Bragging On Mylot

I am VERY VERY AWARE of where you are coming from. I have had a difficult time with the same thing. It's like some can't just answer calmly and realize even if you have read the guidelines, not everything is going to stick in your mind as you go along on Mylot. Maybe your discussion will help this situation out. There just is a right way to do everything. It is not necessary to be ugly. I was ugly once in the past and learned my lesson, but some of the vets haven't let it go.

It was wrong for that person to act like a sarcastic know it all.The aim of mylot is to create a community and the only way to do this is by being mutually supportive allowing each other to learn from eachother.This can't work if people are being arrogant and sarcastic.

It is not easy dealing with new users for any of us and I think that it takes a lot of patience to be able to respond to their questions without flipping it. Most times I try not to come across as evil though I'm not sure really whether it always works out how I want it to When I see them asking questions I also go to their profile and 'land' on their other topics and try and help them by encouraging them with a response, hoping that they will take the advice given elsewhere and come and comment. Those that do will then forget what happened when they were 'scolded'. We were all new once and we shoud indeed all remember those times. I think it is easier to deal with today's new users if we were treated well when we were new - and I was! We need the new users because they bring us new topics and new ideas and they need us to share our experience here with them so it should be teamwork so that we are all winners!

hello bhaby, I've read some responses and well...what can i say.(hahahaahhaha) Okay...i am laughing much that almost locked my jaw (can't resist) again...here you are and can never get rid of your wits ( soooooo...brave GREAT!) Like i told you,i never reached this post and number with that star having just friends,but as well -not so called friends. Just avoid them,and ignore...mylot has so many mylotters and topics to deal with rather than ranting and getting pissed off with one or two "feeling genius" and being a veterans eh.(okay fine whatever,i am done with those kind) Good for you,at least you were able to express your feelings and also gives motivation to newbies here. This is true,some newbies don't feel welcome here due to these reasons. See how mylot population risen up,but,the actual active mylotters are where? Just keep mylotting..enjoy and have fun...avoid those ones who you knew you need to avoid and simply report those needs to be reported. I loved this topic...what a welcome back topic...

That made me laugh a little. Hehehe. I know what you mean. We all once a newbie and we are not all crazy~smart that knows everything about mylot when we all started. We should humble ourselves and guide those who need help.

If it is not a big deal to you, you would not have started this discussion. Just stating my opinion. As for the 'veterans', I found them to be helpful in guiding new members, especially when I was a newbie. I found them helpful even now. When they give the FAQs, that is the correct information to provide. It is not sarcastic, it is just giving the official information. Which is much better for everyone rather than giving an opinion or giving the wrong information. When a 'veteran' is a little short in responses given, may be we should think about how many responses of the same type they have made. They are entitled to get frustrated. I have not been here for long, but I do get frustrated sometimes when I see the same questions popping up everyday, those which are already answered in the FAQs or given in Guidelines. If I feel frustrated, imagine how frustrated older Lotters who have been here for a long long time.

I know I am gonna get crap for saying this, but some people need not be so uptight. Bragging, sarcasm...whatever the issue is... it's the internet. This isnt the only online forum on the web ya know. Calm down, have fun, and don't try to run the sight if you don't own it. :)

Hi. bhabycatch013. I think that a veteran or anyone on myLot should act like they are better or know more than others, just because they have been here much longer than the newbie has been, that does not mean that they have a right to treat them any less. We all at one point did not understand the rules and regulations of myLot, but we can get there. No one is perfect, we all have been in their shoes at one point of time. And some of us are still are. I myself, am still learning the ropes of myLot. I think that we all should respect each other and treat one another as if we would like to be treated.

I treat newbies like they treat me!!! When they come in & immediately disrespect myLot, I'm going to respond with disrespect!!! When they come in & it is clear they truly want to come here to earn & learn, I will do my best to HELP them reach their goal!!! The way I see it is...if they are so sensitive they can't accept an undesirable opinion, then they won't last very long!!! Why should everybody who are peacefully (or sometimes not so peacefully) getting along change their way of doing things because a newbie is overly sensitive??? I was raised that "when in Rome, you live as the Romans live". I didn't come to myLot expecting myLot to conform to me...I came to myLot to conform to myLot. Fortunately, I didn't find it that difficult to fit in. However, if it had been difficult, then I would have known I was in the "wrong place" & would have continued looking for a better place to earn!!!!

