How do we maintain long distance relationshif?
By fitriadi21
@fitriadi21 (386)
Indonesia
March 22, 2011 9:35pm CST
Six month ago, i met a woman in Bali, she's preety and smart i gues. We were together about 2 weeks holiday in Bali. Unfortunately she lives in diferent country, and in time we must coming back to each other our own place. Before she's returned to her's country, we pledge to each other faithfully, and promised to maintain our relationshif via Phone call, Email, or Chat.
After six month passed we still maintain contact via Email or phone call. But i feel something is missing, something wrong when we compared with direct relationshif and meet every time. I feel does not true involved in love with someone but have not seen for a long time.
What do you think?
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20 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
Love is the easiest way to maintain long distance relationship. If you really each other. There is no way to get lost each other...
Long distance relationship is really hard. But if you love each other and have a discipline to yourself. I think you may succeed and have great ending into that relationship...
@XxCodyScenexX (38)
• United States
24 Mar 11
The only, or one of the only things that should keep a relationship together is trust and love. They are the two most powerful things in this world. Now, the girl that I am with lives in a different state and I love her and I trust her so I know that everything will be okay. Sure, there is a major trust issues thing that comes with a long dis. relationship because it is easier to cheat, but if you really love and trust the girl and you really want to stay and be with her, than do everything you can do to make it work. You might move with her, or vise versa. The point is, she may live somewhere else, but the truw fact is that you still have her and that is what matters
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
23 Mar 11
When it comes to long distance relationship, trust is the most important thing. Without trust, it will be hard because we can't meet with each other that often. Anyway, I think trust is the key element in every relationship in order to make it works. Good luck anyway. Take care and have a nice day.u
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
23 Mar 11
well, I used to deal with long term relationship. it is depend on your situation as well... if you love her and she loves you back as well... why dont you two get marry and then move back in one place. Or, you can ask her to come over to ur country or your move to her county. im sure each one of you must give up something to be together... if still hold on to something that is not ur future then you will loose everything. Think again, and hope you work it out
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
It depends on how much love you have with each other.
No distance can be a barrier with two hearts that love each other faithfully.
I have a long distance relationship that i met online.
We haven't met each other in person.
But our relationship lasted for 4 years.
Yes,we are still communicating with each other.
We don't know where this kind of love will ever lead us.
but we never lost hope that someday we will be together...
@cloud31 (5809)
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24 Mar 11
Communication, trust and faithfulness, that supposed to be the best way to maintain a long distance relationship. But you cannot expect that those three can of course reach your expectations to have a healthy relationship..Somehow her/his presence still needed to grow the relationship fonder.
The difference is how to express your feeling towards him/her when she is away..I suggest to see each other more often and let your feelings develop in his/her presence.Maintaining a long distance relationship isn't that difficult if you really love each other.As I mentioned above those three would help its your way to make it lovelier if you both are sincere of your feelings.
Happy mylotting!
@graxcrix (19)
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23 Mar 11
if you think what you feel is love then dont lose hope.. just keep that communication on & patiently wait for the time that you will be together.. trust me, its all worth it.. but you also have to get to know that girl if she's really worth waiting for.. goodluck!=)
@emilieyang (94)
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23 Mar 11
Your relationship is just like me. He is french and I am chinese
I met my boyfriend in chinese city, i just come here for business travel, he is also come for some business. We stay together for one week, then we all go back. And we contact each other just like you guys did for about two months. Missing some body too much but can't meet, that feeling is painful. And we all know if we don't be with each other together, this relationship will be over soon.
So he comes to china this month after we seperate for 4 months.
My advice is that if you really want this relationship work, just do everything to meet her and be with her, or there will be no result at last.
@donski (132)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
If you really love the girl, even if she's miles away from you, it doesn't matter. as you have said,You have all the means of communication, there's the internet and the skype so what else is missing. or take time to visit her if you really miss her.
@investor211 (474)
• Mexico
23 Mar 11
honestly, i dont believe in long distance relationship
let me ask u a few questions
what about her past on her country? does she had bf before? how about male friend lose to her, u said shes cute and smart hehe
dont lie to urself, thinak abouot possibilities good and bad we r humans able to fail flesh is flesh my friend, and persanaly i never trust on that
good luck
@feeltmoon (4)
• China
23 Mar 11
hi,Love between two different places is hard,first i have to admit this point.I think you've already saw that a smile from face to face is ten times helpful than a phonecall you've made!Distant relationship is a little illusional,a little unrealistic,and a little torturing.Maybe what i say is frustrating,but it's what i've been through,and it's just the same experience like yours.And i think if you love her you'd better meet her as often as possible,even live with her,in my oppinion.You must show your determination loving her and being with her.
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
My husband works abroad.It's hard to have a long distance relationship because we barely see each other but if you love someone and he loves you too, there is no way it can go wrong. Faith, love and trust can conquer all.Of course, you both need to work hard to make it last, the effort should be mutual.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
23 Mar 11
it is difficult mantain a long distance relationship probably if you and your lover has the same idea about relationship,patience and trust it could work even in this situation but i think that when the time passes is always complicated mantain it as the first time you tried this relationship!!Good luck..
@helper9562000 (311)
• New Zealand
23 Mar 11
firstly congrats on finding a that you like and get on with as that is very rare. I too was in a long distance relationship a few years ago. We got married 18 months after meeting and were seperated againfor 9 months just 3 weeks after the wedding due to international visa issues.
So i can understand how you feel and the thing that kept us going was thinking of our future where we planned to be together. WE always talked about what we did and the things we would like to do when we get back together.
You have also get to let each other live their own lives. Plan a time when the two of you can talk, watch movies together, surf the internet together and whenthat time is over you go and spend times with your real friends and let each other live their own lives. Talk to your friends about your love and the support will come.
Good luck and keep posting about how is going.
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Constant communication, trust and fidelity. These are just some of the most important aspects in a long distance relationship. But of course seeing each other is also very important since you only get to know a person well if you share moments with him/her. I know this is hard for both of you but keep the communication open and of course, try to meet halfway with her.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
if you really loved her and you think that she loves you too my friend trust is the only weapon of long distance relationship. trust, faith and constant communication so that you can still talk about on everything as if you were together :) goodluck to you
@niluhputu960 (98)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 11
Honestly it's very difficult to maintain long distance relationship, i did few times and all messed up. Like you mentioned, when you love someone you want to be with her/him. Two weeks for me it doesn't enough to build stable relationship. But if these relationship you feel comfortable with, why not? carry on..
@sunshine03 (47)
• United States
23 Mar 11
long distance relationship is not easy to handle,but if you truly love each other you both find your way to be together.trust to yourself,to feelings and specially to your relation.go,do what you want to do,find the best way.one of you can move to your places.i've been through on this kind of relationship and thanks God we both survived,now me and my husband is married for almost 2 years.goodluck to both of you,follow your heart and your feelings!!