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Hi,fjclolazy! Yeah,that's a tough thing to handle with.I went through some phase like that,too.I didn't want to study for a while and argued with my parents almost everyday.I even wanted to quit school 'cause I was fed up with reciting those meaningless policies and I wanted to do my own thing.Quite rebellious at that time.My little cousin is also going through such a phase right now.His grades are falling and my aunt and him are having a little problem now.I'm still thinking if I should go there and persuade him to seize time.Your brother is at a critical phase right now.If he can still control himself and he is just being rebellious,it can be fine.But if not,it can be a real problem.He may end up being with those kinds of people.My advice,don't try to persuade him like your parents do.Be nice to him,tell him that you can understand,tell him that many people go through this phase as well,ask him to tell you his problems.It may not be easy because you're older and also a girl.Guys think they rock if they hang out with those "cool" people by skipping school,smoking and gambling.And they think girls like that type of guys.Don't try to play a role as an elder sister,instead,try to be like a good friend.Recommend him some educational movies or books if possible.Hope he will pull through. Good luck to you!

Hi. Sorry to hear your having problems with you brother. I was like that when I was his age. I did not want to study and liked to smoke and drink. Its really a bad situation. Problem is that there is really not much you can do besides continuing to lead by example. Do not enable him but be there when he needs your help. He will go through a phase and when he is ready, he will change. It takes longer for some than others. I was like that and I did not seek help for many years. My family did not enable me and were there for me when I finally decided to change. Hope everything works out for you but you need to concentrate on you.

I can understand your feelings. You are really worrying about your little brother. In teenage friends are everything for them. They can't recognize their parents and other relatives. If you have any friend with good character, tell him about your brother and his bad habits and ask his help to turn your brother as a good person through a healthy friendship. Sometimes it may work for him. Pray for your brother daily, nothing is impossible through prayer. Submit him fully in front of God. You can hope a good result.

hi friend, some teenagers undergo a phase like you mentioned, but I hope he does not give up on his studies, I remember when I was on a similar state my parents talked to me and they said "education is very important, later in life you might become very rich but you can easily lose all that in an instant, but your education and your degree, no one can take that away from you" This was one of the turning points where I really strived, guess you have to talk to him, not to scold him but rather make it like a family heart to heart talk or something , good luck friend and hope you get over this

I feel for you sweetie, let's just hope your brother won't end up in the worst part of his teenage adventures. I've seen a lot of kids in similar situation and can't help but feel sorry for their parents. I could only pray for your brother for him to realize what you're trying to say to him. Anyway, just hang on and don't give up on your brother too. :)

I've been in the same situation when my younger brother doesn't want to go to school anymore because of some friends who became a bad influence for him. There are times when I would cry and explain to him but that time,it's useless. My mom and I don't know what to do. Being the eldest, I take the responsibility to talk to his teachers, i did all his requirements just for him so he can pass. Unfortunately, he didn't report for school and as expected he didn't pass. The last thing I could do is just pray, maybe after years of prayers and novenas, he is now perfectly back in shape, he confesses so many things he regret doing at the end. I told him what matters most is realizing your mistake, accept it and change for the better....I'm so happy knowing that the lost shepherd has come back...Have faith..Things will be okay..

Hi fjclolazy, i can understand , i think your brother is in teens now so its quite common people addicting towards and feel hard to accept good things at this age, so all that you can do is advice him politely and talk to him nicely and tell him what to do and what is good and what not , and if possible try warn him but don't go beyond that...don't worry everything will be alright.

My daughter went through a similar phase. The important thing is to be there for him and make sure he knows how wrong the choices are. Everyone has choices to make and a lot of teens just need more guidance. Don't give up on him.

It is really sad. But don't you worry a lot now. It is all teen age person's problem to have some nasty habits. They do it just fro thrill amidst friends. Advice him not ot do it in his loneliness. Let him have it for fun alone. Then it will be just like society doing and not develop as a habit.

Sorry to hear this fjclolazy, I have never had this experience personally but do know several others who had this issue personally with their children. Some form of intervention with the family will help. But really he has to want to make things better for himself or nothing anyone says will be able to change him. So do take care of you and your family during this difficult time. Try and speak to him and see if he can re-think and change his ways. Take care.

your brother is like many young people. the first thing to determine is whether or not he is capable of doing the school work. if it is too easy for him, it's often a problem. if it's too hard, have your parents meet with his teachers to see if they may have a suggestion. his friends are probably a big part of his problem since they encourage or at least join him in his bad behavior. make an effort to meet his friends and invite them into your home so you/your parents know them well enough so that they can engage in some redirection of their energies. it's a tough problem. seek help from other family members, the school counselors, clergy, community groups. good luck

almost every person I went to high school with was way worse than that. I know it's horrible, my cousin slept with someone she barely knew and did not even like or was attracted to in the slightest. It's painful to see someone you love have such bad behavior. I would just calmly and honestly talk to them without sounding too judgmental about his behavior.

hi fjclolazy, I don't have a brother but your brother case is the same as my cousin. in my cousin's case, he became a bad boy due to he didn't get what he want. he asked his dad a guitar but his dad didn't want to bought it for him because he don't want his child to be a band personnel. now my cousin get what he want (as long as it not bad) like guitar, motorcycle, etc. and now he's more often stay at home than hang out with his friends. his friends can come and play in his house. and the relationship between father and son getting better. I hope this may help you a bit and if you want to cry, just do it. crying can help release sad feeling. goodluck

Maybe he needs a therapist. You can only be there for him and try to help him but it may not be something you can fix. He probably needs someone to talk to.

It's okay my friend. You found the right place to tell your grievance about your brothers...It really sad to know about those teenage for now that never consider how parents sacrifices to give them a good future... This really a matter concern to those teenage boy or girl. They must be aware of what parents do to make there brighter future..sad!!!

I really understand how you feel. Try to talk with your brother, maybe he will listen. Some of these kids have issues like this because there is something wrong with themselves. They maybe need attention but wasn't given by the family so he did those things so your whole family will be able to see that he also exist. try to ask him why he's doing this if you think you have given him everything there maybe something that he wants more than the things you have given him. My little brothers are not like your brother somehow but I can feel that they too are trying to seek attention from my parents that is why they are doing crazy stuff with their lives, luckily for me, they listen to my parents and stop whatever it is they are planning. Just be strong and try to talk with him.

Hi, This is really a bad news especially for the parents. This happen to many teenager when they have mix with friends that do not like to study. They tend to do something that were band by adult or the school. What you can do is to tell you parents about your brother situation and ask them monitor him who are his friends, you parents should take action to stop your brother from being mix with those friends anymore, I know to stop someone seeing friends is difficult, but at least your parents should try to stop him, other wise he will be getting worse.

I'm sorry to hear about your little brother. This is not your faults. He want to do that things by himself. He'll know how to live better some days. Give him the good advices is what you can do in this situation.

hi, all i can say is pray for him,and time will come that your brother will realize everything,and he still have time to make it right,just believe that he can,and dont force him because the more you force him the more he do what he did.wait for the right time.

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. I had a nephew like that too. And I really feel sorry for him but once they mix with the wrong company, then it's very hard to get them to turn over a new leaf. But that doesn't mean that you can't try. Hopefully one day they will learn from their mistakes.