Do you have this feeling too?

Hi Ceres31, that feeling is natural but please be cautioned. Hating someone the first time you saw them maybe is an unresolved conflict with someone you knew in the past and that reminds you of that person you just saw. I recommend that you try to find the reason why you feel that way.

That feeling is very natural because sometimes we tend to hate the person whom we don't know too well but when we start to know them deeply that hate feeling is already gone. For that reason I can say that we are very judgmental sometimes and that's because we don't know them that well.

Hi dear, I like your topic very well because I used to do the same at many times. Even though I never discussed the same with anybody before or think in detail, I used to assess most of the people with whom I do interact. In general, I don’t like to make company with all people. As you said, I make certain pre assumptions about the people and find alright, I will get company with such people. As I am being a man, I should not be so much like how you people do. Still, I don’t like much of the people who come for friendship. Many a times, I used to ignore such situations and I feel free and avoid the people with whom I don’t like. But in general, it is good to have a valuation about the people who are always around us which ensure more safety and peace of mind with unwanted people around. Regards, Thank-s

It can happen for some. Maybe it had to do with how their initial character is. They do say first impressions are very important. But glad to hear that later you became friends with the person.

No, I am just opposite. Whenever I meet someone I like the newer. I may appear bad in future. but who I think bad and begin to hate is bad for ever.

I know what u mean by this. I doubt that u hate that person. It's better to say you dislike them or like them. Hate is a bigger word than dislike in my perspective.

We have the same attitude towards to new people. Yeah, i also feel the same way. But i dont believe in first impression lasts. On my own experiences, i met people whom at first im very hostile. why?nothing, it's just i dont feel them i like them.in short, i hate them the first time i saw them. i know im being judgmental in the way that i only depend on my intuition and not getting to know them more deeply. a friend of mine one time advised me not to be so unpleasant in talking to new people but be charming and welcoming because sometimes, the person whom I hated most will be the person i will need in my worst. He never been wrong with this because that person who already i get to treat bad before on our first met is the person who is my adviser now and a counselor. I changed myself because of this. I am enlightened. Now, in every people i met,my sweetest smile is always present. I set aside the feelings of hatred and only i put in my mind that this person will soon be my friend. Try the same strategy and for sure you'll gain more friends-true friends.

i don't know, if hate him the first time you met him then why did you hate him? unless he did something wrong on your first meeting but if he hadn't done anything yet what's the cause of your anger maybe you like him hhahha....

It is not known why people may feel that way for the first time seeing that person. However it can be an opportunity to know that person, and ammend that feeling. Just like the case of your best friend now.

never judge a book by its cover and remember there are those who stick closer than a brother, but that is alright, to know better first the person before giving your trust.

Some people have such strong feelings as this about people they see from the start. I personally don't have such feelings when I see a person at first to think whether or not I hate them. I do have a close family member who feels this way. They can tell me right away whether they like or dislike someone. For me I have to get to know a person before I decide whether or not I like them. There aren't too many people that I hate. I do dislike some people but then that's because like you said they may manifest certain traits that I really don't care for. For the most part though it takes me some time before I can decide whether or not I like someone. I generally get a lot with people, they have to be extremely bothersome or annoying for me to dislike them.