how much do you trust your partner?
By thereza
@thereza (314)
Philippines
March 22, 2011 10:17am CST
Many married couples now are getting divorced or annulled , some of the reason are fighting, incompatibility, not happy on the relationship violence and many more reasons. But most of the reason is third party or being unfaithful of our partner and this truth is really really sad. Do you guys trust your partner? or what will you do if you caught them in act?
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16 responses
@pjnjclyn (176)
• Newton, New Jersey
22 Mar 11
If there is no trust then there is nothing. I do trust my husband. I am not going to tell you that there are never times that a thought may run through my head but that is being human and a woman.
I have to say that I do not trust other woman there are stories that I have heard and seen that has made my hair curl.
If I caught my husband doing something that I have to say that it would be over there is no way that I would be able to be with him again.
The way I feel is if you want to sleep or be with another person then you tell the person that you are with there is no reason that you have to go behind someone's back.
There are thing that are sacred to a couple.
I would not be one of those crazy people and go after the woman if I did not know her. Now if I knew her then boy is that a different story.
Bottom line is trust is the foundation of any relationship and if there is no foundation then there is no real relationship.
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
I trust my partner 100 percent. It is not my fault if she is doing anything wrong with me. It is her fault because besides the trust and confident that I given to her. She's doing a sin against me...
If I caught my partner doing such things. I entrusted to law to punished her...I don't want to put a law in my own hand...
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@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years and I trust him completely. So much in fact that I never thought about what if I caught him. I just don't believe he would ever do anything like that to me plus he's old fashioned so I don't feel like I have to worry. My daughter just got married almost a year ago though and she gets nervous when he's around certain women. She's gotten better with it but there are still certain girls that make her hair stand on edge. She, I believe, forgive him after a while if she caught him cheating. My daughter is very forgiving and it would take a while but she would go back to him no divorce involved
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
23 Mar 11
HI, I married to my husband almost 7 years. Yes, I can say... for the past 3 years, we went through so many hard time together. we fought, we just didn't get in the right path. I just didn't know what to do, I wanted to divorce but he never answer me... he said, give him sometimes to fix everything and it will take time to do that. well, years past by and he did 50% good, I can say that.
I have two children and I dont want my children to ask me all those weird questions about us... so I stay in relationship with him and tried to work it out in other way. Now, we are good...
I dont know how to advice you cuz you both are already in divorce process. well, if you should, you can stay away from each other for a while without going to that divorce. I know u said he is violence, so my husband? he does the same but sometimes... a man needs a little space to be just him.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Mar 11
Hi dear,
It is my open opinion that I have no hesitation. I never had such a situation in my life with my partner ever and again I don't think there may be any chances for the same. But in case, if she has any such kind of developments with any body at any situation, I have no hesitation. I know that she is ok and we got a good understanding also. Beyond that, she wishes certain extra or additional inclination or special interest with any body, it is upto her to go ahead. I have only one condition that it should not be disclosed to me.
In any way, if I get a chance to come to know about the same, it will hurt either way. But if we are not ware of such things, we have no tension. Here the life is only for once and in my opinion, if the nature allowed, go for everything any way without hurting anybody. It may not be applicable or acceptable to all. For me, life is such a phenomenon where we should enjoy its fullest with its respective manners. All dislikes and hindrances are made by ourself and if we have no issues, where the problem is?
Thank-s
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
23 Mar 11
i trust my hubby 100% in terms that he only loves me and won't have an affair with any other woman because he had proven it to me for more than 5 years since i had been married to him... but in terms of other things, i am trying my best to be able to trust him 100% as well... it is the process i guess... take care and have a nice day...
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
So far so gud, Trusting your partner is a key to have a successful marriage. That's what everytime my mom said. I do trust my husband a lot, I never hide any secrets from him, we had already talk about that kind of problem if ever rise up with our relationship, I told him to be honest, because If ever I caught him in act that he had an affair with other I would make it sure that he and his mistress will be suffer for their consequence they did. I don't want my kids would feel they were cheated....
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
22 Mar 11
I fully trust my partner. I honestly could not sit here and say that if I didnt, that we would still be together...for me trust is the most important aspect of a relationship. If I caught him in the act...I am not sure what I would do. Seeing as of right now, we are not married, I may walk away, or I would try to go talk to someone and see if it is something we can work out...once we are married, I know I would try to make it work out, but it would take so much for me to be able to trust him again
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Mar 11
I trust my partner with my whole heart. That feeling of trust is something that should be shared with that special someone you are involved in a relationship with. Not having trust would just deteriorate the relationship and feelings of bitterness and regret may soon follow.If I were to catch my partner with someone else, then it would be a relationship that was not meant to be. Being close and sharing together helps to tie the bonds of trust together and lets the relationship have the chance tp blossom and grow.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
When trust is broken it is so hard to bring it back to normal. TRUST is a very important ingredient in a relationship. It's as fragile as a breakable glass that once it's broken, it couldn't be the same again.
I am not married but I am in a relationship and I trust my partner very much. I give her all the trust I could give. And thank God she's been so faithful to me. And it's something I am so thankful for.
@jeffreyallen (298)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I`m a guy with major trust issues when it comes to a relationship. But I`m now starting to really trust my girlfriend, well I mean I should`ve been trusting her in the first place because she`s such an amazing person. And it makes me sad that I couldnt, I dont know why. As for her being unfaithful and cheating. Never gonna happen. I know she wont, but speaking hypothetically... I`d do what any grown person would do. Leave and never look back. Also hate her with my guts. XD
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
23 Mar 11
My husband was almost 3 years away from us now and the most important thing i have trust on him is having performs his duty in our church (Iglesia Ni Cristo) that is one strong point i trust him. Trust men and they will be true to you, treat them greatly and they will show themselves great.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
1 Apr 11
Hello Thereza, yes I trust my partener, now. It has been a very long way to trust him. My father cheated my mother, and they were divorced just a week before we were marriaged. My ex boyfriend, whom I was supposed to marry cheated on me. My husband cheated her girlfriend, sadly with me, and with two more girls. I was a Hell. Since 15 years ago, I began praying a daily Rosary, I haven´t failed Mary since I begun. Not a day. I cried too much. And I didn´t trust my husband for almost 13 years. Without evidence, but with my experience. My husband has cried with me to much. Because my fears were making me so strong and indeed a little bit rude. With a lot of his love and our kids love, and our efforts in a Church Ministery, my heart is getting relief, and my husband has shown me his love and care for me. So I am beginning to live love. And I am beginning to have peace in my heart. Kind blessings!... Dainy
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Trust is the number one factor a relationship survives specially between married people even with friends.If one lost trust to his partner or friend the foundation they have built begins to collapse.If you really care for your partner and you don't want the years of being together go to waste then for me I'll still give my partner a chance and do the best I can to resolve it if it's still possible.