My parents' relationship with my sister-in-law is not good.

You need to speak to your brother and he will tell his wife. If your mother has a problem with her daughter in law she needs to tell her son and the son will speak to his wife about it.

indahfth You must be indeed indiam. Here in the Us our newly wed couples start their own home in their own house or apartment. Wisely this is done as mom in law and daughter in law only related by marriage do not mix whether in the kitchen or any other place. Why not advise them to fing an apartment of their own. I see a rather sad picure, mom in law sees the young new bride as a kitchen help and the new bride resents being treated as a servant to mom in law. I feel its much better all aroune if newly weds have their own little home. if she must be keep as kitchen help at least persuade mom in law to give her a break I think its unfair of an older woman to want to use a newly wed bride as kitchen help. what should you say to them ? tell your mother that a newly wed bride should not be just sluffed off as more kitchen help. She is a married woman with her own familyo she should be treated with dignity.She the daughter in law really has a right surely to see her own mother. suggest that they move into their own home as soon as possible. sometimes two women of such different ages and ideas/

I don't understand what she did wrong in the first place.

I think your sister-in-law is shy and she is not comfortable to stay your home without the presence of your brother. Maybe your parents will make a move that can make her more comfortable and relax while staying your home. It happens to several in-laws specially if they are not close to the family before they got married. I am lucky enough I am close to the family of my wife before we got married so no worries for me if I stayed in the house of my in-laws. If you parents cannot make her felt more relax and comfortable in your home much better you will talk to your brother and sister-n.laws, and find solutions how to fight her shyness.

I think they should speak to their son and he should speak to his wife. or talk to both of them themself.

I think what I would do in this situation is try to find a convenient time when you can talk to your brother. I would tell him of your parent's concern and see how he takes it what he says. I think if you talked to both of them she might feel bad and it could cause them problems and you and your brother problems.

THis is very strange. Ask your father to talk to the girl's father . Men would be able to take a more rational step. Your brother leaves early in the morning and he needs his peace and he is very young. Don't bother him now but tell your father to talk to the girl's father[not mother].

Your sister in law certainly has no manners and she is showing that she dislikes her mother in law. Someone has to talk to the couple and find out what is going on and why she is behaving in this unexpected way. She has to know she is causing trouble in the family.

Hi. indahfth. I think that you should just not say anything to your brother's wife at all. If you should talk to anyone, it should be to your brother only. If you approach your sister-in-law she may think that you are just trying to pry into her personal life and that is not what you want to make her think. Praying about the situation will surely change things for the best. I hope that things will work out between your sister-in-law. I don't understand is why would she return home to her own family instead of being with her husband? If she is young, she should still respect her new family which is your brother.

Your first step can be this: make a good friendship with the little girl. Invite them for lunch or dinner. helpher to meet her needs. Just be kind and friendly with her. Little by little she will copy you in the way of having contact with other family people. actually it will take a lot of time. patience is very important here. You can't solve this problem within one or two days. love-love-love can make everything right. Advice will never work. sometimes it will make the situation worst. Be a good role model as a wife to the small girl. Imagin this. If you go to a swimming course can you swimm will in the very first class. Entering into a family life is also like this.

Hi indahfth Can you arrange a meeting with both your brother and his wife at the same time. Explain to the both of them how this is disrupting the family. Maybe with both present it may make them think about the situation. Your brother was raised by the same parents as you so surely he has the same values as you. Calmly explain to your brother that you are not trying to meddle in there lives but that you are concerned. Tell them all you want is for a happy peaceful family. I hope things change and all is well, if they do not at least you will be satisfied that you have done all you can.

Are they newly married? If they are them, I think your brother's wife needs time to get on well with her inlaws. Tell your parents or your mother in particular to understand her son's wife. She feels comfortable with the husband. It happens to newly married a culture like yours and mine. Please talk to your mother to understand her.

It is a family matter and only your parents and brother and his wife know what is really going on. Listen to both sides and try to resolve the issue with the people concerned present so that there will be interaction by both sides. I hope that helps :-)

i just wanna ask in what case does your sister-in-law did not honor your father and mother?.. Well, as for me, maybe ahm your sister-in-law isn't comfortable living in your parents house because that is what i am feeling right now, i am living with my husbands parents house and although they are very nice and kind to me, i still feel uncomfortable to live in here and i don't feel that i have a family of my own already it is just that i am just living in with some friends. Maybe you can talk to your sister in law and be a friend to her, talk to her as if you were her friend ask her how she feels and her conditions. Just try to be a friend to her in a way that she will feel that you are her friend and you do not want to interfere with their decisions. In that way you can gain her trust and confident and she can open up things with you and you can understand her in that way why she is doing like that. And you can counsel her. you know it is easy to take counsel from a friend than to an in-laws.

It might be time for your parents to see about them finding their own place, I would address them very carefully because they may be quite defensive about it. Is your mother wanting her to help around the house and she's not doing it? It could be that she goes home because she feels that she is needed more there...

It is always advisable not to stay with in-laws to avoid bad blood brewing between them. In your case, you should try to talk to your sister in law diplomatically so she won't feel offended. You should tell your brother also to ask his wife to be home to help in the house.

I would talk to your sister-in-law alone as a friend. Tell her that you love her as a sister and that your mother's feelings have been hurt by her actions. Tell her that you understand that she is new with being a wife, but she is a part of her husband's family now and needs to act like it. I am not satisfied with the last part of the last sentence. Perhaps you can use different words to convey the same meaning..

Being young is not excuse for being rude, especially to someone, your parents, who is giving her and your brother a place to live. Most young married couple are living on their own. It will probably be up to your parents to use tough love with your brother and his wife. If your sister-in-law had any good sense of appreciation she would not behave so rudely toward your parents.

Sometimes family is all that you have to lean on. when relationships within the family are crumbling, it makes things in life even more difficult to bear. when those relationships are not blood relations but marriage ties, situaations between family members can be more than we want sacrifice or bear. It often takes more effort to repair any rifts that come our way.

This is a very common problem many households face. Many youngsters deliberately insult the elders of the family, especially the daughter-in-laws. In such cases its the duty of the husband to set right it immediately. some men think that might cause friction in their relationship with their wife and allow it the matters to complicate. Its utter cowardice on the part of the men. I think you should talk to your parent's first and understand what happened. Later you can talk to your brother to understand what he has to say. for the moment, its better not to talk to your sister-in-law. i think you will be able to know some truth from your brother, sometimes men hide a lot to please their young wife. such men will turn a blind eye to the suffering and insults their parents have to undergo. if that is the case, you better talk to your parents and tell them the truth about it. may be the other elder relatives and village council elders will be the ideal choice to mediate to set things right. and that will be very effective too.