Forgive the person, or forgive their act - Which is more important?

"Blame the game, not the player" that would be a translation (kind of) to english for a popular quote in my country. I really think is better to forgive the person, the act on the other hand is the one to be corrected, erradicated or at least being given attention to avoid it from being commited again. If you forgive the act and go against the person then you can end punishing him/her but it doesn't mean you're assuring someone else won't come up and do the same.

It is very hard to forgive someone specially when they did something so painful to you,when you forgive maybe it requires time to forgive. But we are commanded to forgive because we all need forgiveness as well. if we forgive a person it is also nice to feel that you also forgive what they have done to you. To forgive is to forget. That is a complete forgiveness.

Forgiving the person is a lot easier. The act might be unforgivable and it is hard to reconcile the fact that the act was done in the first place because it is so bad. However, it might be a bit easier to forgive the person in the first place. You just can really figure out that they have had a moment of weakness and perhaps the bridge can be mended in time with the person. The act may disgust you but the person doing it, it is really easier to forgive that. So I would have to say that it would be the person. The act itself, it will eat away at you and trying to forgive that, that would mean that you would think it would be okay to do the act and depending on the act, it would be easier said than done. However, forgiving the person, that is rather easier to say the very least. So yes, forgiveness of the person but however not of the act.

I think forgive the person. But I also think that there are people that either they only think about their own or they are not even recognizing that just keeps hurting people around them with the same mistakes over and over again. For example I had a cuisin that she was competitive cause she was insecure and jealous of everybody, she kept putting me down, one day I had enough, I sit down to talk that we really aren't friends anymore and this all is going to end, she asked for forgiviness and I gave her that I am not angry or wish her anything bad but that I warned her for like 3 times and she keeps putting me down like she is better than me or anything, I said that forgiving 3, 4 times is more than even a sister do cause even her sister don't talk to her. And that was our end. I don't regret. If someone keep doing the same things, fine, I won't hate them but go live far away from me for all that I care about. I spent my whole life not taking really good care of me, since I turned 26 I wake up and I'm really better to me now.

I believe that all human beings are good and when they do something bad I don't usually take it against the person but I take it against what they did. So I always tell them that I don't hate them but I hate what they did. So I will forgive their wrongdoings, their action as it is their action that I was disappointed in and not really them.

I am tempted to answer none of the above, but since that would be quite ungracious of me I'd just settle for forgiving the person and the act. Its quite hard to let go of things that really hurt you, but I found out that unless you let go of all the negativity and angst that came your way then you will never be truly happy.

Yeah. I think we have to forgive the person if they are honestly sorry for the act they have committed against us. The rest will follow afterwards.

We forgive the person best we can but we never forget the act. To forget the act is to forget a lesson learned about that person. We have also had to learn this the hard way forgiving both person and act and regretting it later.

I think it is important to be forgiving of the person. Forgiveness of the act should be a part of that person's forgiveness. it is difficult to forgive one without the other.

I would be able to forgive the person maybe because i think that acts are hard to forget. I agree with you in this case also. Forgiving the person is itself an act of forgiving the act of the person if you ask me. I would feel angry at first whatever is the act performed but later i would think about the circumstances hat forced the person to commit such an act. I would confront them and also let them speak out to know what their problem is and how would they solve that! Cheers!

I would say it is more important to forgive the person, but I don't know how you could unless you forgave the act they did. If you haven't forgiven the act, then you really haven't forgiven the person in my mind. I would probably try and focus on forgiving the act first and then in time, forgive the person.

It is ok to forgive then forget..God teach us to forgive.. But truthfully speaking we can't really forget the act esp if it affects our life. Next time we should be more aware and alert to that person.

Forgiving the person is more easy so i think its the person that has be forgiven. There are certain actions that take place in our life for certain reasons we may not not know when it happens but we look back and 'join the dots' it all falls in place. So it is better not to forget the act whether committed by a stranger or a person very close to us. Because each act good or bad has certain meaning and purpose in our loves. Forgive the person, forgive the act too if possible but never forget the act. :)

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Both. It is important to forgive your friend, but also forgive the act. You cannot forgive the person unless you also forgive the act. When someone killed my cat, it was important that I forgave them for this. It is very difficult to forgive someone who hurts you so much, but then it only hurts you to not forgive them for it.