will you let go your 9 years lover for someone you've only known for 3 weeks????

thank you very much mohdaamir, really appreciate it. actually i was alread thinking about it almost a year before i finally said it. thinking about "should I end it, or should I not?". the new guy was just a minor reason, if my ex and I were good and on the right track, i think that new guy, would never got the chance to have anything with me tough..

Hi mohdaamir786 Thank you for your comment. I can not really say anything about you comment tough. It's your opinion. Hope for the best is all i can do now. I will not come back and say sorry to my ex, because i think somehow, he did hurt me,by did not think that marry me is important. and for what is worth, i think I am in better place right now. thanks a lot buddy

you are most welcome astry bt its my opinion dear...i can understand what a person feel when it get hurt but where there is love there should be some faith.i dont know what actually happened but sometime we should not take decesions in hurry.relax and then think sereously and if you really want to be seperate then its your choice i just can say all the very best for your upcoming life take care.

Hi zralte... hmmm i like this comment of yours. "all we can do is take the risks". and thank you for not judging me, because everyone has a reason for everything he/she does right?? many things I can not share here about my reasons, but believe me when i say that I have been trying to bring "that thing" up for quite sometimes. for years he's been thinking that i would never leave him no matter what, he was way over me in that, he really knows me well, so i guess when he said that I should have brought "that thing" up and push him more, it was just out of shocked. He was not prepared nor ready seeing me saying the unexpected thing. and what i told him was: "may be right now you feel I'm doing you wrong, and you cannot accept it, but a a day or a month from now, you'll be relief that i am finally gone from your life". :) it was for the best of us i think!

Yeah, like I said, you know your situation best, so I'm sure you have a good reason for leaving him. People don't just leave a 9 year old relationship just for the sake of it. Without risks, there is no reward either. We have to be prepared to take the risks. If the risk we take turns out to be a mistake, well, at least we've tried, and hopefully learn from that mistake. That's what life is all about. I'm not talking about blindly taking risks, you know what I mean. As long as you are happy, that is good. Just a friendly advice, take things slow with the new guy. I'm sure you already decided that, but I just had to say it out. Good Luck with the new relationship.

hi there, nice questions. But it's hard to answer :) well, A mistake or not, it's already done. The purpose of me placed this topic for discussion was to make other people that by any chance having the same problems as what i had, so that they can get something to think about by reading it. Thanks for the comment.

to cmag83, hi there. Oh My god, I am so sorry for your friend. I hope it won't happen to me. it is true you should spare more time with your lover in order to know him/her better. from my experience: (hahaha..) first year: too many things we don't know about each other. almost everything is fake. Second Year: Gets to know a little more, but still a little we hide from each other. Third Year : we don't really hide anything from one another anymore, and the flame is just not as big as the first to years. Fourth : Plain. just the feelings of "ok, he/she is mine, so i got to treat her/him right" Fifth year: is the hard one, So boring(ggggg), to the terms that we kind of get sick of each other. :) the years after : wow..It's so hard to explain..hahaha have a good night there..

EstiiBabii, Thank you dear, for the nice comment. Yes it's kind of true isn't it? i mean what could you possible hope in a man who just let you stay as girlfriend for many years? even if i go back to him, and he is promising me a marriage life, it would be just to make me stay around, not because he wants it, so i think i am in better place right now.

hi there, Thanks for supporting what i did. Yeah, he was quite casual about the breakup and i found it irritating. that's why I said to him: "may be right now you think I am mean, and too cruel, but a day maybe, or a week or months from now, you will be so relief with my decision today,I know you so well, and i know that's gonna happen". I was literally sad just like normal people who lost their long term relationship, but this new guy he was quite nice to give me time to settle myself before we started our relationship. so yes best of luck for me, and for you too. thanks

sender621, thank you for the comment.I like it. It's about quality of the time not quantity. I agree on that.. We were together for years, but i think I what we were missing is the "good quality of relationship". thanks a lot for the comments. it helps me a little you know, not to feeling so guilty about what I did to him.. thank you..

Hi there.. Yup I did have a very good reason to finally end my 9 years relationship. We have been together for 9 years, and he never pop-up the question, or at least having a real conversation about our future together. I mean, I live in Asian country and I am pure Asian (which comes up with so many rules between women and men). so it was a big matters to me, wasn't being asked to marry him. So i said goodbye finally, after years of uncertainty relationship. Yes indeed, I met another guy. and this was kind of relief to me, because finally after 9 years, i could at least attracted to another guy. (during those 9 years i was never- as in never cheated nor liking another guy,just him). so Even if my new guy now, isn't the one, I will never regret my decision, because because of Him, i got the strength to come out from my previous relationships. apart from that, too many tears during my time with my ex. just too many tears..

I was happy being with my ex. He was one of my good friends, before we started dating each other back in 2001. but the problem we had was we were more like a friend than a lover. I was happy, he was happy, but at first we were feeling weird to talk about marriage. I think the first time we spoke about marriage was when we were 23 years, and we both laughed on it, and found it really weird. and we both agree that it's weird and not the right time. after that, we were never really discuss about it anymore. and as we get older and he has his new life (from university students to a professional,etc) he keep thinking that, "we should just enjoy this moments or happiness we were having after the lousy 5 super hard college time". And at that time I was thinking the other way around..anyway..It's done, no use of regrets or anything. Just keep moving forward..:) it could take me forever if I have to tell all the problems we had till the moments i decided to end things with him. :P have a good night..