Moral Question About What I Let My Niece Watch

I think maybe in 3 or 4 years she will be old enough, but 10 is a little too young.

We have been letting our kids watch rated M movies for a while now even though they are supposedly meant for kids 15 and over. Things like The Lord Of The Rings and Harry Potter which are fine in my opinion. However, we did find out a few years ago that my daughter had watched Borat while at a friends house! She was only about 7 or 8 at the time which was way too young to be watching that type of film. I do not know Greys Anatomy, but it cannot be half as bad as Resident Evil!

You have to do what you are comfortable with. I do not see where that is so bad to watch.

Hmm if she knows what those she have seen meant and if it was explained to her correctly then personally, i do not find anything wrong with it. my daughter, who is 6 have seen those movies, terminator to transformers to resident evil - all parts and other zombie bloody movies we have seen together, but i explained to her every part of what she have seen, that those were not true that some are violent and should not be followed and i believed she got it right, my daughter is a bit matured than i thought lol well, with grey's anatomy, i am not sure since i am not fond of watching that, but if the bloody scenes are like part of surgery or somethign then maybe it is fine too if it is explained correctly to her as well. I am just careful with some movies where there are sexy scenes those scenes are scarier for them to watch since it is hard to explain such hahaha.. so i make sure , really make sure they do not see those kind of scenes but at times they accidentally get to see scenes where there is a man adn a woman kissing..well we do explain it why such scenes happen..a simple answer of love is sufficient for her right now.

If she had already seen Resident Evil then you don't have to worry about her watching Grey's Anatomy. Resident Evil has more gory scenes compared to Grey's Anatomy. Although you might wanna ask her if she had already seen some Saw movies. If she has then you don't have to worry about her watching any gory movies at all.

I want to take this discussion on a different light... When I was really young, I've always said that I wanted to be a doctor when I grew up. But as years passed, I realized I get queezy when I see blood. So I had to give up that dream. Now I wonder if I had the chance to see a lot of bloody sights when I was young, would I be a doctor now? I'm not saying that what your sister is doing to your niece is the way to go, but maybe more parental control would be nice. Blood yes, violence no.

If she is watching 'Terminator' and 'The Resident Evil'....'Grey's Anatomy' is fine. But I personally wouldn't let her watch any of it even if it was okay with the parents. That's just how I feel...and that's what I would do. If my own kids are not allowed to watch it, then I wouldn't let another child watch it in my home or with me...if their parents think it's okay for them to watch...they can do it at their own home. As you pointed out, you can't always know something bad is coming up and warn. Your niece is used to watching more blood and gory stuff...so it's no big deal for her. Having said that....I also feel that if a parent chooses to allow a child to watch certain stuff (which I might not allow my kids to watch) and they have their own reasons for doing so...and are with the kids explaining or answering their queries...I don't see anything wrong in that.

If she's seen it, she's seen it!! I know as members of the "older generation" we want to think we should protect the little ones, but the truth is, they've seen a lot more by their tender ages than we probably saw by the time we turned 20. I am 29, and while I was not as protected as my mother was, I was a hell of a lot more protected than youngsters are these days.

I would say that if you do not feel comfortable about her watching certain shows, make sure there are no shows on that she cannot watch. Now since you nave Net Flix, you can watch your show later on. It is not as if you had it on Tv and either you had to watch it that instant, is it? I do think she is a bit young for Grey's Anatomy, by the way even though it is better then some of the R rated shows her parents let her watch. I know for me when someone comes over and I feel that the show is too violent, or that they might feel squeamish, I leave the TV off or change it to something like a cooking show, a nature show, Supernanny, Nanny 911 or the Dog Whisperer.

Honestly, if she's allowed to see the stuff you say she's seen, then ANYTHING on network TV is fair game.

I personally would not let her watch anything questionable without her parents consent. Just because they've let her watch violent things doesn't mean they want her to see them when they aren't around.

Hello Lily, Actually my nephew and niece watch some of those. but no matter what, never let them watch Adult type material.. but of course, it depends, some can have an impact. you know, once they see it, they will see it. suppressing it will make her watch it in "secret" over and over again. just explaing it to them that it's not for kids to watch.

I think its difficult to always know how to control rated shows, but I feel if you are going to expose that child to programing she is not used to, then you should invest the time to talk to her first and couch her about what it is why that is.

I feel the same way about my girls they are about to be 9 & 7 in a few days. I try to monitor what they watch but they aren't phase them. It movies that I have watched with them that have blood & gore but cartoon shows like The Simpsons and Family Guy. I do try to keep them focused on show on disney and stations like that but when they watch a hip hop video they see things that I don't want them seeing so I kinda banned videos too no Beyonce but Selena Gomez is great and Alicia Keys is very acceptable. I have never seen Grey's Anatomy but by the previous I can tell that it about real life situations and if your niece really isn't bothered by it it could be preparing her for a situation like that in life or for a profession as such.

I think it's okay to let her watch. The thing is she will see these thing in real life. This is tv and it is not real. Teaching her the difference is the key. It's like when we were much younger and we watched tv be it something mild or violence. We knew the difference. We knew it was just a movie and it was not "real" it was not something that was to be repeated. It was not something that really happened. It was not something that we got into our minds to go out and do. It was just tv, period! That is what people need to teach their children today. I am really tired of hearing the media say they did this or that because they saw it on tv or in a game. They got the idea from a game or the tv. I let my grandchildren watch certain things on tv but if I know or even don't know things are coming up they should not see I tell them to shut their eyes if they start to see something they should not see. Or to turn their heads. I even do that if a scene comes up that I don't like. We do watch a lot of family movies and it's not often we watch things that they should not watch.

I feel its important you also consult with the child's parents as to what the child is allowed to watch.