WHICH ONE IS BETTER - LISTENER or TALKER

Exactly. You find people of either nature when you travel in public bus or local train. If you are alone and have taken the window side its comfortable to you to pay heed the rest of the people or one or two of them would start talking in such a way that it becomes like the "stream of consciousness" novels of James Joyce. They would start with the weather and end with why in the Royal wedding Obama was not invited and more. They even do not care who you are and if you were irritated by their witty talks.

good day krajibg. I totally agree with what you wrote. there are people who by nature more talkative and more of a somber. for me talking too much to others will make them easily see your characters and if the one you are talking your hearts out with is not a wise person, it could lead you to another problems later on. being a listener is not so easy. why are we listening to others? sometimes we listen because we are forced to, some other time we listen because we care. I believe when we listen to others and try to learn from their problems or stories, you'll find yourself learn a lot. Especially in wisdom.

Hi taski24,... not all that keep his mouth shut is wise. sometimes they just do not care at all. and not all talkers speak up bad things. some of them are just happy to share their experiences. the only problem is sometimes they talk too much..:)

Thanks lingli_78. Simple answer but nice one! being a listener is much harder, you need the patience to actually really listening to someone, especially when you feel that the problems he/she talks about is nonsense.

hi again Tiina05, nice attitude you have there Tiina, keep it up girl. try to be a good listener and you'll find yourself learning a lot from other's problems. I did that too. Everytime someone's talking to me and pouring his/her out to me, i would try to give my best advice. and later on when I am on my own, i usually think about it again, and try to put it on myself. What if I'm the one having the problems? would I do what I advice to them? and I called that the 'Natural learning process" have a good day Tiina

hi there, i believe it so. everything in balance will do good. but it's not easy to get it balanced tough. for those who are having problems expressing their feeling, talking to others might make them uncomfortable and on the other side, those who are simple, usually find that listening to other's problem quite irritating.

Hi Iklananda... Well off course none of it is very bad or very good. everything comes with its own negative and positive. to keep it balance is the good way, but the problem is, it's not easy to be both and balance.

hi there,.. you know what? may be you should write down what you feel or what you are thinking in a blog or something. To me, sometimes when i have problems, I will browse the internet and reading people's thought on things. And somehow I will just find the answers to my problems, without have to put it out to others.

Hello there. I am not much of a talker nor listener, but to choose between the two, i would choose i'm better at listening rather than talking. i don't mean that I don't like talking, I DO, but listening and giving out advices are much more fun to me. According to my friends, they say that I am a good listener, and wise :P, but when it comes to my own problems, i would be a very bad talker and hard to accept advices from others (not listening to others). My own opinion is actually different to my friends. basically I believe that by listening to much to others, you would not get what you need, instead the will confuse you even more. so if i have problems, I usually talk only to my best friend and another 1 friend, and that's it. when my other friends ask me what's the problem? and I say nothing, then that's when the judgement comes out, that i am not a good listener and talker when it comes to my own problems.

hi sender621. I really think that listener and talker are both good in a positive way, but personally thinking, people who are able to listen to others usually are wiser when it comes to talking and giving advices

hi simplyd, like your user name, i bet you are a simple person. :) that's true tough what you said about one can be a talker as well as a listener. But which one do you think is easier? being a talker or a listener? Talking is quite easy when you are saying what you feel, but listening to what others feel, that's quite hard, especially if we do not think that what he/she's saying is actually a big problem.

Hi there,.. thanks for the nice comments. it is interesting how you mention about someone who never listens to you but just talks and someone who always listens but doesn't really get involved are both bad. So the point is if you are a listener, be a good one. not only listen but also be involved in the conversation, and if you are a talker, try not to take over the whole discussion on your part. that way both parties get the same satisfaction.

hi lexilex.. have a good day there. how about if you have a problem? do you prefer to talk to others, or you just keep it quite and try to solve it yourself? i have to agree with you, that to be a good listener you have to have the patience, because sometimes you find that "oh My God, this is so boring". without the patience, i don't think we can be a good listener. especially when we listen to a real TALKER.