Why can't i stay angry longer to my husband?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
March 29, 2011 10:32pm CST
The other day, i got so angry with my husband.
I told him to go home early from his work, but he arrived later than what i asked him. He reasoned out that it was raining, so he has to stop at a store, since he has no umbrella.
Although, i know i am unreasonable ,i was so angry just the same. I went to sleep angry and the next day, i am still . I didn't prepare his packed lunch and just left the house without kissing him goodbye. 
I planned to give him him a cold shoulder for days! I haven't done that for a long, long time.
However, that night, he asked me a question about our daughter. So i answered and i noticed suddenly my anger to him was gone and we were talking and sharing stories! 
Why can't i get angry with him longer? Are you like that with your husband or partner too?
I planned to give him him a cold shoulder for days! I haven't done that for a long, long time.
However, that night, he asked me a question about our daughter. So i answered and i noticed suddenly my anger to him was gone and we were talking and sharing stories!
Why can't i get angry with him longer? Are you like that with your husband or partner too?4 people like this
17 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
Correct! I love him so much that i can't stay angry at him longer than a day ! Or was i just a very forgiving wife? 
Or was i just a very forgiving wife? 
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Hi. SIMPLYD. Yes, I have gotten angry at my husband many of times. Right now, I am angry at him because he has worked at this ladies house and he has been working at her house for over a week now. He has been doing some electrical work. I don't trust this woman, because I feel like her and her daughter are attracted to him in some kind of strange way. I don't like to think this about them, but it is how I feel. So, I know that I will be talking to him right before the day ends. I get mad at my husband constantly, and I always seem to cheer up as the day goes by.Or he will notice me acting shady with him, and he will tease me aout it. You can't stay mad at him simply because of the fact that you love him.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
Usually, the root of our anger to our husband is jealousy. When jealousy creeps up on us, it really is so consuming specially if you will not let the other party know about it. At least when he gets to know about it, he will be able to clarify things.
The more that he will deny and not speak about it, the more that you will doubt him.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
I know what you mean, often times we do make plans to go out or i ask him to accompany me when i do groceries.. but at times he also has impromptu plans ( by his friends) and it disrupts my plans and i get mad at him and i also give him the cold shoulder. But it also does not last long because the anger just melts away and yes it is gone.. i guess it is like that with the people you love, especially husbands.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
Whenever that happens to me too, that disrupts my plan too, i would really feel angry. But after he has fully explained why and promised another time, i would mellow.
We love them too much to get stay angry for long.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
8 Apr 11
Hello I fight with my wife Kalyani too, not 'fight' just quarrel lol, it is sweet quarrel she says, just like eating some salty thing after lot of sweets!!!
No wife can remain angry longer to her husband, you are right.
Thanks for sharing
Cheers.
God bless you, have a nice day ahead.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
When we quarrel with our spouses, we regret it afterward. We realize, life is short so we must see to it that when we disagree over things, it shouldn't be blown out of proportion so it could easily dissipate.
But then again, it depends on the level of the quarrel and the reason behind it.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
6 Apr 11
As a women, I'm sure we all had an experience like this. I'm not married, but I just couldn't stay in a house that isn't peace. So for me I try to make up with my boyfriend and start a new day. I'm not good with holding grudges. The reason why you can't stay mad at his is because you love him. Can't get any more simple as that.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
I very well know that, keshia. It's really a sacrifice to love isn't it?
But for the sake of keeping the relationship happy, we should learn how to forgive. I regretted having slept angry with him. Good thing, it wasn't much of a bother to him the next day. I think i was just overreacting . 
I think i was just overreacting . 
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
31 Mar 11
Yes friend I am also facing this type of problem I think most of the husband is same by nature. My husband is so so less talkative my whole mother in law family is less talkative but I was saying my husband please at least talk with me share your full day activity you faced any problem, anybody's call for me but they never reply.
If I am saying about my some activity like some comedy jokes or other important things he used a word ohh no i am busy tell after some time.
But my family was saying me his nature is same before marriage also. I am more talkative and free frank women. I always say him please why smile is not on your face.
My friend life is very short so be happy and try once again and ask your husband whats the problem with him.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Well my husband is not talkative also. So i always initiate the talking. That way he gets to open up also.
