This is actual proof that my friend request is being ignored on Facebook.
By cream97
@cream97 (29086)
United States
April 2, 2011 1:48pm CST
I wrote this message to a girl that I went to school with in high school. I wanted her to know, that I am knew that she has been ignoring my friend request on Facebook, and that I am not worrying about it either. I have seen her recent comments that were made on Facebook while my friend request was still left pending in her inbox just waiting to be accepted by her. So, I canceled my friend request to her and then I sent her this message. After that I blocked her.
Hi. *******, I hope that you can find it in your heart to read this message!
Hi, *******. This is ******* from Sumter High School, "Class of 1997". I was trying to get you to add me back as a friend on my new account here, but I realize that you may not want to. I am sorry if I have ever offended you or anything like that. I don't mean to sound petty or anything but I think that I know why you may not have added me as a friend. I also know why other females that I have went to school with haven't either. It was simply because they did not like me. I never have done anyone wrong. I was extremely hated on in high school. It is a shame that many people, especially the females, have hated on me. All for nothing and over childish matters. But that is okay, God loves me and that is all that matters. So if you are one of these women that dislike me because of all of the untrue things that you have heard about me, I am sorry that you have. You all have missed out on being friends with a great person. I have never hated you, in fact, I don't hate anyone. I wish you the best in life Natasha! May God Bless You! Take care!
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21 responses
@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I don't know you, but if I received a letter like this, I would think the person is stalkerish. Not to say you were stalking Natasha, but I would be like wow. There are many things to consider. I am assuming you are around 31-32 years old. Being that you all are in your 30s things happen, like relationships and even marriage. You don't know why she hasn't responded.
It maybe that her partner checked her FB before she did and ignored the request. Or maybe the only guys she is allowed to be friends with is men her partner knows too, or just family. There are many other situations I could mention. I know women in this situation, is why I am saying this.
But don't feel bad at all cause I will be your friend on FB if you want.....
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
2 Apr 11
What's done is done. If it were me I would not have even wrote anything back to her. I have had "friends" for whatever reason not accept my request and these were people I thought I was somewhat close to but I guess not. One of them was a former roommate and we have mutual friends who I know he added them as friends. I didn't write back to ask why at this point I don't really care they have their reasons. The letter you wrote just stirs up more drama I would just forget about it.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Hi dreamy to a sense it can stir up more but by blocking her in a sense I think she put closure. However the closure will only help if she no longer seeks out and or continues messaging.
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
4 Apr 11
I don't know your past, or why you think everone hated you back in high school. THere might be many reasons for not accepting you as a friend. Women tend to be careful accepting men as friends unless they know them well. We want to be careful in the day and age. Also, I've had people contact me in facebook from over 10 years ago, and their appearance has changed with time, so they don't look familiar to me. It is sometimes difficult to figure out who they were.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
5 Apr 11
I don't personally add people as friends right away on FB
in fact there are a few people that I had to unfriend because I saw their true colors
in your case, however, you both know each other in the past
you must have thought she would accept you
but people change, sometimes not for the better even if they are older
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
4 Apr 11
Just don't mind the other people if they don't like you it only means that they are just waste of time and not worth to please them. Your humility is too much for them. I am happy you believe that God loves you. You can't please everybody especially the pathetic people just like Natasha.
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@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
3 Apr 11
I am sorry you were bullied in High School. Kids can be so cruel and girls can be so catty. Anyway that was a long time ago. I hope you can put it behind you. I would not have sent a message to someone who did not accept me a a friend but you did. Maybe it helped you to get over it. Remember you are a unique and valuable person in your own right and you can seek out friends as many as you want. Some will accept your request, some will not for whatever reason. Just be yourself.
@AmbiePam (93889)
• United States
3 Apr 11
Don't you think it is possible she actually saw that message as a sign it DID bother you? I mean it may be just me, but I wouldn't have thought much about her ignore. I would have thought, her loss and just gone on to something else. I know it hurts your feelings, how can it not? But they aren't worth the effort, ya know?
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@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Never mind natasha, if she doesn't accept your invitation ignore it. Maybe she is still stock in the past year. Wait for those time she would realize her wrong deeds./// go on forget what happen.
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@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
3 Apr 11
good for you i hope she read it and it stay's with
her for awhile
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 11
Oh dear... What a bad luck for that girl. I am so very happy to read the lines that you sent out to her - God loves me and that is all that matters. -That is so very essential and it not only shows your belief that you are good but also confirms that you are a good person... no matter what the world thinks or opines about you.
