I am Late...

Glad to see you back dear sister

you should and you must uhmn...will let you know when i am there

Everyone in our family tries to be advanced, to be on safe side. My father more so... And as a result when ALL of us are going somewhere, we'll reach the place up to half an hour in advance! Waiting long for our train at midnight is not that much fun though...

hello dear sis i just waited for your personal response to sids hehehe

Hi! Sreekala and hora Same here most people I know do the same we always arrive at least 1/2 hour to all destinations. It must be a hereditary thing. lol.. We have a joke in our culture and we always say to one another don't forget that when we say 8am we do not mean our Hispanic timing but more like American time clock. It is a traditional joke we all say because in our culture many are accustomed to arrive at least an hour late if not more to parties. LOL.. So we always also joke and say when the party is at 3pm we will tell them it starts at 2pm, too funny this joke of ours amongst ourselves never gets old.

I found it best to give myself at least an hour to get to work which usually meant I would be there early. I hate to be late.

Hi frontvisions That is so very true, I can relate to what you mention - it also depends on your interest on what you're attending - I find that people started taking things for granted in due course of time and I have even heard people say - so what is going to happen if I am 10 minutes late. In my case, I attribute to my delays mostly to my illhealth and also the traffic jams - we are having some construction work going on or some other beautification of roads thing always since the past 4-5 years and that results in traffic jams somewhere or the other... 90% of the time. So you either start off quite early or wait and fix appointments during the mid day when the traffic on the roads is lesser.

Hi yspmyl I did try that once... But as I was aware that it is 15 minutes before time... it made me more lazy But yes, I have seen many people do this and the trick works okay for them

That's why I said that being late is just a habit, if you really want to do it, and you really work on that, you will be able to do it. In your case, I think it is best if your wife can help to adjust the clock for you without let you know how early she adjusted the time, I think you will be ready and will not be late anymore, just because you do not know the real time and psychologically you will be panic and prepare yourself earlier because you though that you are late.

Hi zralte Of course, I would keep bothering or disturbing the people who are waiting about my delays. There is no reason for me not to do this because I know how bad and ugly it looks... someone waitng for you and just being unaware when you are going to reach or even you are reaching or not. Most of these people who I can keep waiting know about my illness, and so they kind of understand even if I do not call them... but on most cases, I consider 1. reaching late as bad manners and as I cannot help this, I always remember calling up and letting them know about my current location and status.

At least I am now warned of your tardiness. I would schedule my time accordingly then, if I am to meet you. My roommate in college used to take a long time getting ready and she always made us late. I devised a plan in which I tell her 30 mins earlier than the actual time we need to get out. As in if we need to go out by 4:30, I'd tell her that we need to get out by 4:00...it worked until she finds out that none of us started to get ready for 4:00, therefore she didn't see the reason she needs to start getting ready. We even went as far as to turn her watch early, worked for one day. She found out by looking at other's watch.

@rebelann That is the idea. Give them the time to get there In time.

Never tell a compulsively late type person that you'll give her earlier times cuz then they'll expect it and still be late.

Stupid net! Made me loose my chance, by far distance....

Hi Hora_fugit Innocent face I would love to learn making that kind of a face... maybe my innocence is too shy or I am a born non-actor - the right expression rarely comes to my face Great to know a secret - you are late though on some occasions and with select people. This is true, meet with relatives or close freinds, well they all have a charm when waiting anxiously - though they at times may be furious when we arrive late

No mamu, i have some other issues and thats why i was busy. Some big issues. Okay, i need to set the time faster on GMT.....

Hmmm so mamu is online... doesnt call me or doesnt chat with me... Sister around so mamu is busy and occupied and forgets me... okok. Enjoy your time with dear sister... I will have my share later. Now, the response. I did set the clock 15 minutes faster. And guess what I arrived more late because I thought there are 15 more minutes and I have the time...lol But yes, the idea seems to be right and I will ask someone to change the time of all the clocks and forward them to some time unknown to me... Only issue - what if they set is slow

A very long holiday might help.

