Do You Accept Your Husband for Who He is?

Of course we have to accept our husband for what he is but it doesnt mean that he cant be a better person than he is before. What if he is a womanizer? would you just accept that? I guess for one person who loves we are all willing to change for the better and that doesn't mean that we are a different person then. Accepting his weaknesses and his liabilities would be great but then help him to realize his weak points and change for the better. I guess that's the best way that you will live happily ever after.

Love is acceptance the whole of your partner,without acceptance harmony is impossible in marriage.In my opinion partners should learn and accept each other neither negative side of them.

I think that is how it should be. We discover after marriage that this person we married has a lot more bad habits or good ones that we need to adjust too.And it goes for us too.I think the security you get from thinking you are married and that this person is stuck with you gives you the confidence to be yourself at all times.And this happens without the fear of loosing your lover just in case he or she gets turned off. (^_^)

One thing i learned from the harsh realities is acceptance.. things do continuously change either for the better or for the worse, and sometimes we have tend to not accept changes as they come especially it would not favor or go our way.. just keep in mind that we're all unique individuals and that we have a mind of our own..just accept your hubby as he really is and not impose on him what you him to be.. if there are discrepancies or something lacking in him, it is best you talk it over about this, and hopefully a compromise would come as to better establish a mutual understanding on yourselves...

Yes I accept my husband for who he is and at the same time learn more about him. Both of us are learning more about each other and on how best to bring up our growing family. It's actually a compromise. I accept some of his vice and in turn he accepts some of my irritating habits.

Of course I will but he must also do changes if can see that his some bad attitude are already affecting our relationship. But if no changes I will give up! there are limitations in life and we must also live happily and choose who is the right person for us.

this is why it's important to REALLY know someone before you marry them. yes, there are things that you can change over time, because people do grow and change. it's all part of growing up. a process that is never finished. but you can't change someones personality. to do so is to destroy them. you can encourage them to be tidier. that's the one I'm working on. and over time, little by little, he's improving. I'm not a tidy person myself, so I know how slow the process of changing in this matter is. and just as I encourage him to be tidier, and put things away in the right places, I'm doing the same thing to myself. but I know I can't change his personality. I wouldn't tell him how to dress, or what music to enjoy, or to change his attitude to certain things or his intelligence. I just want our house to be a nicer place to be in, so I encourage both of us to look after it better. I know that neither of us will become naturally neat and tidy, but maybe we can get better habits.

i agrre with you thats why i married him cause he is like he is.i hope he stayes so for ever

For me yes so that you find ways to be came good to him plus if you love him you do it for him.

I believe love is accepting, accepting a person for who they are and what they are..accepting their faults and weaknesses as well as their strengths and positive qualities. To want to change someone is not loving another, it's loving one's own self...trying to mold another into the ideal fantasy that they want for them-self. Unfortunately, this happens a lot.

If I didn't accept him for who he is, we will not stay married this long. Sure, he has his annoying habits, so do I. And if he can compromise with my annoying and quirky habits, I can certainly make the effort to accept his. True, some women thinks they can mold the men into the kind they want; but not all women are like that. It is all very well to try to change the bad habits of the other person, but not push too hard that they don't feel comfortable. I agree that trying to change a person will only lead to conflict. It is best to accept each other as we are to have a peaceful life.

Accepting acceptance is an acceptance of defeat and surrender.My Husband is already a fraction of myself. As I oppose it will only bounce back to me as if like a rubber, for he is already tied to me. The knot is present and can not be cut by just having differences. Tiring adjustment and understanding are incorporated into marriage till the end and so sacrifices to know your partner is painstaking act of heroism, lol, don't take it seriously.

We wives all have to or else something in your marriage will go really wrong. I guess it should be a prerequisite to have this FACT known before one should really tie the knot. Conversion is really just an option for your partner to make and should not be forced upon both the husband and wife. When you marry, you get what you already chosen ideally for the rest of your life. You have the rest of your life to somewhat influence your partner but it will be his or her decision to be influenced. And even if he or she wills to be influenced by you, definitely it can't be don't overnight. To make your marriage happy, please don't make it a struggle on having each other changed. You simply can't. I don't really think that "overhauling" will do you that much of a good because by doing so, you might just be losing the person you have chosen, among all people to be with, to some stranger you did created him or her.

There were times that I wanted to maybe suggest to him what he should wear or what he should not, what to eat or what to not eat or do this and not to do that. These were just some things but realizing that they still have their own mind and free will would help us accept and adjust to the person that we've offered ourselves wholly. The person you were marrying should be the same person that he is right now. Love him for who he is not because of who he'd become. :)