Can you get married to someone you don't love..

I don't think that i could in good consciwence maarry someomne that i did not love. it would not be fair to either of us to do that. Marrying someone that you don't love doesn't have a promising future for anyone.

I grew up in a country where almost every marriage is a love marriage. Arranged marriages are not a part of our culture, and I think that it would be hard for me to accept the idea of marrying a person that my parents have chosen for me. I want to make my own decision and I want to find a person that I love. One of my father's friends has son who is my age and when I was younger my father used to joke about it and say that him and his friend had decided that we should get married one day, but it was just a joke. My parents would never pick my husband.

Hi. nolongtin1. Welcome to myLot! Let me just say that, I am glad and relieved that I don't live in Nigeria at all. I could not imagine myself living in a place that allows my parents to pick and choose for me. If I am an adult, I should be able to pick and choose whom I would love to marry. I don't want to be forced into marrying a man that I don't even love. To live with him for many years, it would be like I married a total stranger. How awful would that be for any woman or man.

Yes, there are many cultures whose parents arrange marriage for their children. For me, I don't think i can accept such arrangements by my parents. I want to marry the person whom I love and not someone just assigned to me.

Hi there.. I will make sure that it won't happen.. Entering into marriage is a big issue, you will not just put yourself into it if love and other aspects doesn't exist in your relationship. You will be responsible and committed to it once you enter that kind of situation and it is blessed and guided by God that's why it's not just a small thing. You should not enter to this kind of relationship when you don't love your partner because it will just lead into a miserable and complicated life having no feelings for each other.

Instances like this doesn't happen just in Nigeria but to many other countries mostly to poor countries. I surely will feel bad if this will happen to me and probably will blame my parents. But in my country the Philippines, arrangements like this is still happening specially in remote poor areas where parents of a poor family who wants to give the best to their daughter would force her to marry to a man of financial capability so as to make sure that their daughter and the upcoming kids would have something to eat on their table. On the parents side it's marriage for convenience while on the woman's side it's everlasting torment. In other cases, it's not just for convenience but it's for the sake of friendship of both parents wherein both parties agreed to have their kids married. It's bad because getting married without real love usually don't last forever and if it will last long, it's not gonna be happy living. In my case, I won't ever allow my parents to decide for my future. I will fight for my love whatever it takes.

I will really feel bad for my parents for getting into my way of choosing the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. I really will disapprove of their wishes and even if they will hate me for not accepting what they wish for me to marry, I will still stand to my decision. It's my life they are trying ruin..they may know what's best for me but I know whom my feelings are happy with.

Welcome to mylot I think you are talking of arranged marriages, but none is forced to marry the boy or girl, they should see eath other, talk, if suitable should marry about me i was married in 1966, i am happy, it was arranged marriage Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

This is something which can't be answered right away. Get married and you will know whether you can or can't. Sometimes you just need to marry someone even if you don't love them

I think I can marry someone I don't love coz who knows the feelings later might develop. I have seen some examples around me. They got married to people they didn't evn know and now they're one of the happiest couples I know.

this is what you called fixed marriage.

This is really happening in many countries, its their tradition. Sad thing but they have to accept their fate, if not they would bring disgrace to their families.

i think is so hard when it happened to me,i dont want it to happened to me,its like you go to hell and your life gonna be sucks,

happiness is a choice..its not a destiny..if you chose a certain path..you should be proud of it..if they think they could eventually love that person then go for it..