Is there a way to tell if a man is married or not?
By silvercoin
@silvercoin (2101)
Lithuania
April 28, 2011 8:45am CST
I met this old friend of mine yesterday.He said he's married and has a son.Why wouldn't you believe when someone says he IS MARRIED, you would ask.The problem is that he used to tell me lies about his personal life before and I simply can't believe that he is married and has a child.He didn't wear a wedding ring.OK, what are other signs of a married man?Behavior?Look?Is there a way to tell if one is married?
11 responses
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Hi Silver! Most parents are proud of their children. You might ask to see a photograph, since most parents carry them, and enjoy showing them off. Maybe there would be a resemblance? As far as behavior goes, I really can't think of any concrete ideas. People who want to lie are usually pretty convincing about it.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
28 Apr 11
He said a phrase like:I'm so tired, he's so noisy.Not a nice phrase for a loving father, is it?I hope this child is really an imaginary one.I only wonder if a constant lying isn't some kind of disorder.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Saying phrases like that isn't necessarily an indication that the guy is lying, or that he doesn't love the child. Many men don't bond with their kids when they are in the baby stage, especially during the crying all night ages. Exhaustion and/or lack of sleep can make people say all kinds of things, that they don't necessarily feel (if they were better rested).
On the other hand, compulsive lying is a real disorder. Maybe if you run into this guy again, asking more questions about the child would help you spot untruths? The more he tells you, the more likely he is to contradict himself at a later time.
Now I'm curious. Make sure you let us know how this turns out, ok?
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
1 May 11
This time it wasn't a lie.I accompanied him till the door of his house,we picked a toy for his baby boy and roses for his wife because today it's her birthday.I saw them both, the wife and the child,she knows now that I'm his friend, not a lover, and that she doesn't need to be jealous.He changed drastically.And his life too.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Apr 11
silvercoin Monkeying around with a liar is useless as you know he twists the truth.why would you want to have anything to do with a liare. I hope you do not have love feelings for this person as he sounds like he is just not worth your time. for goodness sakes do not marry this kind of a man as he does not improve, once a liar always a liar and that is the honest truth.I do not know of any fail proof way of tellikng if a man'ios single or married?why do you care anyway?
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
29 Apr 11
There's no such a thing as a "married man's behaviour". Men don't change that much when they marry. Most become lazier with their looks than they were before, but many men are lazy to begin with.
You can try to guess asking some of his aquaintances if it's true or not, as if he's lying you will know with a 3rd opinion.
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Usually a ring is the sign that tells all, but not always. My husband because of his job use to not wear the ring on his hand but on a chain around his neck. I take my ring off at home since Im usually cleaning or something and only put it on when I go out, but sometimes forget. You can go with hes probably lying and forget about it, or ask to see a pic of his fam. In the long its dosent really effect your life, just natural curiousity. I cant stand liars though, even years down the road you cant trust anything they say.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
28 Apr 11
Well Interrogate whom.Ask about other women in his life.Watch his expression when he talks about them.A little more focus investigate it.Gradually found his friends and by far questioned.If you married someone needs to know.
Good luck.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
28 Apr 11
no ideas friend....about ring i don't agree as many don't wear them...and one sign which i can say is most common that the person or man starts looking very responsible ...but that is also not 100% true about everyone...as some fun loving kind of people remain the same even after there marriage...i think you should ask him for the photos of his wife or his marriage and also his son with them...
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
28 Apr 11
Family photo would be the best thing, but with Photoshop you can do wonders.
Yes, I agree that it's nearly impossible to tell if someone's married or not.Some wear their rings, some don't, some act serious, some act silly.You're right.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
1 May 11
Firstly I would not be concerned with his marital status unless you are seeking a relationship with him. You know he's got a reputation as a liar so take what he says with a grain of salt. As I have had friend whom lived what I thought a nice life syle and seemed very happy turned out it was quite the opposite. And could not recall the lies she had spun so I shook my head and acted like I believed every inch and eventually put alot of distance between us and no longer communicate with her.
Many men do not wear wedding bands though they are married. I know my hubby has lost 2 bands and his job will not allow for him to wear it to work for safety so he has not worn one in years.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Why worry about it, the man is a lier and so anytime you talk to him you can only belief a part of what he is saying. I guess if you really need to know ask to see
a picture of wife and child. A lot of married men carry one in their wallets. Of course it could be a fake also. It's a no win situation with this guy.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
28 Apr 11
A photo really can be fake, he's a photographer himself.
If he's married, than it's OK.But if he's not, then I'm in a complicate situation.
Well, I'll try to figure it out.
And you're right, he's a liar, it means he can lie and lie and lie.
@allknowing (136541)
• India
28 Apr 11
What are you doing with a liar in the first place. Since you know he tells lies you should not waste your time trying to find out if he is married or single. No. It is difficult to find that out. All what you can do may be is ask him if he carries a picture of his wife and child.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
28 Apr 11
There were times when I believed his stories.He has a talent, but he's wasting it.
@zralte (4178)
• India
28 Apr 11
I agree with the other responses. There is no irrefutable way to tell if a man is married or not. Some men might talk about their families, some men might not. As you mentioned wedding ring is not really a proof, as lots of men prefer not to wear a wedding ring.
I am puzzled, as the other members, why you want to know if he is married or not.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
28 Apr 11
Because there were times when he wanted to be my boyfriend.If he's married with children, he shouldn't call me or write me like he does now.