im afraid now,,,,,to be a single,,,,again,,,,,

I don't know how old you are, but welcome to the twenty-first century! Women do not need a partner to be a person of great value. I'm not talking about money, although that is certainly nice to have. I'm talking about having the confidence to move forward in your life without depending on another person. If your boyfriend loves you enough, he will do what he says, but do not let how you live depend on it, because he may not have the guts to do so. If he is very young, he may easily cave to family pressures. Get up in the morning knowing you can sit, stand, walk and breathe. With these things in mind use these great talents to get through the day. If you work, get in there and do your job while asking your supervisor if there is something else you can add to your duties. That's called working toward promotion. If you are in school, do extra projects to earn extra credits. That will look great when you apply for college. Around home, never walk - dance around your home while singing an uplifting song. You can't do that very long without your happiness becoming real. Date. Not just every Tom, Richard and Harry, but people who interest you. Date people who have interests you never though of having. My husband and I have been married 43 years. When we met, I rarely read a newspaper, had no clue about finances, and thought if I said I wanted a house, it just appeared. Since our marriage, I have delved deep into politics, the stock market, real estate, and a host of other wondrful worlds. In return, I taught him how to fish, camp, be more spontaneous and our marriage has been the best thing that ever happened to us. Having a partner is nice, but it is far from necessary to live a fabulous life. I moved away from home to begin the transition from protected child to a woman who enjoyed life from parental barriers. I left a boyfriend who remains a friend even today, but found the true meaning of living a thousand miles away from home. Leaving the boyfriend, who had no intention of ever traveling, and my protective family was the best move I ever made.

Remember nobody is perfect. If this guy is easily controlled by mommy and daddy then hes is still a boy and what you need isa man.

First of all, I know what you are going through. My boyfriend's family is much the same way. They never really wanted to give me a chance in the first place and so every time I do something a little wrong they blow it way out of proportion in an attempt to make him see the error of his ways. Lol Thank goodness that he doesn't really let it get to him. It does get to him sometimes when his mind is altered because of the medication interactions he is on. But, he has learned not to make snap decisions during those times because he doesn't want to lose me. Once he wanted us to get a place together and we started looking but his mom whined about it till he agreed not to leave her. It's a sad thing to have to live with. That said, what kid of document are they hiding? A lot of documents can be reprinted once he gets out of that situation. And if they can't he can move out and go to the police and tell them that his personal items have been stolen from him and they have to give them back. If you bring this to his attention and he makes excuses then he probably isn't really ready to take that leap with you and you really might have to cut you losses. Thankfully in my situation my boyfriend's family has not banned me from their house or anything so we can still be together, it's just a very strenuous situation all around.

I guess you should trust your man, if he says he will do anything to get his documents and to be with you forever, then believe him. Dont make things that would only disappoint yourself. If you love him you will understand and wait for him. Your relationship is not easily acceptable by the society, what else his family right? If he really loves you, he will fight for you, if not, just forget him, god gave all of us the perfect love. Be happy, dont make things complicated.

If you trust your bf, then there is nothing for you to worry. He will come back to you if he really loves you. So trust in him and don't think negatively.

asliah hate to brak this to you if he was a real man that wants to be devoted to you he can face the music with hiis parents and tell his parents staight up that he needs his documents and that he is going to be with you no matter what if he cant do that then you might as well give up on him because thats what low lifes do to try to get rid of ladies is lie and bs girls until they leave then they see what they miss out on.

i was able to read your previous discussions regarding you conflict with your bf and his family. It is never really nice to have such conflicts since if you are planning on being iwht him all your life and get married, you always have to deal with his family..since it is his family! he is related by blood to them, no matter how much you love him, try to find peace and make arrangements, tell your bf to explain to his family what will happen..it will always create trouble if you will not fix this sooner.. or then face single life again as you have said. there will always be consequences.

