A friend that will always be
@nereidiane024 (292)
Philippines
April 25, 2011 10:25pm CST
honestly, im struggling with the circle of friends i belong. although, they are not just the group of friends i have. but they have been part of me since college. the struggles started when one of the closest to me went to singapore without me knowing. i just knew the detail with my bestfriend that our friend is already in singapore. since my bestfriend didnt tell me details where she had learned the fact about our friend. so what i did, i left a message in my friends account in facebook confirming if she was really in singapore. i also asked from our two other's closest friends regarding her. but ended up no answers with them two. and then my friend,left a message telling me, why i kept on texting and asking my two friends and why im not texting her. i told her, the truth that i just knew the story with my bestfriend and how can i ask her regarding the matter if she haven't even told me about her plan on going there and i am not in the position to ask her either. but i let her know that i am sorry for what i have done and not texting her. but what i felt, is knowing the fact that two of our closest friends let her know my asking thru text. and i felt that i know there's nothing wrong of asking and confirming. and i felt sad that after those years with been through, this what happened. my bestfriend told me to ignore them and for its hard to ignore since they are my friends. but i just came to a point that, its better to have less friends who are real that lots of friends who cant even be true to you and even to their selves.
if you will be in my position? is it really better to ignore them? but all in your heart is they are still your friends for always.
i just want to leave you too with this friendship quote:
A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. :)
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@astryfernandy (66)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Hi dear nereidiane024..
You can call me Astry if you like. Here's the thing : for me to have a "friend" is a bonus, but to not have "friend" does not change anything in my life.
Friend here, refers to a close friend, not best friend (got it dear?), and from what I've read in the discussion, she's not your best friend. Best friend don't do things like what she did. Best friends for me is like "another half of me", and i have only one best friend in my entire life.
So dear, my advice is... if you think by showing her that you care is making her unhappy, then let it , do not SHOW that you care about her. NOT SHOWING does not mean you don't care, you just don't show her that you care.
The time will come one day for her to realize the power of friendships you were offering her in the past, and believe me, she'll come around eventually.
Why do I suggest that? Because I have experienced it.
Hopefully can be useful to you
astry
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@nereidiane024 (292)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hi astry!
thanks for giving me an advice.. i also do it, but it also hurts me somehow knowing that i can reach her but im controlling myself for her to know what i felt with what they did. i know that whatever happens, they still be my friends. but sometimes, in a relationship, space is really needed. thanks again and i really appreciate it your advice... Godbless you too astry! :)
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
I guess there's just some gap in your circle of friends. Gap that hindered communication with you and them. But if I were in your shoes, I might feel bad too, but I won't disconnect my self from them.
Previously I have disconnected my self from my circle of friends. As in, no communication through text, calls or any social networking sites. I am in no way to be searched and communicated. But I realized it's too boring and so sad to be alone in this world.
Relationship is very important. Don't lose it when you still can work things out. Of course it would also be good to let them know, you feel bad of what happened, give them the benefit of the doubt, that they might have unintentionally ignored you. They'd still be your friends, if they're real, they'd work things out to make it up to you.
I tell you, friends are great treasures worth keeping. :) Have a happy life! God bless!
friend,
chuyins
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@nereidiane024 (292)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hello there chuyins!
thanks for sharing your thoughts with my struggle. i do felt your concern. thank you so much and may Godbless you always.. :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
26 Apr 11
Sometimes you can be fortunate in life to find that rare friendship that will never fade away. some friendships run their course and fizzle out beforew the relationship ever has has chance to grow and blossom and develop into something real and lasting. when we find these rare freiendships, they are definitely something worth holding on to.
@acey76 (1276)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
You said that you've been friends till college, i want to ask of you is if this is what you are feeling the same way to them since college, If yes, well they are not your friends they are only there maybe they want something from you, Are your friendships has been tested through thick and thin ? If it's only for good times, then let them go coz they don't deserve you, you will find a friend i assure you.
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@binx87 (26)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
some friends are like that even you guys are so close to each other..some people have beliefs or something that cannot be opposed..give them time to realize or to think...and pray for them,pray for your relationship...pray for your friendship...
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