Hello Bhabycatch, I guess it's better off stop saying that they're are genious, it adds flame to the fire. mind you that this site is dominated with OLD or middle age people that also gets pissed off when they're prides gotten hit. and probably this is when you faced real frank people that will take you head on. This is what mylot is all about. some people can be nuts most specially with their post. like what i said before, If it's offending to you, just report it.Don't act like that other lotter did that made her quit mylot.

I don't like people bragging out on other people, It just make me mad to think they see themselves as experienced individuals who are smart and criticizing on other peoples work and bragging that they know more. I hope they will just leave those people alone or just leave humble and not so sarcastic comments to people making discussions. ^ ^

Hi dear, I think we all have a good time regardless of new or old. After few weeks of regular practice here in myLot it is so simple to move on with things here. Few are rarely go through the facts in detail and would find certain uncertainties. A combined and understanding approach will make everyone equal and help to have a good relationship here. Thank-s

Wow, that was humiliating...for the Veteran! If we use it here for just two weeks we surely will know how to use it, why is there any reason to brag about? I feel shy for this person, bragging about stupid things. Brag about opening an institution, brag about adopting a kid, winning a race...

Typing an entire discussion on 1 person that may be sarcastric in a response to a newbie (and i say may be, since i've never seen any veteran being intentionally rude or sarcastic to any newcomer here)tells me you are more upset about this than you will admit and i really don't see the purpose for it, especially since most veteran Mylotter's are more than generous in helping newbies with their questions and problems here. Did you purposely post this so that the member you're referring to would read it?if so,i i think that is being sarcastic as well. Why not just friend this person and pm whoever it may me and explain why you were offended by this one single remark?, if in fact it was rude.No need to post it here.

i was fortunate enough not to have any run-ins with rude remarks coming from fellow mylotters. like everyone else in the site, everyone started as a newbie and bound to make mistakes or miscalculations along the way. some veterans are patiently helpful while others get tired of reading same questions/queries almost everyday. faceless discussions and voiceless words are bound to create misunderstandings also. a clash of cultures as well as personalities can be evident too. how we perceive things can be different from one another. i was not able to check/read a sample discussion that you might be referring to. but generally, one can often read sarcasm in how a post is worded or even between the lines. bragging is as bragging goes. it may not be a norm, rather a part of personality. newbies and veterans get attacked in some discussions one way or another... which makes the discussion either lively or it dampens the fun. either way, if you get in too deep... you're bound to be affected more than others. i know you feel deeply, as part of your symphatetic nature. hopefully, more people can be helpful and nicer and more understanding of one another. but reality is... it's not always like that. hope you have a great day too. stay sweet.

I do know what it felt like to be a newbie since i was also a newbie, anyways with your topic, i never really thought she was bragging now being sarcastic..but then i know there are also some who are but i actually felt like thats what makes the post or discussion alive! lol.. so i really do not mind

hi bhabycatch! well what can I say? hehe I guess most of us experienced the same when we are just starting. I also have some bad experiences with those type of people here, I remember that there's someone before who told me that, "this kind of post is not allowed, its a repeated topic...blah blah..." but after years, I checked on that topic and surprisingly its still up! I think there are better ways to express ourselves and teach those who are just starting, I think instead of answering them sarcastically, we can choose to be more encouraging but well I also understand that there are some who seems to be not learning, so I guess with them we can use tougher words. lol! (but i'm not doing that)hehe What I did before, instead of giving attention to them, I just ignore them and find my place here, meet great people and friends who are there and ready to help and guide the newcomers. I'm glad to meet most of them which makes my stay here more fun.

Hi bhabycatch, One of the best thing about mylot is that if you do something which is against the terms it simply either deletes your reply or discussion but dont disable your account . Infact this is very good thing for the new members. Only more and more active new members would make this site grow and give us more discussion to respond or more responses to our discussions. So yes it is duty of experienced people to educate the new ones but you have to be polite about it unless new member is ignorant and insulting.

We come from different cultures here and what could be an innocent statement of information could sound arrogant or sarcastic to those who come from a different culture.

I am still new and I have noticed people who have been on mylot being caustics as well . As a newbie I have read the guideline but don't full understand all of it. It gets easier the more and more I participate on the site but yet it is still confusing. Thank you for the warm welcome