As to problems, i would nudge him to tell me when i noticed he is. I very well know when he has a problem, so i would ask him. He would tell me too if i insist that he tell me so i can help in whatever way i can.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
30 Mar 11
It happened to me lots of time as well.i can't stay angry with my hubby no matter how angry I am with him because I love him. And I learn over time that it is not worth to stay angry with the person that we love because it can drain our energy and ruined the relationship as well. I find that life is too short for that and it is not worth it. Take care and have a nice day.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
True, our love for our husband softens us. Life is too short really, so we have to be always in good terms with our husbands and be forgiving always. 
@llsling (331)
• China
30 Mar 11
It's great of you that you know you were getting unreasonable. And that's why you didn't hold the anger for too long.So be smart enough to keep your relationship moving forward steadily .
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Yes, i am that. I accept it if i am unreasonable. Although, sometimes it takes a while before i accept the fact that i am that.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
True , inertia , i realized that. So i cut short my anger to him. It's happier if we do not have grudges towards each other.
@sinawaliboy (271)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
That only means that you love your husband so much and you are doing the right thing by not wallowing in misery. A husband and wife should focus on growth and not on anger or separation.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
I realized life is short and we're getting older, so we have to enjoy the most of our remaining lives. I guess, i have to be a lot more patient to my husband now, and maybe him also for me. 
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
30 Mar 11
Hey friend this i call a 'sweet-cool' fight
These are essential at gaps of few months, it makes the bond stronger, i too have this kind of fight with Professor, we are a very very happy couple, made for each other probably..
Thanks for sharing friend, i am older to you by 4 years.
Happy posting, cheers.
Namastey.
Kalyani
Happy posting, cheers.
Namastey.
Kalyani
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
I agree with you that these quarrels are essential to married couples. This brings them closer once they have dealt with it.
Nice to know that you and professor is a happy couple. We are too.
Thanks for sharing
@annateresa (107)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
You did not tell us what's the reason why you want your husband to go home early. How many minutes his late? Did he kissed you when he arrived?
I have a feeling that on that day that your husband want you to go home early because you missed your company with your husband and unfortunately he found a "valid reason" why he is late.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Mar 11
It's because their dismissal is already late , 8:00 pm and he still has to close the office and travel at least 45 minutes to reach home. So, he would sometimes arrive later than when i am about to sleep, so we don't get to bond anymore. So,that's why i requested for him to come home earlier.
@luckyling21 (88)
• China
30 Mar 11
just you love your husband too much.for me when i got angry with my husband only for minutes!i think the real reason is that i love him too much.i don't argure with him.we have been married for one year, but we never fight.because i know it's realy hurtful when a couple hurl abuse at each other in a quarrel.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Wow, that's great. You never argue with your husband. I guess, you are just so kind and him too, that you seldom quarrel.
At that length of our marriage, we always quarrel! It's because he was so jealous then and vice versa. Over the years we have witnessed our love and trust develop so we we don't quarrel that much anymore.
We are older now, so i guess we mellowed.
@Rapuncille (597)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Maybe because you love him and maybe because you know what you got into? :) i guess it goes with marriage. You must be generous when it comes to understanding because you do value your family and your partnership. Everybody marriage counselling guru would tell you that prolonging the misunderstanding between the husband and the wife is not healthy for the marriage. Giving in and forgiving most often not comes natural. Also, i guess in this case, you cannot stay angry to him for that long because you know very well that you have been unreasonable and you are partly at fault! :p
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Partly, i didn't stay angry with him long because i know i was unreasonable. Secondly , he seemed to be so meek and apologetic already, so i have to let go of my anger.
But i guess, foremost is because i love him and i know life is short so we always have to make the most of it at all times.
@youless (112507)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 11
As a woman, I can undertand you. Sometimes we are not reaasonable. However, sometimes we think it is a big deal, but our husbands never think so. And they don't understand why we will be mad at them for such kind of little things. In fact sometimes we may just need an apology and hug. So we will feel that we are still adored and they really care about us. But men hardly understand it. Since you love him, so actually you can't stay angry to him for a long time. Our forgiveness is because of the love.
I love China
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
It's really hard to be angry yet the other party simply just don't mind it. My husband don't apologize in words though. But he would convey it by being so meek.
That, i saw in him the other day, so would i still be angry for long?
That, i saw in him the other day, so would i still be angry for long? 
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
I think its all about love....we mature in love that's why we forgive easily. Me and my husband is also like that. One moment fighting and the next laughing, just like fools, lol!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Didn't you notice that you become closer and loving after a quarrel? It's as if love is lovelier the second time around.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
I think generally, we, women are so sensitive. Sometimes a single strong word could elicit a high pitch answer from us. And i am guilty of that!
