To all who requested me to be their friend. . .
@SIMPLYD (90721)
Philippines
April 1, 2011 10:20pm CST
Hi guys,
I have all approved your requests as your friends.
However, as a friend, i think it is just but proper that you at least give me your true picture on your profile ID or maybe on your MY photo, as i have posted my family picture too.
Hence, for those who just have those avatars as profile ID , may i request please that you show me your true picture? If after April 13, i haven't seen your true picture, i am sorry, but i shall be deleting you in my friends' list.
Please don't get angry with me. That is just my principle. I hope you understand me.
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17 responses
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
2 Apr 11
hi simplyd,
so you wish to see all your friends true pictures in mylot,first of all what is the proof that the avatar picture is yours,some people are old aged,they cannot show their realy faces to their friends just like me,i am not attractive also,so if you compell to true photo,you have to loose your friends in mylot,have a nice day
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
So what if you are aged ? I am already aging too, as you can see in my picture. But i just would like others to take me as i am.
I feel that i am your friend indeed, if you would share me how you look. I never judge on the picture. I just want to imagine myself seeing and talking to the person whenever i see his or her picture.
I have a heavy heart losing you, but that's just me friend.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
3 Apr 11
hi thesids,
thanks for the response,nothing is secret here we all are friends we can share any thing,but some people say in writing when it come directly they are not respond,i have experienced this type of mentality in mylot friends,why people do like this,what ever any body wish ,if possible if it is in my extent i will help them,have a nice day
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Apr 11
Hi dear friends - Well I do not think that looks matter when we are friends... And yes, there is no harm in showing the real you on the avatar as many feel closer to you when they see a person instead of the flowers or buildings or anything abstract on avataar.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
2 Apr 11
ohhhh friend nice discussion I want to put my family picture but I dont know how it is possible so tell me the procedure.
This is not a way friend because if some people has no their photo then how can it is possible. Why the date is provided only 13th April. But dont worry you cant delete my friendship because my own photo is in profile ID. I am not so smart but I am not ugly so I think you like my smiling photo.
In your profile ID your own photo if yes you are looking so good with smile
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Apr 11
Hi dear
(hope you dont kill me when I call you dear as I have seen people objecting to unknown people calling them dear )
I do not know much about you - as we have not interacted much, but I can say one thing for sure, I am quite happy that being an Indian and near my age - I am 36, you did upload the real you pic for your avatar. And of course, when it comes to friendship, looks never matter... and also looking smart or ugly or anything has nothing to do as I see that when anyone loves himself or herself, s/he can put the real pic as the avatar - which shows that you love yourself...
That really makes you special
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
2 Apr 11
Friend I am positive thinking women so in my face you will always smile but I am crying also in every small moment like small child because my emotions are not good if anyone crying then I seen to them and cry.
Yes I loves myself yes this is true you not know about me ha ha ha but yes I will not kill you I liked more and more jokes and laughing person because now in busy schedule the person have no time for laughing so I am doing this activity therefore my family likes me.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
3 Apr 11
I would prefer to see a true picture of a person with whom I am corresponding, but how would I know. You could post a picture of your neighbor or your baby sister, and I wouldn't know the difference.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
4 Apr 11
"A real person???" Everyone here is a "real" person, so your comment makes no sense.
and why do say you will still respond to their discussions if you don't believe they're real people?
As far as you saying their "conscience" will bother them, why in the world should it? since as i mentioned before people are free to post any photo they want and i don't see anyone asking questions as to why any particular photo was chosen.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Well at least it's as if i am talking to real person, because of the picture. It will now be their conscience that will bother them if they do that.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
that is me on my avatar
well, as i was reading this, i saw some who do not seem to agree but then it is everyone's opinion..and we should respect each
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
yes i took that pc with my mobile phne
it is nice when you see pictures of who you are discussing with at times, i do not mind avatars.. its like as time pass by you get to be familiar with them...
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
correct Jazel. Thank you for understanding me.
Well, you are a good camera man yourself. You took it nicely. Nice picture.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Yes, jazel just as i thought , that's you in your avatar. Did you took that picture yourself?
Yes, i respect their opinion, so i guess they just have to respect my principle also with regards to my friends.
Isn't it nice responding to someone where you see her face. It's as if we're talking face to face. There seem to be a bit of personal touch, don't you think so jazel?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Apr 11
Hi SIMPLYD
MyFamily Photo
Well I had one done here - http://www.mylot.com/w/image/2433068.aspx
Unfortunately, I have a few copies of me and my wife but they are all on the analog thing and are not digital. Even I am unable to upload any of the pics that I want to on my profile(I wanted the one above on my profile too but i cannot get it done)...
But yes, I have my own pic on my avatar.
Hope that I will remain on your friends list.
