Name change when getting married

I did not change my name when I got married. I honestly don't see the point of it. And as much as I hate my father, I hate my in-laws more and I absolutely refuse to have their name as my own.

The way I see it basically it is either a matter of preference and or cultural tradition in which we must respect each individual's choice. I don't see anything wrong with not changing it or changing it. It is up to the woman to decide and or I suppose a mutual agreement between the couple. I don't see anything wrong either way on what others decide, because I don't for me see anything wrong if I did or did not, because it would be my choice. For me when I was married I changed my name to my then husband but again it was my choice and I did not feel like I gave anything up when I made my choice.

I didn't really find it offensive, or weird to give my my surname. It was actually a relief. I had the same surname as my "real father" who has never been around, so it was actually a relief for me to have a different surname. I did procrastinate a bit though when changing it after my husband and I got married. I always thought that it was done for you when you got married, and its not lol. So I went through all the channels to get everything changed.

I wasn't really thinking about the name change when I get married. I even liked thinking about it now..lol! I love to bring the surname of my husband everywhere and everytime. That's how proud I am of him.

I am not sure why so many people make a BIG Deal About this, Like my cousin got married and kept her original last name and also took on her Husbands last name. When it comes to marriage it doesnt mean ANYTHING about whois name is what or where, It only matters that you Truly love the person, Through Sickness and in Good along with Bad Times. I am a 28 year old male, If I was to ever get married I would not care if my Wife decided to keep her last name, If its that important to her then more power to her. Plus If She is Happy then I am Happy. Its your decision to do whatever you want but it should not cause a fight or anything like that, Just Love Each Other and Be there for Each Other That is all that counts at the end of the day!

When you marry someone it is because you love them, and all women are happy to take their husband's name. If you love them, you take the hub dems to say that you belong to him, so everyone knows that you are together, and it is a tradition ...

For some reason i was never comfortable with my maiden name so I was happy to follow tradition and change to my husbands name. When we divorced I was still happy with my married name...it suits me. Also, it is the same name as my children. When I remarried I was a lot wiser and realised I did not need to change names and so I kept my former married name. When my new husband realised I had not changed my name on my bank accounts, licence etc. he spat the dummy but he left while I was in the process of changing so I just kept my former name. I still have it to this day and I'm glad. Neither of my daughters married so my children grandchildren and I all carry the same name...one daughter has hyphenated her children's surname but that's cool with me.

For me it is just yet another thing I will have to give up , like my identity and my free will. When it comes to marriage I see it as the end of many things, my old name is one. But many women are not taking their husband's name. I have a friend who Refused to take his name. She wanted him to take hers!

Actually during the early months of my marriage I was really not so keen on changing all my surname in all of my personal records and accounts. Although legally, I am carrying the name of my husband, I was still using my maiden name whenever I sign on papers and was not also changing the names in my bank and other personal accounts. I really was thinking it would be bothersome to change. However one time my husband learned it and he felt quite slighted and asked my why I was not changing my name. So, when I noted my husband was not pleased I decided to change all my personal records and accounts to avoid hurting my husband's feelings. After doing so, there was nothing really bothersome as I first thought. I am now proud to carry my husband's surname for I am proud to be the wife of the best husband in the world. I think if the law is reversed although that sounds impossible, the husbands if they really love their wives will comply and will not really mind.

For me at the first feel bad until now I'm not get use to it specially if you are not welcome to your mother in law.

Why should people give up their name? I still don't understand why they should do that? I mean getting married is ok? But is it t show male domination or something that people change their name into the surnames of their husbands. Why can't the husband change their names? I really don't like all that nonsense. It shows too much male dominance in here. I don't like the idea any more than you do friend. Cheers!

well i personally dont mind at all, unless my new husband(if i had a partner)had a really embarrassing surname

It sounds quite interesting to discuss. I am getting married soon to the man I loved. Well, I seriously think of my surname to be replaced of his. I cannot explain the feeling. Am I ready to change it? But it should be. I wanted to marry him but am I ready to carry his surname? That's all I think of.

