, and the name is a shortened version of one in the Bible in King David's lineage-so is my oldest son's name. I named my youngest daughter after the heroine in "Wild Hearts Can't Be Broken"-Sonora Carver. I love the woman's spirit and courage and the uniqueness of her name. She carries her great grandmother's middle name. In our family, the middle names the children carry are usually the same as an older member of the extended family...aunt, grandmother, cousin, etc. that the parents feel close bond with.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
8 Mar 11
Hi Dear Browneyedgirl! I am happy to know that you had a dream about your first son when you were just 14 and you actually named him after a best friend in junior High school and your second Mom and favorite aunt. He carries his dad's name for the middle name! It is really interesting to know that you have picked up your youngest son's name while listening to Yankees game on radio, as his father was a fan of Yankees. You were smart enough not only picking up the Yankee name but picking up the relevant name which could be associate with your elder son's name!
It is nice to hear that you have chosen the name of heroine Sonora Carver, as you liked her personality and the uniqueness of the name! She is carrying a middle name similar to an older member of the extended family!
Believe me when I have started this discussion ,I never thought that,people would be taking so much of pains and do so much of home work in naming their children!
I am pleasantly surprised at the way people could name their children!
Thanks for responding!
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 11
I give my child's first name, the name of the main character from the game Final Fantasy 8. Because when I was pregnant, my husband liked this game, and play this game with me. My son's middle name, I gave the name to show that he was a boy. And his last name is a combination of the zodiac my child and athlete my husband's idol.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
6 Mar 11
Hi Dear Indahfth! I am really pleasantly surprised to know the way you have named your son! I think along with your husband you are also interested in the games and sports as you have supported him to have he name of the main character from the game Final Fantasy 8!
It is interesting to know that you have chosen a masculine name indicating his gender and last one again sounds even more interesting as it is having the combination of zodiac signs belonging to father and son!
Wow! It was great to know! I never thought that people would be taking so much interest in naming their child, though I understand that it is an important thing which gives an unique identity to an individual! Thanks for responding!
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@med889 (5941)
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6 Mar 11
We decided it long before having kids. It is the choice of me and my partner both and we did not allow anyone to impose on us. His mother was telling us that she is going to put a name to my twin but my husband refused saying that he wants to do the same as his parents did for him and his brother. So we decided to search for names and landed on various in which we choose Jared and Andrew. Andrew is a metal singer and Jared is the name my husband has chosen for the reason he has a friend who got lost in sea. And they were too close. I respect his decision and I also like both the names as he does.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
7 Mar 11
Hi Dear Med! I am happy that at the end you have taken the decision all by your self in naming the twins which you had! It is interesting to know that you people did lot of home work before coming to the conclusion! So finally you got named one son in the name of the metal singer and another one is on your husbands friend who got lost in Sea! This is a nice gesture and I must appreciate that you have readily accepted the proposal and you are happy with it! It was an interesting thing to have known how you named your children! May God bless you all!
Thanks for responding!
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
Choosing name for our children is not that easy.
When I first got to know my baby gender from my gynae,both me
and my husband started to think what will be the best name for
our dear son.
We started to flip those name books and also search online.
We listed down few names that we like,those kinda simple and easy to
remember. We prefer to have a single word for our son 'name.
As for his chinese name, my husband flipped our ancestor's book(which
consist of those meaningful name) and picked one of them.
But I can say,my son 's name is easy to remember and write.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
6 Mar 11
Hi Dear Shia! I am really happy to know that you have started your home work the moment to have come to know about the gender of your baby!
The name books and on line search definitely help one to have good names of our choice! At last you t your son's name in single word which is easy to remember!
You mean to say that your son is having two names one got selected from the name book and another one Chinese which your husband has selected from the ancestor's name book?
I would be interested to know about this ! Thanks for responding! May God bless you all!
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
4 Mar 11
I named my daugher with half of my first name and my full middle name and it matches perfectly. Then I named my son with the same to rhyme with my daughter but a masculine name.
so we all have a 3 musketeer thing going and are very happy with it. Being a single mother I found that my decision was a good one as we get along so well.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
5 Mar 11
Hi Dear hardworkinggul! I think that you are very imaginative person with a good sense of literature and also the sense of Humour! I am really impressed with the style of yours where you have picked half of the name of your daughter from your first name and added your full middle name as the second half to match it perfectly! That really needs imagination!
Then you have tried the same for your son taking care that it should be a masculine name at the same time it should rhyme with your daughter's name!
I am very happy to know that the three musketeers are having good fun and happy with the name! I can understand you must be really happy with the whole thing being a single mother...and why not you are very caring and dedicated person which any body can make out from the interest you have shown in naming your children!May God bless you all and have a nice time!
Thanks for responding and showing your another positive side of your life, so far I knew that you are really a hard working lady, but today you have given the indication that you are an adoring and adorable mother too! Take Care! Thanks !
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@abmacasinag (518)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
According to my aunties, I was name after the ex gf of my papa. weird huh??
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
6 Mar 11
Hi Dear Abmacasinag! I am really happy to know that your family members especially your mother are/is a broad minded, to allow to name you after your father's ex girl friend! It is no way seems to be weird so long every body around is happy!
I think it is OK, and since you are also happy with the name, then where is the point of getting weird about the name!
Thanks for responding!
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@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
4 Mar 11
The most common tradition in my country is to name our children after our parents, resp. children' grandparents. This way a grandfather or a grandmother would be proud their grandchild is bearing their name or at least the name begins with the same letter as the grandparent's. Many people, however, don't do this. They just chose a name they like. I did the same thing. I didn't name my daughter after anyone, I just picked a beautiful and national name for her, not a foreign one. I mean her name is traditional, not some mixture of modernity and absurdity, like many people do these days. And I'm not sorry for the choice I made because everyone who hears her name says it's beautiful and very traditional and that my choice is great.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
5 Mar 11
Hi dear iva75cpb! Believe me when I have started this discussion I never thought that I would be getting such an interesting responses from the members! I am really thrilled to see different traditions and cultures from all parts of the World in naming a child! Yes, in India also we have the tradition in some families to name the children either after their grand parents or with the letter starting with their grand parents!
But then I have given name of my son which starts with a letter of my grand mother, not his!
I am happy to know that though you have not followed the traditional way of naming your daughter, but have managed to settle with a beautiful traditional name which is liked by every one! What else is required, so long every one is happy and liking the name!
Yes now a days people are coming up with some strange names in the name of modernisation, which I too don't like!
Thanks for responding with details! May God bless you all and your daughter!
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
4 Mar 11
It was very easy to name my son. he was named after his father. My daughter was a bit more difficult. My husband and I could not agree on the sane names. We even bought a book for naming babies. Thankfully, we were able to come up with a name that we both liked. We did not let any family or friends choose the names for us. We wanted our child to have the name we chose for them.
@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
5 Mar 11
Hi Dear Sender! I am happy to know that you had no problem in selecting the name of your son ! But yes some times sane names also can be the topic which can lead in the difference of opinion! Getting books for names is one of the option we had when the internet was no so popular. I am pleased that having selected the name liked by both of you, you have not given any chance to choose the name for your baby! I too did the same thing!
I feel at least in this World If there is any thing which truly belongs to us or we really own, that is our children as they are sharing the same blood of ours and How can we allow other people to choose a name for them, when it is so important that it gives an identity to an individual!!
Thanks for responding!
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