If you had less money, do you think you would have less friends ?
By missbdoll
@missbdoll (1165)
Australia
May 1, 2011 3:55am CST
OK, I know this may sound like a funny question, but if you ended
up not being able to afford to do a lot of stuff and join in with your friends, would they still be your friends ?
When you can't afford a social life do people just "forget" you ? I know a lot of people will say "real friends don't do that".
Like a lot of people I've been finding things a bit of a struggle for awhile now and as I can't afford to do things like go out to lunch, or movies etc, friends don't even call me now.
yes I've still got a few people that I guess are genuine, and are still there, but I feel like a lot of people have just "written me off".And I just don't think that's the right thing to do.
How would you react with a friend doing tough ?
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18 responses
@EricaBurns (117)
• United States
1 May 11
I make sure to be very careful who I call friend because you have people you hang out with just for fun, but at the end of the day they aren't really your friend. No real friend would ever leave your side when you are going through tough times a real friend should be there for you. Sometimes when we are in tough situations we kind of unintentionally push people away because we feel sad, so we dont call are friends as much and therefore puts some distance in the middle of the friendship. For me if I have money I would always look out for my friend and treat her, and if she has the money I know she will do the same for me. I try to always be there for my friends and do whatever i can for them. Stay encourgaed, and sweetie its better to know who your real friends are than to get hurt later down the road. Take Care
@rabblerouser (136)
• South Africa
2 May 11
Hi EricaBurns , your advice is very good ...but some times you can still be fooled by people
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
5 May 11
I find this really amusing..but with truth in it!
Changes in your financial status may make you lose some friends and gain new ones.
@derek_a (10874)
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2 May 11
If I had fewer friends because I had less money, then I don't think that I would have had many friends to begin with. I do not become someone's friend because they have lots of money. I am never really that interested whether they are rich or poor. If they are good people and I find it easy to be with them, then I find it easy to be friends with them. _Derek
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
5 May 11
It doesn't bother me if I only have a few friends.
I only have a few of them in my circle.
I am fortunate that even though we are all busy with our own lives now and rarely see each other, we still keep in touch. Our friendships had already been tested by time and I don't think I'd lose them if ever I became poor.
@hypocrite_hater (72)
• Canada
2 May 11
Friends are not just the people you hang out with. Friendship is more than thatt. A friend is someone who really cares for you, who supports you in your time of need, who remains by your side when others stray away. I may have sounded a little corny there but that's just what true friendship is about. When I was in high school, there was this kid who I often talk to when there is no one else around. But because he was not popular, I did not consider him a friend. Time came when I was accused by a teacher of something terrible, my so called friends turned their back from me, they did not even give me a pat in the back.... only the kid I first mentioned came to my defense and proved my innocence. Starting that day I understood what friendship really means. Friends stand for each other.
@Incarnation (66)
• Canada
2 May 11
I don't have friends based on whether I have money or not. My friends are my friends. They'll be there for me no matter what. If I don't have the money for it, I'll try to find another activity that me and my friends will enjoy. :)
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
2 May 11
in my opinion, if people just want to be your friend because you have money, then they are not worthy to be call as your friends... sorry to be saying this... but true friends will stick with you through good and bad times, and not on good times only... take care and have a nice day...
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
2 May 11
I'm that friend who's not doing as well as before. Yes, some of my friends have forgotten me and while it WAS painful, I've learned to let go. Besides I have a health condition that prevents me from participating in a lot of things but it was expected of me.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
1 May 11
helo missbdoll,
Those kind of people cannot be call as a friend rather a phony
It is true that if you have less money you cannot go out with your friends
But true friends will always find a way
I can say i am lucky enough to have a friends who is not after what i have
I can still join them even i don't have enough money, we can still have fun sometimes in their expense .
But some people will you can their friends because of your fame,money and power and this is so sad.
happy mylotting
@rabblerouser (136)
• South Africa
2 May 11
Hey, missdoll....well if they discard you, then they would not count as friends , i was in a similar position years back....when times are tough you find friends are few !.....but if you think back about how the "friends" interacted with you don't be surprised to find they way not real friends even when they first met you
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
1 May 11
I think it's true,if you go through a difficult period financially you realize that you have less so-called 'friends' than before;from this point of view,having less money can be useful sometimes because it can help us find out who our true friends are;those who still call us or meet us in those hard times are the ones who deserve to be called friends.As for the rest,if I realize that some peole ignore me when I have no ney to go out and then they look for me when they find out that my situation improved,I don't even want to bother talking to them;'ignore' is the only thing they deserve.
@fredium3650 (40)
• Philippines
1 May 11
this had happened to me a few times already. but we should not generalize because there are still true friends around the corner who accepts all sides of yourself; who sees you beyond your money's worth.
@Sylvestor (53)
• India
1 May 11
well its true that some ppl just wanna be frendz with yew coz of your money, but not all of them. there are some frendz like the ones I hav, who are true frendz. They are frendz with you juz for who yew are and not for your money or status. Incase yewr frendz have forgotten yew then i'd say yew alteast know which of yewr frendz wer with yew only for money. Forget them and move on, am sure yew'l find many more frendz around. There are alot of other ppl who would love to be your frend for what you are.
@Veganza101 (25)
• United States
1 May 11
When you have more money, yes you would have more friends but they can be friends with you or you money. When you have less money maybe you;ll have less friends but you know their your friends because they want to be your friends, they dont want to be friends for your money
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 May 11
Well we can always have our opinions but i think when you are rich and you lost your money them you might also lose your friends. But if you have on money to begin with and you get to meet people along the way, then you just might have more friends and they would be truer than most peoples friends.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
1 May 11
less money, more real friends. lots of money, more fake friends. lol! it's pretty logical to assume such condition nowadays as people are more into having and wanting what others have.
@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
1 May 11
i'm not scare if i less money, cause my friend not think about money. we always hep another who's need help. that a friendship.
@Natho111 (19)
• Kuwait
1 May 11
I think if you don't have money, friends will be far from you,even some family members will not remember that you are somewhere talkless of given you a call.money attract a lot of people to you but you must be carefull with people when you have money because anyday you seased to have money, all of them will run away from you.