Well, that's is marriage. If a woman decided to give up her family's surname for mines, that would tell me a lot about her loyalty love that she has for me. Marriage is sacrifice. Just as she sacrificed her family's name for me, I would have no doubt on sacrificing every strength in my body to make her smile each and every day. And as for me being a guy to sacrifice my last name for marriage, I would not agree with it. It's tradition. My friends and brothers would of never stop teasing me about it. Honestly it would make me feel less manly. So, if my wife wants me to be man, to do manly things around the house and be filled with manly confidence, I think it would be best for us to keep my surname. That's how I feel about it.

Hahah, well if you would have that reversed, i guess women would them be the head of the family. Hehe Anyway, as a woman i don't mind changing my surname, but i would be glad to retain it too. I low someone who did not gave us her last name and well everybody expects her to. And even when she travels, she has to have a lot of documents with her to prove that she was married and that she only did not use is husbands surname.

There was a time when I didn't believe in marriage and I hated men...at that time, I vowed never to get married, and even if I did, I was going to keep my last name. Years later, I met my husband and realized that although he was a man, he broke every judgment I had of men, and I reconsidered marriage. Within the first few hours I knew him, I knew he'd be my husband later on. In the first month, he was talking marriage, and I was all for it. In the four years we were in love before our wedding day, my family situation changed drastically (this was unrelated to our relationship). I found myself ready to get out and pretty much forget I had the family I'd had. Long story short, I changed my last name when I married so I would be separated by name from the family that raised me. I've also always felt I had two parts to my life: Before my husband, and after I met him. Changing my last name allowed me to make sense of my life before and after, in a way that I can recall upon. I am happy to have a different last name because I am different than the person who used to be called by the other. Before all this came to play, however, I knew that either Tim (my husband) or I would change our last name. I wanted to have the same as his, but we thought about him changing his last name to mine, me changing mine to his, or how we could make up an entirely new last name and change it together. In the long run, his last name sounded beautiful next to my first name, and it's shorter than my last one. I really like it. It's not a matter of me being a woman and catering to him...if my family life and childhood had been different, I wouldn't have changed it.

The women changing their names and cutting off their family tag with replacement by their husband's name is seen all around the globe. The women when comes out of her family with her husband for life then to stand the more relevant ground as a single family and for all people of the society to know that she's a part of the that such family,, the name changing has been followed, in my view. I don't believe in this name changing what so ever, why should women change their beloved name after marriage, huh. If this isn't done then nothing will happen in married life for sure, when there's care and understandability for each other. Men would if change their names then that will be moreover like getting their status down in the society, so men always like to stand tall and safe, as world has seen so much of all these kinds. Many more similar thoughts are in a way meant for women only and slowly these customs are seen to fade off. Names are tags for life and if the individual wants not to change it then he/she must have their own respect to it shown by others and not dis array those thoughts with pressure or force, in anyway.

Hi buddy u can change anything for you loved one so why not just your name forgot other things give importance to you care taker.! Hope this will help you

I don't mind changing my last name at all. I like traditions like that and I like the fact that when I marry someone, I take something from them. It's just another thing that ties us together. I know people brought up divorce. If I were to get a divorce, I would just change my name back. My first name is really unique and special and that would be the only name I was worried about.

I personally think it's a woman's choice as to whether they change their name when they get married. I got married just short of two years ago, and yes, I changed my name to my husband's, because he became my family, and my lifelong partner. I actually asked my husband and my best friend this question (My best friend is also male), and they said that in terms of the male giving his name up, it were the conventional, or the norm, it wouldn't be a problem, because that's what would be accepted, but if it were a free for all kind of situation, where the choice was up to the man or woman changing their name, it would feel strange. One of my friends got married a few years ago, and she kept her maiden name, but added her Husband's name to the end of it. I like that idea, but it just didn't feel right when I got married, so I took my husbands name.