I think you need to trust him more, friend. So that you can avoid to worry about it... Even if a promise is easy to break. Just put something trust into your boyfriend. Who knows that your boyfriend really a good person and fulfill his promise?

I just don't know why families have any authority to choose for their child. It's his damn decision to fall in love with some one, and i sure hope for you he is not under age:P. You guys don't have to split if his family doesn't want him to move with you. Just think at a good plan, try to make peace, and if that doesn't give any result, get some money, run, and start a new life far far away. Ohh, and don't forget, do this only and only if you are sure that you love him and he loves you back. Cuz if you don't you'll totally regret doing this. Cheers.

You don't give the age of your boyfriend it all depends on that I would think. If he is of age to do what he wishes he should be able to be with you. If he is underage then neither of you have a leg to stand on. What I do believe though is if its meant to be it will be. If not, of course it was not in the stars. Good luck and remember if it doesn't happen for you there are many good guys out there and its not bad to be alone for awhile to find yourself and make something of your life so that you don't need to depend on a man. Good luck to you and your hopeful boyfriend.

Talk to him asliah and express exactly how you are feeling. Maybe he is just dragging but if you explain how this waiting is making you feel then maybe he may understand and rush a bit to get the documents. Calmly explain how the whole whole waiting is making you nervous and upset, you will not know unless you express your true feelings. It may get him to move quicker on this and then all will be well.

I agree with free-man.I have read a post that you wrote similar too this and if the problem is still standing it doesnt seem as if your boyfriend is putting in much effort and though he should respect his parents he should also make them respect him you and his decisssion to be with you. Good luck again sweetie

The important things in that situation is turst eachoters. So, try to remain confident and sure that your boyfriend, was trying to do the best for your love. And your task is to try to make your boyfriend stay strong despite resistance from his family.

There's actually no need to be sad of it only takes a little public relations to your boyfriend's family talk to them and let them know both of your situations. Inform them about your intentions on each other be civil and tell them the best thing you can be with their son and how can you be a good member to their family. Start by being polite to them plan a meeting, let him introduce you to them set a date with the family clear things up so that they may understand gradually.

hi asliah, it is very sad that once again you are alone,why you can win your boy friends hearts by good words and things,or pray god that your boy friend once again met with you,what about your family members,do they know about this story,or ask your father to go to your boy friends house and talk with his parents for marriage proposal with you,have a nice day

hey thats normal to feel like that.I hope he get out from there soon.

Hello Asliah, Some lovers do take time before it became their TIME to be each other. Stay supportive and love him until he decides to let go. let the fear go and love him to the fullest, having so many doubts now wouldn't help the relationship.. as for him, he'd better do his effort or if he breaks his promise, then that's it. he needs to make a decision some day though.And something that will determine both of your future.

if i were in your position, i wouldnt be with him, just because his family will always be there. and when you guys argue or he starts to think, hes going to blame you because he wont be able to see his family anymore. i know its hard to just let him go but you can do it. i sure did, took me awhile to realize it. but what man doesnt stick up for you especially if he loves you. he either needs to man up or you need to let him go.

Hi Asliah. Sorry to be the one to bare bad news but this guy must not give much tought about you hun. If someone tried to keep me from my husband I would be in their face and telling them I am grown to stay the mess out of my business. I have been married a few times and knew right off the bat if it would work or not. This guy seems to have his priorities in the wrong place. If I had documents that meant a lot to me they would be under lock and key and no one would be able to get ahold of them. This guy sounds like he has something else in his life more important then he is willing to give up. Don't be affraid of life make your life happy with or without someone to share it with. You have to love yourself first to be happy with anything in this life! Pray that God will give you strength and send you a great person to share your life with and have faith that God can and will send you happiness! God knows what is best for your life believe it or not my friend!

It is really hard, but you have to decide what is important. If your reason is only that you do not want to be lonely, then i think it is not a good excuse. rather, if the real reason behind is that he loves you and wants to put up a fight for you, then go for it. Make sure you do not become the reason behind the break up of his family.