Broken Promises = Lies

Sometimes and I am guilty too about broken promises. Sometimes we call them liars due to the spur of the moment. But we have to think that sometimes they really dont mean it. Maybe they are just busy to carry it out, or something came up and they are out of hand to execute their promises to you. It depends though, there are those who makes excuses and I dont like that. For me, better not promise and just say that you will just try your best to do it.this way you wont hurt their feelings.

Of course, I have experience both sides of the coin of promise; I have made promises that I could not keep, and I have experienced broken promises from people that I trusted to carryout their promises. In the real world, I have to realize that I cannot always, no matter how hard I will try,keep my promises. And because I cannot keep some of my promises, it breaks my heart because I will never deliberately break a promise. So, because I know that I don't break promises on purpose, I have to try to understand when other people break their promises to me. I treat people the way I want to be treat, I forgive them.

Hi xien2xien, For those who are fair and respect every word they say , then they dont need to promise and in my experience in life those who promise ( and even if they promise on god or their parents head) are the first one to break them. I wont say i have never broken a promise.. yes i have like i promised to meet someone but i couldnt make it in time, but i do not break serious promises to help someone like this. But yes breaking promises is such a big let down who is counting on you.

Broken promises are frustrating if you're on the waiting end. I also don't like waiting for hollow promises as I would like to call it. Well, you really can't expect everyone to finish what they've promised because we're only humans and are also influenced by external events. Some promises are meant to be broken, as rules are. I've also broken some promises before that taught me, promises are for fools. It only provokes expectations and if those expectations aren't met, promises are broken. What I do instead is I don't tend to speak like it's a promise, I just speak of what's probable to happen. e.g. "I might go home early", "This may be my big break", "I might have some money next week" This way, people hear it as something that's probably gonna happen, not some kind of promise that could get broken if I don't deliver.

It's equal lie sure. I believe most of promises were really intended to do it, but then we are promising for something we will do from tomorrow on, that means it's gonna take time and we human beings change our mind a lot :p

I would get mad at someone who makes promises and never keep them. I am a person who always give what i have promised and would never promise something that i don't really mean. When someone makes a promise to me, it builds up my hopes and expectations and once that promise is broken, i really get mad and get disappointed. It would be better if no promises were made and then they just do it. In that case i won't have to expect at all.

i also dislike people who don't keep their promise... it is very annoying for me... i myself always try to keep my promise as much as i can and if i don't make empty promises... for me, promises = commitments that you have to honor... and if you can't honor it, it is better not to make one... take care and have a nice day...

I agree with you on this issue. I can say for sure that since we do our best and most of the time go out of our way to keep promise we made, we expext the same effort fom people too. But in reality that is rarely the case. I have learned about this the hard way... Definitely hard to accept but we have to know that we are all different... And the less we expect the lesser our hurts...

I think most of us have broke a promise for some reasons. As long as we notify the other of why we cannot keep our promises, I guess then that's okay, especially when the reason is acceptable. I am also the one who always trying to keep what I promise to others. However, there were times when I just could not do what I promised to do. I would then call this person sooner and tell him/ her why I could not do it. I hate it when people made a promise and broke it without bothering to tell us.

Hi xien2xien Oh gosh a promise to me is like a solid seal. I can understand if the person has an urgency that must be attended to which cause them to break the promise. But if a promise is place and the person intentionally disappointments me I sort of feel like I was taken for granted. So like you it is the same ill feeling and I perhaps would be mad for quite sometime.

I know what you mean. Some people say that promises are meant to be broken only but i wouldn't know what that really means or is it just ironical. Promises are made so that they can be fulfilled so why should they be broken. When a person makes a promise they give us a trust that they would do that job. On the other hand if they didn't do that then all the trust would be lost and we would find it even harder to trust any man such as him before or again! I would make promises to be fulfilled only. If i don't have faith in myself then i wouldn't make that promise at all. Cheers!

people are fond of saying that promises are made to be broken...but have anyone thought that trust is being lost when we broke a promise?...on the other hand...maybe there is a valid reason why the promise was broken...whenever that happens to me...i wait for the explanation...before i judge...

Yes i know what you mean also. Say I promise you something. I will do it or at least try my best to do it. I never go back on my promises. Yes I am the same way too. I hate it when poeple promise me stuff and they never do it. Doesn't always mean that they are a liar, they could just be lazy too, meaning that they will do it just not when they said that they would. I am like that sometimes. I also easily get mad when a person promises me something and they go back on it. Yes I have broken promises before, but hey, I'm not perfect, and no one is, so we all make mistakes. So if someone messes up on you, show them that you are mad but don't let it ruin a friendship because NO ONE IS PERFECT. People will make mistakes. Anyway, I hope this helped you. Thank you.

when i promise i do that so you are a trust wordy person