Oh that should be around soon... I am planning to visit my doctor and gift him some money for my checkups(poor him)... though only for a few days (5-7 I believe) but that should be help

Hi saphrina I understand the punctuality thing and am missing it these days. I am unhappy somewhere within that I am unable to stick to the timelines I decide for me and also for others... it is quite an unpleasant situation... Anyways, I think I will fight out and find a way that would help me get back to the right track again. But yes, there are a few people still around that I would never want to be delayed with... Any suggestions to get things back?

hi topffer At last I found a place that would welcome me and I would feel at home But that is not what I think I want... I am getting sick of being almost branded as a late comer these days. Yes, there is something about the culture too as I can feel... our government, our society (at Orissa) all seems to be moving at snails' pace... we all are feeling lazy and that is I think taking over me too... when I find many dont turn up on time, eventually I think I too started getting into this

Celebrities are always at least one hour late here. As I hate to wait, I generally eat the petit four before their speech : do not say anything, I know that my stomach is not polite.

Hi topffer That to me sounds like the celebrities that say they are fashionably late sort of like making a grand entrance.

Hi Thanks I was about to start a similar discussion today - telepathy dear I think I did not steal your idea Yes dear, I believe it is a kind of mentaility that many people of our country have. But yes, we should be careful and always try to reach on time when it comes to the travel by flights or trains... otherwise it is a loos of not only money but also many things.

Hi Sid, Some times it happens - in fact I was think the discussion in such a way that - our time constrains. Mostly we used to get exact timings with regard to marriage, inauguration, office timing, train timings etc. Eg. I make a commitment to one of my friend that I will meet him for some work at 6:00 in the evening, and I will come 6:45 some times without even having a mention. That is what I want to know how strict on timing for all, and how much importance we give for it. Some time we may purposely get delayed for some function even if we know the exact time. Basically, reach late and we won't feel any bad on that. Mostly I will do it, Sunday also I had some function which was scheduled at 6:00 in the evening and I reached there by 6:50. If I planned, I could have reach there by 6 and I didn't much importance from my side. This is a trend and we won't keep the importance of the timings and I was thinking what people want to tell about it. However, some time we may be late, or the other party may be late, but I found only few people give preference to it, even if the function get delayed or not. My wife is so particular in this case, and she want to be there within the mentioned time and we always have some talk on this issue. In most times, she make me angry by saying this and would tell me that being punctual with the timing shows how discipline we are in life and don't look at other how they are. It is true and it seems she is somewhat right. How is everything from your side [it is out of myLot and hope you are alright and your health and all are in good condition]. Regards, Thank-s

Hi SimplyD That sounds like a good time manager. I can learn this one from you surely

Hi changjiangzhibin clumsy birds have to start flying early That is quite appropriate and I should learn from this one for sure.

Hi jazel_juan Whoa So Early I hope that someday soon, I can get back reaching on time... But hey what do you do so early? I mean, does you office hours start early and end early too? I tried this once when I was in a different city (in 1999-2000) but the bosses and seniors said that I was not allowed so early... Hence I asked True that those who value time, ensure that they reach at least on time (if not always before or much before time)

Hi LetranKnight Can I be honest here - I kind of knew this - going by your discussions of late where you keep informingus about your daily chores at hand and the reasons why you are not able to respond to all the responses.

Dear Sir When I was working away from home (I mean at local computer Institutes as a Teacher) I was quite a punctual person and believed that time must be respected and Time always has a value. Today, I think, my being confined to the house has made me go back and it seems that I have forgotton or even started neglecting the importance of time... I think I need to work out on some solution to this for sure. Regards, theSids.

Hi toni That was me a few years back. When I was working at office(s) I always used to arrive on time and I think this was like normal for me. Even with friends, there were a few who lost my friendship because they were mostly late and I believed if you dont respect time, be punctual, you are not going to be better or even eligible for trying to succeed. Today, the scenario is a bit different and I find myself late on most of occasions.

Hi bhaby A dear person is always worth waiting for But yes, the timing and not reaching on time at the place or appointment is quite an indication that we are unorganized... kind of reflects bad shade of us to many I am facing this problem of late and maybe it has something to do with me staying mostly at home btw, you got a new avatar and it is a pretty one

Dear Kalyani mam Yes, I can understand what it takes when you are a part of a family of a Teacher. The punctuality, a sense of discipline all I think automatically gets induced and the entire family benefits. I can say this because I too worked as a Teacher for most part of my career and always realized the importance of time. Regards theSids.