Is it enjoying life to marry many times?
By Oldsix691418
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
China
March 27, 2011 8:08pm CST
As we can see,many people get married more than once in China nowadays.
Among my neighbours there's a man,who sells fish,after divorcing he has married more than 5 wives,but he's not rich.and there's another 80-year-old man,he has married an old woman ignooring his sons blocking,for he can afford it himself.
But there's such a man,he's a local official,his wife works as a teacher,and his two handsome sons are both at college.for some years he's been staying with a young woman stealthily.now it's turned out that the woman is a underground streetwalker and he's been sticked by her!so he had to divorce.
I don't know what all such men and women are chasing.do you know?
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25 responses
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Mar 11
People are selfish and one minded now days. They want what they want and will walk over anyone they need to to get it. And people do go through the change and have to have some excitement in their lives more than the regular too. 'Sticked by her'? Not sure what you mean by that.
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@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
31 Mar 11
Hehe,i meant he had to divorce to marry that woman,or he would lose all.Have fun!
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Apr 11
Well, People are still selfish and one minded now days. Hehehe
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Apr 11
I think I know. They have caught the Romance bug. I mean like us Yanks have been doing for many , many years , your countrymen are looking for romance , not Real marriage. They meet someone , they ' fall in love" and then they marry. But the marriage is only based on romantic feelings , so when that first blush of romantic feelings wane, they look for romance in someone else.And when they find it in another , they divorce their spouse and marry the other person. What I think they want is Romance that lasts forever.But when you mix it with marriage, it rarely does.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Apr 11
If you Always wanted a family then not to have one when you are old , I can see being Very lonely. But there are many who Never wanted children, like me. That is another reason marriage isn't for me. But to be really loved Is. I'm lucky , I have my guy! I wil nevee marry him because I love him so much.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
27 Apr 11
I want romance if I have a chance,but I never give up my family to chase any romance.The so-called "romance" is limited,the romance without family is acceptable!
I think the man will gain nothing when he's old.Have fun!
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@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
27 Apr 11
Haha,just looking for romance without minding anything else!?
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
30 Mar 11
People always want what they do not have. Then when they get it - they want something else!
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
I don't think it is enjoyable to marry many times. Marriage is sacred and it should last a life time. You don't marry someone you have just met and divorce her the moment you felt you're not compatible with the person. It should be thought so many times, choose the one you want to grow old with and marry her and live your life together as you grow old.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
Yes,you are right,and you can have right to choose your preferable partner.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
2 Apr 11
ohhhhhhhh friend in India only one wife is sufficient because here monthly income is not more and in most of the community is restriction for second marriage but in some exceptions cases they can do but 5 wives is so more.
Here only one wife is not bear for husband so how can second or third. In china no problem because in that country allowed to do more than one marry.
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
28 Mar 11
I don't think a lot of people respect marriage anymore. If their' spouse offends them, they just throw them away and get a new spouse.
I think that this man just doesn't have what it takes to work on problems that arise in a marriage. Five times is a lot.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
Yes,nowadays more and more people are not serious to their marriages.
@zukichucha (991)
• United States
28 Mar 11
Some people marry many times so they will not grow old alone. They feel lonely without a mate. My mom is like this. She says she gets used to the company of someone and feels helpless without one. I can not understand this. I would rather be alone and happy than with someone and miserable!
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
That's understandable,and many old people have the problems of that kind.but i don't like staying alone,it's so lonely.Have fun!
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
I think maybe for the men; we Asian women are not particular with marrying a lot of times. It is a culture of Asia that men are only the ones that have the right to marry and particularly the virgin women but women cannot marry if she's not a virgin anymore.
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
29 Mar 11
I think you must ask this question a person who married more then one.They can tell you the exact reason.
But in my opinions it's not enjoying life to marry many times. I believe it's some time difficult to handle life with many husband or wives.
Have a good day!
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
I never agree to marry some times all the life,but there are such things indeed,and it seems that's a trend for some of the people...
@umbrelatc (78)
• Mexico
28 Mar 11
hello
wow, I did not even want to marry me and beat these people and get married and divorciace record, where they get the will to live that way, I could not, perhaps could be satisfied and not need to marry rather than a relationship not simple?, pay pansions to all those people?
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
Hehe,you have your own life,of course we never learn from those men.Have fun!