ButI think you should have kept the options open and neither cancelled the FR or even block. Well, you may have a justified reason to do this but what if after reading your text, she wanted to join you back? I mean people have a point when they realize their faults and can always come back to say Sorry and get ahead with the relation. I would request you to reconsider this and leave the options open... Because a person who is good at heart is always forgetful of the ugly past, forgiving and the one who looks forward for postives
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@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Maybe,whatever happened in HS should be left in the past especially the bad ones. The people who were mean to me when I was in gradeschool, they are adding me up now in facebook and I do not ever had any problem confirming their request. I think whatever they did to me then, I have long been over and bitter already before. People mature and change as they grow older. But if the person is still what they were before, then let us not be bothered about them not confirming us as friends. Let them. I wont make a big fuss about a person not wanting me to be his or her facebook friend. Its just a waste of time. I have more better things to do on my life than be affected about someone not confirming me in their list. That is totally fine. Why be affected anyway? For as long as I am over, then I am free of the feeling of the bitter past. If she cannot move on.. That is their problem, not mine.
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
i have the same experiences where people i know don't accept my friend requests. some i used to be close very close in high school even ignore me when we see each other in the malls. but it's okay. it's not like i can't live without them. i don't trust anyone anymore, and i don't like making friends anymore because they are just there when there's fun but when i am down and got problems, i don't even know where they are. they can't even check on me despite all my efforts to reach out to them. i have learned my lesson. i don't wanna be with them anymore. and also about Facebook, i just cancel my friend requests and don't bother to even message them anymore.
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@motorizedmillie (138)
• United States
3 Apr 11
People do have the right to ignore friend requests on Facebook, I've had it happen to me before, and while it certainly doesn't feel good, I don't confront the people who have chosen to ignore me, I just say to myself that it's their loss and then move on. If it's someone who is on the friend list of one of my other friends, I do the same thing. For me, confronting those who choose to not be my friend serves no purpose.
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@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I'm sorry to hear that. I think if this Natasha is immature enough to NOT move on from whatever happened in high school then she isn't worth your while. It has happened to me once, my friend request rejected by someone I used to know. I never sent that person a letter, though. I just left it at that.
Anyway, how do you cancel a friend request? Ugh, I have yet to explore facebook!
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
7 Apr 11
Hello my friend cream97 Ji,
Well, I would noty like to assualt your feelings, but is not individual decide if on ewants to accede another request of being friend independently. Why at all, one feels that one is bad so one was not being acceded. I know my hiubby is very much active on face-book and was requested on of our grand-daughter to be friend, because of her Avatar being some actress , my hubby never extended his friendship, he wants that her avatar should be some of other taste liken JHansi-Ki-rani type. It is not that you have to explain your good and bad charcters. take easy. Thanks.
May God bless You and have a great time.
@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I know you've already sent this off, but it sounds to me like it wasn't a message that needed to be sent. Personally I don't add a whole lot of people on facebook. I don't add people who went to my old highschool who I didn't talk to on a regular basis, and I would feel kinda weirded out if I found a message like this in my inbox. How well did you know this woman, and how long has it been? Could be she doesn't remember you, never considered you a friend, or just doesn't care to catch up. I don't think there's any reason to get upset about it. There are infinitely better badges of friendship than Facebook friendship status.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Sorry to hear this cream. 
Based on the message you sent it sounds like you put a closure. Closure is always good because you will not be wondering. Continue to be strong and not worry about the pettiness of the like type people.
You know in your heart you have not done anything wrong so if she has any type of conscious she will read this and perhaps think twice. Sorry to say this but if she does not want you as a friend you do not need this type of friendship because negativity will bring you down. Besides she is a grown adult and you do not need to deal and or allow to enter in your life with people who behave like they are still in high school.
You did the right thing by sending the message and blocking her, so now to begin to think happy thoughts and X out the negative situation. 
Based on the message you sent it sounds like you put a closure. Closure is always good because you will not be wondering. Continue to be strong and not worry about the pettiness of the like type people.
You know in your heart you have not done anything wrong so if she has any type of conscious she will read this and perhaps think twice. Sorry to say this but if she does not want you as a friend you do not need this type of friendship because negativity will bring you down. Besides she is a grown adult and you do not need to deal and or allow to enter in your life with people who behave like they are still in high school.
You did the right thing by sending the message and blocking her, so now to begin to think happy thoughts and X out the negative situation. @terrious (16)
• South Africa
2 Apr 11
thats great thing you have done.blocking her is a symbol that shows she is not your only friend.what makes me happy with you is that you dont hate anybody and you put your trust before God.even if you are friend with,u dont withdraw any money from her and hope that you will find another friend that will love you.
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@czaxivonen (97)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
i really admire you keeping your cool. facebook invites may sound too trivial or petty. Still, you kind of showed your true feelings without hurting anyone, that is classic. And dont worry about it, there more people out there who wants to be friends with people like you. You have the whole facebook population to choose to :) Theyll be glad to be your friend.. me included :)
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