Three days past due date and still no baby. Should I be worried? :(

@veronizm (907)
Philippines
March 14, 2011 7:49pm CST
Okay, so based on LMP, the baby's supposed to be due on March 12. We were really excited last week as we really thought that I'm gonna pop her out by then --- we had our labor requirements ready, cellphones loaded, house cleaned, baby stuff prepared. But until now she's still not out and there are still no signs except that my lower abdomen feels really heavy now and hurts every time I walk or move around. The midwife said that it's natural because the baby is already in it's 'lightening' stage where it's already positioned on the lower abdomen, ready for birth. They also said that there's a +/- two weeks allowance. Also, my last sonogram said March 19 instead of 12. But I still can't help to get worried especially with people around me always following up. Plus, I've read this article in the internet about the health risks involved with post-term delivery! Should I really be worried? I mean, I still have 2 weeks allowance and the sonogram due date is 19. But so far there really aren't any signs yet. No mucus plug or water discharge. Also, I'm quite scared that the baby might grow bigger and it would be more difficult for me to get her out. Has anyone of you experienced a delay in delivery too? Do you know any natural means of inducing labor? I hope you guys can give me some good advice and not just those "consult your OB" things. I know that's probably the best thing to do but first I wanna know first hand experiences.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
You are too anxious to see your baby. This is your pregnancy and for the first born, the baby is expected to be delivered two weeks before or two weeks after. On my first pregnancy, i bought a book entitled "What to Expect When You're Expecting!" That book is very famous, but i wasn't aware of it till one of the movie stars mentioned it on TV and said that she's been looking for that book. Anyway, your worry is brought about by anxiety and it is expected from a pregnant woman who is almost at her due date. There is a natural way of inducing labor and that is touching your nipple. But don't do this when you are not in the hospital because it might trigger labor immediately. You can take long walks too. But i really believe that you just have to patient unless you want to have an induced labor by oxytocin and that is very painful and expensive too. There is no need to worry at all, as long as your water is still okay.
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@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Thanks toni! I am indeed too anxious to see my baby I'm just so excited to see her and kiss her and give her a motherly-bear hug! I wish I knew about the book beforehand, I think I could have bought it if I knew about it before. So far I only rely on the internet for information. But I think a good book would have been better. Yeah I've heard about the nipple massage. But I didn't know that we should just do it when in the hospital. I think that technique is a good idea coz it's a more natural approach. I've heard about the oxytocin too and that it's really painful. I think that would be my very last resort. So far I haven't had any discharges yet so I believe my water is still okay. And the baby's fetal heartbeat and movements are also fine. I really shouldn't be worried
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
15 Mar 11
They give a +- two weeks due to the fact that even in modern times, having a baby is not an exact science. The due date is rarely ever met. My oldest daughter was 2 weeks past my due date. Babies are born when they are ready, not just because the calendar says so. You don't have anything to worry about, the baby will come when he/she is ready. It does become an anxious time, and if you are like I was and my daughters when they were pregnant you also have TOBP (tired of being pregnant lol). Good luck and don't worry.
• United States
15 Mar 11
Wow marianne 12 had to feel like a long time I am sure.
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
TOBP! That's a good one! I haven't heard of that before @palonghorn, Thanks! I must say that I'm relieved to know that there is also someone who experienced a 2-week post-term delivery and their baby was fine. I really shouldn't worry, but yes it is an anxious time indeed. I guess I'm just gonna do a lot more meditation to help me relax
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
15 Mar 11
I know it's easier said than dne. But please do try not to worry, I was in your shoes once. I went to the hospital a few times and still no baby. I was so worried. I went over by a long ways. 3 weeks in fact. When its time the baby will come.
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Thanks moondancer! Wow, three weeks! You're a fighter! You're definitely right, I really shouldn't worry coz it's still a few days that I'm delayed and to think that other people like you were even patient enough to wait for three weeks
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
15 Mar 11
hello, well... sometimes the doctor could be wrong on the date. have you told him actually when you missed your period?. dont worry too much, it might stress out the baby and you. if you dont feel right about it... Go to see the doctor right the way. Baby could be very early and could be very late. Try to do small exercise and walk as much as you can... it will help your baby to rotate and easy to delivery. Congratulation and good luck
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Mar 11
hi veron. i thought i should have not getting in this thread for one, i never been pregnant. but being a father to the three kids of my wife i know there is no worry for being delayed for a few days or weeks. with our youngest, i actually come with my wife everytime she had a visit with the OB-GYNE. as experienced, all of our kids were born ahead of schedule and all of them were normally delivered.
• United States
15 Mar 11
Firstly do not worry and stress it is not good for you and or the baby. It is not abnormal to be delayed at all. Sometimes the day of pregnancy is not completely accurate. I was luck to deliver both my kids exactly the day after both due dates. So unless your OBGYN is concerned I would not put extra effort in worrying. Do not try inducing at all this will not be healthy and not recommended by your doctor. What I found best was during my last weeks of pregnancy was to go on walks. I would walk for about 20 minutes to help not only with your energy level but it will also be good for the baby for later, if I remember exactly it does help during labor. Best of luck and hope you deliver soon.
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Thanks hardworkinggurl! I do go for long walks. Even when my tummy was still 7 months old I already started walking the length of our house to the main road which I think is also about 20 minutes. Then as the baby grew, I doubled the distance. I guess you're right about not trying to induce the baby. My midwife did say that it's just normal to be delayed because of the +- two weeks allowance and she even didn't recommend inducing it. Although I really can't help to be anxious. But yes I should not put extra effort into worrying. Walking around with a liter is more than effort enough, LOL!
• India
15 Mar 11
Don't worry, according to the Indian belief, babies born late and easier to raise..because they are apparently very patient. I'm sure your diva is happy inside, so happy that she doesn't want to leave the home you have created in your womb. :) All the best and know that we're here for you, love.
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
I hope everything turns out all right for you and your baby. Well, if they say it's still safe then it probably is. But it would be best to get a second opinion or third on that. If you can ask another doctor about it then so much better.
15 Mar 11
fortunatly no i havent. both of mine came early. with the second they were going to induce me because the baby was small but when they examined me i was 3cm so i was pleased. luckliy for me i had 2 small children and pretty quick easy births. anyway hope she comes soon and dont worry too much as she could come anytime.
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
There's nothing to worry. I haven't experienced that situation though. Maybe you should walk little by little to exercise your tummy, it will also lessen the hardship when you are laboring. Good luck!
@cebumd (65)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
The due date based on LMP may sometimes be inaccurate especially since it relies on patient's recall but the ultrasound due date helps in that case. Therefore the baby may not actually be overdue as your sonogram indicates. You have to watch out for the rupturing of the "bag of water". If that happens, you really have to go to the hospital right away. But by this time also especially that this is your first baby, you should have more frequent checkups with your obstetrician (preferably) to check on the baby's condition, baby's heart beat, position and size among other things especially if you believe it is really big. The OB will also check on you of course (your Blood pressure, your weight gain, if you have UTI) because what happens to you might affect the baby and the delivery. She might screen you for gestational diabetes. The checkup will address your fears of the baby being too big to pass through the birth canal. One thing to watch out for in post-term babies really is when a baby has a bowel movement while still inside you (meconium).In other words really, what I will advise you is to consult your OB since you should really consult your OB so that she can check on you and your baby in person and make a proper evaluation.