would you dump your bf/gf if she's like this?

I would not call such a person my "better half" ... that's not a relationship of love, it's a relationship of convenience. People who get mad at being questioned generally have something to hide. To be out of communication for two weeks with no explanation is ridiculous, as is dropping a call right in the middle of talking. All of those questions you state, when added up together, make it appear that the person is in another relationship at the same time - only answering the phone when it's "safe" or hanging up quickly when it's not. I know someone that was trying to be in a relationship and had many of the same things happening. It turned out the woman he wanted so badly was married, with children, and was preying on a few men online to give her money (and her husband knew all about it). The wife had actually served a short jail sentence for fraud. She always had a sob story about being sick (she even said she had cancer -- but still went to a tanning salon ), being abused by other men she was "dating," needing to hire a lawyer, anything to get money. She would say she didn't have the money to keep her internet account so, to be able to keep in contact with her, he paid her internet bill and also gave her a cell phone on his own account so they could talk. She ran up a huge bill on the phone and canceled it, leaving him with a collection agency on his tail. A relationship requires trust and honesty... the person you describe is absolutely not honest and should certainly not be trusted. And no, I would not give such a person the benefit of the doubt whatsoever.

I am a man of rationality. If someone were doing the things described, I would probably get angry at their irrational behaviour lacking explanation. Though, I would definitely investigate the matter--they may have a bad immune system, cheap phone, etc--before doing anything rash.

Better to leave her/him if that will be the situation. It show's no love at all. You need to be wise in that matter. Because that really very annoying...

Hi Zenki and welcome to my lot. Just my opinion I would drop her like a hot potato. Don't sound like she loves you sounds like she needs a daddy to raise her. I wouldn't give her the time of the day!

That is really not something one has to think of. If that is my case, I will surely not think about it anymore but I will most certainly be dumping the guy as soon as I see these things. He's not worth my time and effort, even if I feel something for him, it is still not the only basis that I should stick to him. I should use my mind here and not my heart. These things are not love for goodness sake. So why would I ever be sticking with this guy?

Either the person has emotional/psychological problems, or the person is a terrible partner. Do you know some of her/his friends? If so, you could ask them if he/she treats them the same way. If so, the person may have personal problems that are hurting the relationship. If not, then I would dump the person.

Benefit of what doubt? There is no doubt this person is a user and has no true feeling for you. Sounds like if you didn't make contact at all they may not even notice unless they needed something. This is so much a one way relationship and it is way past time to move on.

I can answer this with two words Hell Yes! I wuld dump him like yesterday's trash! It is a sign of disrespect Not to answer any calls/ texts. It shows he doesn't really Want to be with me if he can disappear for two weeks without calling! It is a bad sign if he thinks he can come to Only when he needs money or rescuing.And he gets upset when I ask questions! Then why am I even with this a$$hole?!

I don't think a relationship like that will ever work out. The other person is just too sneaky. Having a relationship with another is about trust, about what you can give to the other person and vice versa, it's a give and take. I don't even think I would be friends with someone like that, she/ he is just plain rude.

Hell Yes. If the situation was not like that before. Like, we were great together and then he suddenly does the things that you have mentioned, then clearly there is something wrong. It seems like that we are not in a relationship anymore and it's highly inadvisable to still hope that we would be like we were before. If he doesnt wanna be with me anymore, he can just say so and I could have accepted it. Rather than hang around and hope that maybe things would change for the better. From the situation that you've mentioned, I just get the feeling that the guy isnt interested anymore. So why continue.? I do, however, would give him the chance to justify himself before I walk out on the relationship. But that's just for my peace of mind. You also mentioned that he gets angry whenever questions are asked. So, I would think that he would not give any explanations or justifications for his actions. So yeah, if I was in that kind of relationship, Id leave and move on with my life. Goodluck to you.

With that kind of bf/gf there is no benifit and there is no doubt you would be better off without them. I have a ex just like the person you are discribing. That type of person is a user. Not half of anything. Its all about them.

What more justification could he give for not junking a man like this if indeed he being my boyfriend does not reply or answer calls or send SMS, unable to communicate with you for 2 weeks, has very weird reasons for not talking to me, implying she needs money and has constant problems, blah, blah, blah! I would junk him right away! It is a stupid thing to keep a person not worth keeping at all!

This similarly happens to me. I ended up in breaking up with him for good. Even if I still love him. Even if it hurts. I decided to end up our relationship. I am not happy anymore. And is there really love if he/she doesn't reply or answer a call. Are you really important to him/her if he never find time with you to the point that it reach months and months. Sickness and being busy is not a reason for this. If you are on his side, will you do the same to reason out like that? If you love the person, we actually find time even if we feel sick and busy. Will you be happy if this is your life with him? I bet its not. That is why I just broke up with him for good. Our relationship is not working.

For me, if he is acting this way because he has some problems, then I would just tell him that we can't go on like this anymore but will still remain as friends. If or whenever he needs anyone to talk to, at least I will be there to listen and advise ... as a friend. And then I would just get on with my life. That way, nobody will get hurt in the end.

No I would not, this seems to be that the person isnt really putting very much into your relationship. It seems to be more of a chore to this person to be a participant in this relationship. I know that when I dont have the time of day to spend with someone that usually means that I really am trying to get them to stop calling me and my interest is gone. Calling only when they need something classifies using someone.

Honestly, I would dump them. When you're in a relationship, you should be able to count on your partner for support. If you're constantly being given excuses, there's a lot more going on and that's when you need to be one demanding answers or else leaving.

If it was my gf acting like this, I would go so far trying to contact her, but at some point enough would have to be enough. I would stop and wait for so long for them to contact me, but then would have to let go of my relationship with her, because it if someone wants to be with you, they wouldn't play games, it would be serious and personally, I don't get into any game playing so I would leave the ball in her court of a short while, but then I would move on and not look back, as I don't believe that is a good way to show someone that you care about them but staying out of reach in such a way. _Derek

Yes I think it is time to end the relationship. This person may be trying to tell you in an indirect fashion that it is over. There may be personal problems, but your partner should be able to talk to you about them. Sometimes what is familiar is hard to change. It seems your partner just is used to you solving their problems and giving them money. You deserve someone who wants to talk to and be with you.

no i dont think i would. i think this person is trying to tell you something, so i would end it before they do. i wouldnt stand for the way he/she is so they are not worth it.

hello... i have experienced this situation before. I really admit that i was very martyr during that time that it took almots 7 months of having that kind of realtionship. I did not understand things during that time but all I know is that there is really something wrong with my partner. He had really changed alot. He also text me only if he have favors to ask like projects and term papers. Here I come, just a text away and ready to help. It was the cycle of my life for almost 7 months then. I really extended my patience for the things that he had done to me. However, with all the things that happened, It turned my heart to be very broken and very hurt. Time really came that i gave up and decided to start a new life without having that person in my life anymore. I just then discovered a month after our break up that he had his new girlfriend and I can see that he is really happy with his girl right now. It was a very sad experience yet I really learned a lot from it... If I were you, you need to stop that kind of realtionship. Don't wait for the time that things will turn out worst.