Have you found your cup of tea?
By Oldsix691418
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
China
March 19, 2011 11:58pm CST
Life is too short to kid yourself.A calm steady family needs a nice woman.
I spent so much time on my school but i couldn't make great progress on all my school subjects.Without entering any college i began my work.Then I used my spare time to take part in the national self-taught exams.When i got my college diploma,i was 26 years old,and i was aware that i had to find a spouse for age.
For some years i worked as an informal teacher,my salary was very poor,so i couldn't find a colleague girl who had better income than that of mine as my spouse,as those girls never came on to me.And i could not find another girl who was informal,too,because that would make the family more difficult.
After thinking it over,i decided to chase a beautiful tailoress,who was familiar with her work and had her regular customers.That case i did not have to think about many things,such as budgeting the family,buying food,purchasing clothes and so on.Now she's my wife,and she's never frustrated me,she's really my cup of tea,though we're not wealthy.
Have you found yours?
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17 responses
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
22 Mar 11
I may or may not have found my cup of tea. Though i'm attached at the moment, it does not mean we are suited for marriage. It's easy to be together but when it comes to living together under the same roof, things are definitely different. There are times whereby we do spend the night over at each other's house, we both know that we are unhappy about certain habits about each other, just that we didn't voice it out. After all, that's not my house, and not his house. However when we get to get married one day, it's going to be our house, and changes has to be made right? If either one of us refuses to change, it's going to break the marriage too.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
25 Mar 11
Hi,Sanitary!you are so young but you know marriage so deep.Yes,staying together is good for each other to find what weaknesses there are between two lovers so that you can adjust yourself seperately,but if neither of you will change or mend,after getting married the family won't last happily or long.A couple needs too much giving in and cherishing from each other.Good luck!
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@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hi Oldsix. I envy you and am happy for you. I haven't found my cup of tea. I am almost like you, I tried to get myself together first, so I could have something for my cup of tea. I didn't try to find her until I was successful. I waited too long, but I hope not too long because I'm getting ready to go look for her. She's out there somewhere.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
21 Mar 11
Wow,that's the spirit,my friend!And i hope you can find her soon.Come on!
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
21 Mar 11
First,congratulations for your choose. It is very wise for your choice.
When it comes to make a family, we have to consider lots of things. Including budget, our spouse's ability to support the family. Those who only take outlooking at consideration will come across problems after marriage.
So i think you are a wise man, and best wishes to you and your wife.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
25 Mar 11
Thank you so much,my friend.And i hope you'll be happy all your life.Good luck!
@asiamooner (418)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
interesting...cup of tea...
i dunno, but i guess we thought of finding one differently...
i found love...
@blonda4ka (20)
• Latvia
26 Mar 11
No i don`t, and actually i don`t look for one, i like like its is now, i have no feeling that i need some family, or some man in my life, cuz if i need some i need good one, but in nowdays its so hard to find a good man, so i choose better live without any man than life with some who is not good enough.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
27 Mar 11
What?aren't there any men who fit for you?or have you ever undergone an evil man?but don't get so disappointed,and i'm not perfect.Good luck!
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
21 Mar 11
I found my cup of tea but I stupidly let him go. I have a cup of tea now but I am not interested in marriage and never have been. Right now I am focusing on being debt free, financially independent and starting a home business that will give me that financial independence.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
21 Mar 11
I admit that you have chosen a good lifestyle for you.Since you have never been interested in marriage,then staying alone is fine accordiing to your opinion.Have a nice day!
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
21 Mar 11
Actually, I never married. I had thought about it a couple of times, but never found the right man. I have always been a bit independent and have always had trouble living with people. It sometimes hurts financially because I can only depend on myself, but at least I know I can't blame my problems on someone else (unless it is the employer that wouldn't hire me). I'm glad you found your cup of tea!
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
21 Mar 11
Hi,DAECKARDT.Quite a few people live alone in big cities,but that never means they live unhappily,right?i think you are one of them.Hope you are happy every minute!
So, I suppose my cup of tea is not to have a cup of tea. @Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
21 Mar 11
Hehe,i hope that the right flavor of your cup of tea isn't too weird...lol.But your diet coke is fine.Good health with you!
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
21 Mar 11
Guess my military man was my cup of tea. We've been married almost 56 years.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
24 Mar 11
Wow,you must be extremely happy,i think.Good health with you!
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I was confused with this topic. I was thinking that you are asking what's our interest or something that we enjoy doing because we excel in that activity, that is what I know about the term "cup of tea". Anyway, as I read carefully this discussion I got what you mean. I just don't know why is it that the first requirement that you looked for your "cup of tea" was that she must have a better income than you do where in it should you who must have the better income since you are the man. Well, that's how we practiced here in my country, the man should be superior in terms of financial capability than the girl, but there are cases, both or the woman earns more than the man but it's not a problem since both of them love each other.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
24 Mar 11
I've tried my best to get more capable,but i really know well myself.If i could find a capable lover,i would have a better life.I don't wanted to show how strong i was to sustain my wife,my children and the whole family,on earth the both strength of a couple is much stronger than the husband since i'm not a millionnaire.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Mar 11
Congrats to you friend! It is absolutely wonderful to have found our cup of tea. I too have a nice blend of tea at home, LOL.. he is so wonderful that I am glad to be with him.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
21 Mar 11
Yes,i've had my cup of tea for 19 years,she's still sweet as before.Hve fun!
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
20 Mar 11
This is nice little story. I actually asked my husband out. Instead of him asking me out. Not quite the traditional way but we've been together for several years now.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
21 Mar 11
As long as there's true love between you,you can see your cup of tea in front of you.Have fun!
@xfiendfyre (14)
• United States
21 Mar 11
I definitely found my "cup of tea"! I know I am still young, but I had to pick over a lot of "rejects" before I ended up with him. We knew each other for about 6 or 7 years before we actually started dating, but we were definitely attracted to each other from the get-go, and we got along extremely well. It has never been awkward between us. He is my best friend that I have ever had in my entire life, and he completes me. No one gets my bizarre sense of humor like he does, we finish each others' sentences and often don't need to speak to communicate. We are best friends first and foremost, and then lovers on the side. It is really quite incredible and I am so lucky to be with such an amazing man!
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
25 Mar 11
Sorry for my late comment and congratulations!!Our life is so short but finding your cup of tea is extremely difficult.From all your detailed response i can see you have truely found your "cup of tea",and i hope you can have him and cherish each other all your life.Good luck with you!
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I found my cup of tea and he is a good cup of tea. I'm glad that you found a good one. It is hard to find a good person that you can get a long with.Congratulations.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
20 Mar 11
Congratulations,too.If one cannot find a true lover of his or her life,it's rather boring and bitter,i never brag.Have fun!
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I have yet to find my cup of tea, I thought I did but I let him go. I use to try to find love but I realize that love isn't something you search for, it's something that comes eventually. So, when I find my good cup of tea, I'll just know.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
20 Mar 11
Hehe,i'm expecting that you can find yours.My tea is back home from the market,i think i've to get off line...
@rafiholmes (2896)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 11
heheh
yeah man.i understand what ur saying.
well i found my cup of tea many times..but they dont want me ..lol
as matter of fact.i found them as my perfect girl..but they never think me as such ..lol
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
20 Mar 11
Hehe,guy!some day you'll have one and you cannot get out of the cup...lol