Oh yes, may I ask why the date is set to April 13? If you can share and it is not too personal.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
There's nothing particular on the date. I just set it so that by that time i can see all those who really wanted to me to be their friends by letting me see their pictures.
Am so happy seeing you profile id pictures guys, while i am responding to this discussion. I feel, it's as if we really are close friends even on online mode.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
2 Apr 11
The same problem is facing by me I am trying to upload my JPG file image I am giving the speech in my photo but it is not uploading why I cant understand
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I find this to be a very shallow and unfair reason for deleting anyone from your friends list. People have a right to post any photo they choose and not have to think someone will delete them as friends for not putting up a personal photo of themselves.and to be honest, i have never heard anyone deny a freind request due to their avatar.
IMO,We choose our friends based on thier interaction with us and our interest in their discussions and topics and feel this is the way it should be.Mylot is a "discussion" forum and friends should be chosen for that reason.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Guys, don't get angry with my request. This is just for those who requested me as their friend.
I respect everybody's principle. But it doesn't mean that if i deleted you among my friends list, i won't be responding to your discussion anymore.
I just like it to have a personal touch, when i respond to my friends.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
23 Aug 11
Thanks for understanding tash.
I guess, i changed my mind. Sometimes , i also change my avatar into some nice uploaded ones. That's to be a bit mysterious sometimes.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Yes, i see you already in your avatar. Tha will do, but still i will visit your My Photos.
As suny 51 said, great photo as your avatar.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
ACtually, i changed my mind. I didn't do it because i realized my online friends , though i don't know them by face ,could still give me tips, advises and comforting words.
Should you like you can go to MY Photos of my profile. You can see me with my husband and our only child. Then, the other one, with my parents and married sisters.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
8 Apr 11
Dear Dina
In my avtar it is the real Bhuwan (in your language 'MOON'), I have already sent my and kalyani's picture to you.
I honor your principle lol.
hope you are fine with your hubby and daughter..
Thanks for sharing
Enjoy life to fullest. Cheers.
BE HAPPY ALWAYS.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
You really know some of our language ha? How long have you taught in the Philippines? What school professor?
yes, i have seen your picture with your wife. A happy couple indeed.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
2 Apr 11
I understand how you are thinking this way, you cannot feel for example if you see my avatar and to know who I am. But online identity specially for me who blog is always opened wide out there, I think when we show too much of our selves then we don't know who is looking, I think it's a little dangerous even.
I've seen people being chased by trolls and these people showed their faces, shared their real pictures, even other things and these invisible and coward enemies even know where they live now.
I think we have to be careful with what we share online, hopefully you are only sharing your pic in here, and not many information. For your own security.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Well, katie if you are not one of those who requested me to be their friend, it's okay with me.
I have just shared my picture-avatar , but not many informations. Just that, because i just want to feel like i am talking to the person , when i see their real avatar, in responding.
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
2 Apr 11
Do you count me?my avatar is not me,but you can see a photo of me in "my photos".i hope you don't take advantage of "Fool's Day" to do a fnny thing.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
2 Apr 11
ohhhhhhhh no I am forget the 1st April really I am foolish and take this discussion serious.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Oh no , no, i am not doing this because it was April fools day.
Anyway, i only requested this for those who i have approved as friends, when they requested me to. It's my way of being close to them as friends, imagining i'm just talking with them whenever i respond to their discussion.
But i will respect those who don't have their profile photo.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Yeah i know, because i have enlarged it once, to get a good look . Nice picture edss17.
@cindrani (19)
• India
3 Apr 11
Yes t is a writers block and in addition to this it is also an friendship site. So the details should be disclosed readily,like photographs and other information. But there are some persons who don't like to disclose those due to various reasons. We should understand it.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
Yes, i fully understand that and i respect them.
At least, i have made known my request, so they do have to understand me also when i delete them from my friends list. Anyway, it was them after all who requested if i could be their friends. I do have the right to decline don't i?
But that doesn't mean i will not be responding to their discussion though.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I do not and will not post my picture online for any reason. I am a private person and with identity theft going on these days it is not safe. Employers also go online and look up potential employees and if they find anything they don't like for any reason such as they don't like a picture or something a person posts they may not hire someone. I won't ever post my private information online including a picture of myself or my real name. I value my privacy online more than I value a myLot friendship. I guess we can't be friends.
@yoyo1198 (3641)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I do not think that this is a good idea at all. One of the major draws of the internet is that people can remain anonymous. I know you are not on my friend list but even if you were I could not comply with your demand. I have no photos of myself, I have no camera and wouldn't know how to post a photo of me if I did have those things. I do think you are being unreasonable.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
well, yoyo1198, in that case you don't have to agree to my request. I only requested those who have requested to be their friends. I just wanted to feel close to my friends that way.
have a nice day!