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
29 Mar 11
IT's their life, their freedom to choose the path they want to take. Nobody can tell them if they are right or wrong, because everbody needs to take a wrong step before knowing which is the right one. Life is short, while majority of us are serious, but minority are trying to live life to their fullest. We can't determine what kind of life they are trying to create, but as long as they are happy, why not?
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
Wow,it seems you are one of them,you really came to the point.but what i want to say is,he is ruining the happiness of the families while looking for his since he's got married.do you want that?
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
Fortunately we don't have divorce in my country. Although there is an option available like annulment or legal separation. But these things require a lot of time and a lot of money.
I really don't find marrying a couple of times exciting. What if you end up with someone who will just abuse your children or make you a just a milking cow?
For me I only want to spend the rest of my life with my husband. Although we may have differences, we try to make the marriage work and not take the easy way out like opting for a separation.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
If both of the couple love each other and cherish each other,there must be very less separating.
@Cashier620 (1)
• United States
28 Mar 11
It is enjoying life however you live it and its making u happy. if u marry 1 time or 20 times is all how u enjoy it. there are ppl that have been married more than once and are as happy as a person thats been married only once. its all how you look at happiness.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
Hehe,if you haven't had children,that's not a big problem.but you never live without your family.i think those people who are too selfish can never find their real happiness.Have fun!
@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Mar 11
I also don't understand why some people are not serious to their marriage. Of course there are many problems in the real life. However, it is not a reason for you to have an affair or get divorced. Perhaps I am very traditional, and I just want to get married once in my whole life. Marriage is something very important for me and I won't play around.
I love China
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
31 Mar 11
I agree with you,my friend.Marriage is no fun,since you've decided to get married,you must take the responsibility for the family and the children,or you won't do so in case the spouse and the the children will be harmed.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 11
They have different reasons, and s_x may not be the primary reason. Among the reasons other than s_x and money are
1) Looking for someone able to give physical and emotional support. This is especially true in certain cases of self-employed people.
2) Looking for someone with a compatible intellectual capability. This helps in mutual understanding in certain issues.
3) Looking for a submissive person, be it the wife or the husband. There are men who appear to be aggressive and strong willed outside their home, but lose their assertiveness when with their wife.
By the way there is a case in my country of a woman who has remarried more than twenty times. The latest husband is much younger than she is.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
Great,what you listed makes sense very much.really there are many different things all over the world.Have fun!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Well, people have different instinct in life. We don't blame them in that particular category but blame the law which is not strict on the part of husband and wife or in the life of the spouse...
If the law intensified campaign about responsible parenthood. People prevent to do something which is not improper in any given time...
Here in our country there is no such divorce and hard to file a case against each other. Because there must be sufficient evident to file a case against to a person committing a crime...If the prima facie evident is sufficient there must prove that the aggrieve party is psychologically incapacitated...
I think it's not enjoying to marry many times if the reason is not valid. If person marry many times due to his wife/husband pass away...not wrong. But if he marry many times because she don't like her wife/husband is not good...
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
1 Apr 11
You are so right.and my country's law allows the people who lost spouses to find their new companies.Thank you for your detailed response!
@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
28 Mar 11
I think this day there are so many marriage not related with love especially when more mature person or you can said old. I got one of my uncle married again after his wife pass away and married with someone thats his child will not suitable for him. I know its not love behind it and maybe he is just wanna someone to be his company because all her child has grown up and married.
But there always exception like someone married someone for money and security. There one of my friend who told me can not life without man by hers side.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
31 Mar 11
I can tell you that there are many such old men or women in China,and they don't want love but a company,that's acceptable.but some of the younger are never of this kind...
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Mar 11
It seems that some just do not have their priorities straight. It also seems that when they do as such that they cannot live alone. There is nothing wrong with loving anyone and or enjoying the pleasures of s@x but when they sacrifice and do not know how to balance their loved one it is an awful shame.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
31 Mar 11
Everyone has right to choose his or her life,but the result will be unforeseen.sigh...
@Janexiao (173)
• China
28 Mar 11
i think if you meet the right one, one time marriage is enough. But for some people, they just don't cherish what they have now, they feel very unsatisfied, and life for them is so dull, sometimes they want to have more excitement,so that's what you said happened. For an old man, maybe they feel so lonely,i can understand that.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
31 Mar 11
Yes,the reasons are different,and i hope everyone can find his or her true love.