Should we attend? but she will be there...

My thinking is that unless you go your thinking about what if will still remain, so if you feel that going will somehow satisfy your curiosity I would certainly attend. As far as what you should do if your husband talks to her during the party, nothing sweetie, turn on your regular charm and remember you are the one with him now and well she will not have much to say about that. I would not be insecure at all because you know your husband loves you and will be going home with you. Best of luck and remember you will have a chuckle or too and have fun!

I think you should go but not for the reasons of insecurities after all your husbands ex is just that, an ex he chose you and not because you like photography for you and your own talents and personality of course. I think you should go just to appear as if your not insecure about anything at all rather not fazed by her appearance at the birthday . If she's there and talks to your husband you should remain civil and confident as like I said your husbands with you not her , so theirs no point making up a worrying situation in your own head . I wish you luck with a response you will ultimately decide.

My sister is a house wife. She bounced around from college to college, and finally realized she just wants to be a mother, and a wife, and do those things. She has never been happier than she is now, and loves every bit of it. She is always trying out some new cooking thing, and she loves taking the kids to the park. Confidence in who you are is very difficult. Guys have the same problem many times. Not all, but many times. For example, I'm just a guy who works at a manufacturing plant. I earn a tiny amount of money, and do really boring repetitive things. My sisters husband, my brother in law, is ex-military and did missions in Iraq. He talks about IDEs blowing up, and dealing with all that. I talk about what screw driver I use on my products. He's strong and buff. I'm weak and flabby. But at some point you just have to accept that who you are is who you are, and you're ok with that. I have. No it's not easy. Yes you still have insecurities. But this is life. There will always be someone stronger, smarter, more attractive, more talented. And even if you do make it to the top, you won't be there for long. Bill Gates was the Richest man in the world. Hosni Mubarak stole that title away. But Hosni Mubarak was just ousted by Egypt in the revolt, so likely he'll lose his lead pretty quick to someone else. If I were you, I'd face down my insecurities. I'd go not to find out if she is 'all that', but rather to hang with my husband and have a good time. Maybe she is 'all that' and maybe not. But in either case, one thing she isn't, is your husbands wife. It's all you, and tough for her.

If you are very very curious then you sould go. Don't feel bad cause you are not at all less then her or they would still be together. You are great, embrace your greatness!

i think u insecureness posses bad things in ur mind one thing i am telling to u your mind seems to be think negative don' be negative see possitive and think + she has a talent and u are a house wife u are suffering and insecure with these things these are not the matters everybody has their own talent if she has many talents and u also different talents common friend use it will shows u secureness. you do the great thing u dont know about your talent inside lets utilize that one u get the beauty of perfection.

I think you should trust your husband.After all,he and his ex-wife lived together.They certainly have a common interest before.

I think you should go. Don't feel insecure, if you wont go along with your husband then that will be a thing of insecurity and you will be tense all those time when he will be there you think of her to impressing him... Your husband al ready know of her talent and your too. If he is with you happily then he love you and respect your talent to being a simple house wife more than her... So believe in you and go... Thanks...

We all have the power to choose what we deem important in life. It's clear you undervalue your worth. Why do you do this???? Perhaps, it's time to re-evaluate your view of yourself. If your husband can see, why can't you??? Go to the party, proud, sharing your unconditional love that makes you priceless!!

Hmmmm! I also have that in my mind cause whether I like it or not, there will come a time when I would have to attend a party where the ex is going to be but I already made my decision not to go anywhere where the ex will possibly be. I think its not because I dont want to face my insecurities but because the ex is such a b*tch and I know she will do something to put me to shame.

The best way is confront it. Don't avoid to be in the occasion. You will find then if there is still happening between them although i am not saying there is just pop in my dirty thinking. Who knows. But be open-minded to the situation. You may see them each other like they were lovers. Actually relationship to a friend have different thing compare to our partner's relationship. You might get jealous but believe it is only for the moment you'll get used to it.

Your husband marries you... meanig he must love you over his ex. I believe opposite complements each other better than those people having the same likes. I think it is more boring.

If you trust your hubby, it is better to stay back. Jealousy could cause lots of trouble and issues. If I were you, I would choose not to go to the party with your hubby and stay at home instead. Why do you feel insecure? You have been a winner, havent you? You hubby totally loves you!

I think both of you should come , so that your worries will stop , and I am very sure your husband will show in the party how he loves you and that he chose you to be his wife. If you won't come your curiousity won't stop as well as your worries