When will he learn??

hello akinad i feel like he is 23yrs why is he getting an allowance he should be getting a job and making his own money to help out with the bills in the house. maybe by him getting a job he will learn responsibility and how hard it is to make money then maybe he will not blow it all on online games.

Teach him a lesson. Next time when he asks and just spend it on online games, do not give him anymore should he ask for more. Tell him that you work hard earning that money and that your budget is tight, so he will know how irresponsible he is. Be firm when you do that.

Why are you giving a grown man money? That's the problem. Does he have a job? He needs to be supporting himself. If he falls on his face he will learn. Cut him off stop giving him money. It's doing him more harm than good. If you keep giving him money he will never learn to stand on his own two feet. Help him make a plan to become independent.

23 and getting an allowance? Why isn't he working? Why isn't he finding some way to earn some money? If he wants more money he can just go out and earn it. He is not a kid to get an allowance, unless there is a very good reason why he can't work, like an illness or handicap, and even at that, there has to be something he can do. So let him go work part time if necessary for minimum wage. He has to earn his own way, and he needs to start now. In fact, he should have started a long time ago.

Same here with my older brother, he is 30 years old and spends money like he's living the rich life. We all give him money but he spends it on clothes that he doesn't need. He never learned not even when he was your brother's age. The only advice I can give you is to not give up on him because you don't want him to end up like my brother. You have to save his money for him, keep a piggy bank or something and stash all his cash in there without him knowing. That's what my mom and my brother's girlfriend does for him, they save every little penny he gets for him. That's the only thing you can do right now.

He is already a adult rght? So tell him it and that the fact that he is already a adult he has to take care himself and be more responsible. You don't have to fell sorry about not giving him any money. If you work hard for it. When he realize that you care about yourself more than you care about him. He is gonna stop do it and he will starts care abou himself as well. Love u first girl then everybody around is gonna love u more. Good luck :)

He will learn by himself. You can not do any thing about it. So just let him learn by his own mistakes...

i think you need to schedule a time for both of you. talk heart to heart. try to explain the whole thing. try to tell that you love him and is concerned but is not selfish. try telling him how much both of you could only afford to spend.

Hi... better you should reduce the amount slowly.... so that he can understand what does a coin really means and will be able to evaluate the value of it. If you suddenly stop, then it may react on him with some negative attitudes. Have a nice day.

I do understand what you are feeling. Your brother is old enough to make a living for himself. If he still studying,he can look for a part time job so that he can have spare money for his vices. Now,if he not studying,the more he needs to get a job for his own future. You must teach him lesson,let him feel how hard it is to earn money and that you are not just picking those money from somewhere. Sometimes we need to hurt our loved ones for them to realize what we wanted to convey. It's not every day that you are healthy,what if one day you'll get sick,who will work for your family then? And..do you have some saving to spend for the days that you will not be able to work? I know it's not easy to explain everything to your brother,unless you will let him feel. Say NO next time he spends all the money for nothing and asks you again. He is not a small boy anymore...he's old enough. Have a good day

There are just some people that are better at handling their finances tan others. they have learned the art of self control early on. for some people this is a lifelong lesson to learn. Some are quick to grasp it while others may never catch on without the proper motivation.

well some people learn by time,some people learn early and some take time.

I agree with the comment above the only way he will learn is to not give him any more. Directly tell him that if he spends his allowance he has to wait until the next one. Otherwise it is enabling him to continue to mismanage money. This will be a repeated problem some day when he has personal and priority bills to pay.

That's kind of dangerous cause he is already too old to know how to learn to use money. And he is receiving allowance? Tell your parents it's time to put an end to it, for his sake dear.

Eeeks. I'm confused. Why in the world would you be giving your little brother an allowance to begin with? At 23, he should be working and supporting himself. My girls started working while still in highschool and when they got their first job then I stopped giving allowance. When they did get an allowance then they had to budget it or go without. I don't know why you are giving your brother allowance but I'm sure you have your reasons. Still, the whole point in an allowance is to teach kids to budget their money. If he runs out then just don't give him any more.

So many times in life we need a problem in order for us to grow. If you give him more money after he wasted his, he doesn't have a problem. He doesn't have to change. Draw the line. Never give in. He might call you selfish but it is quite the opposite. You care enough to give him what he really needs An Education!!

I think one of the reasons he is becoming like this is because you are becoming his enabler. By providing him his allowance he has become dependent on you, and does not see the need for him to take charge of his allowance and his life. You should back off. And be firm about it. I know that he is your brother, but he is also already 23 years old. In any society, anybody that grown-up should be able to fend for himself.

Explain your budget status to him, maybe this time He doesn't know about how hard for to earn money and after that he will just spend it not important things. Sometimes we also need to inform them about what is happenning, do not wait for him to realized it let him know in a nice way. Goodluck.

There are people whom I know that are just like your brother, always depending on others, specially their parents. Not knowing how hard it is for their parents to be away from their kids just to give them a bright future. I just hope that your brother will soon realize this....If you've done everything you can just like I've read you did and still nothing happened, then all I can suggest is for you to pray more....Prayers do wonders...