is your boyfriend a good listener?

My boyfriend is a very good listener and I try to be a good listener too. I don't really know why some men, and women too, don't listen. It could be that they are too busy thinking of other things. Maybe they feel pressured or insecure by what they are listening to. Sometimes I have to bounce something off of someone but I don't want them to feel pressured into coming up with a solution. I just may need a listening ear.

I guess, normally, most of men are like that, only in my opinion. As I have noticed, they seem not comfortable to talk about the problem concerning the relationship. There are men who knows how to listen... FRIENDS... That's what I also wonder.. friends do listen but boyfriends.. I haven't found one yet..

In my case, my husband is my boyfriend, and he's definitely a great listener. I couldn't ask for better. I know that he's always there when I need someone to talk to, someone to lean on, a shoulder to cry on, and such. He's there when I need him.

A new boyfriend seems to be the best listener. he is is still in tune with what there is nysterious about you. sometimes when we become too comfortable with each other, we may not listen as intently as we should.

My boyfriend is a good listener to the extent that he understand what I feel and who I am. He really cares for me especially when I am totally down. In the first place my boyfriend is down to earth that is why he really tends to understand everything about me especially my rants that he is patient enough to guide me.

he sometimes listens and in the meantime never allows me to speak at all.its a mutual listen situation

Yes he does My Ex Husband never did in all the 21 years we where married but my Partner now certainly does He respects that I need to talk at times and he respects it is a 2way Relationship not just 1 I am very lucky I know that because it is rare that the other half listens lol I think it is just guys in general

hello chiyosan... :) im so lucky to have a good boyfriend... yes he is a good listener too... i love to talk with him everyday.. sharing our story and feeling... i have 2 ex boyfriends and they are not a good listener, kinda selfish and arrogant too... cheers... ^^

I don't have one but people surround me are very good listeners! Perhaps guys hates it when they need to listen his girlfriends complaints and what so ever.They don't like things like that and not so much into matters that touch about emotion or gossips but they will be the talkative one when talking about their favorite stuff or when they are with their men friends~

I'm glad to have a bf who's interested in listening to me, all my problems, be it at work with our relationship. He never fails to provide me with all the assurance i need and his strong shoulder for support. Though he's listening, but he's not always on my side either, as he wants me to see my mistake, or look at things from another perspective. That's what i love about him, as i'm always learning new things from him.

Perhaps what you are talking about, doesn't interest your boyfriend so he hardly listens to them. Try to initiate stories that would let him participate on it, not only you as the talker. Or you could ask him to tell his stories also and listen to him intently. Add humor to your stories too. My husband is a good listener. Maybe because i would sometimes make my story funny, so he would butt in with his jokes and that would make us laugh a lot. He seldom tells stories, so i would coach him to and he would sometimes. Oftentimes, it would be me who initiates it.

Sometimes it is not that he is not very much concern what you say. Honestly there is too much happening in the man's mind that you might find difficult to understand. If he is listening he will respond, and if not say it again he will respond. If you love him you will get to know him better, as you grow in age together. Get used to him, you are a pair together no matter you see it now. Good luck.

I think it really depends on the boyfriend. Some people are good listeners while others are not. However, I think if the person was your boyfriend, he'd be happy to listen to you as long as you give him the chance to talk time to time. Listening can be quite boring if a person is not interested so make sure it's a conversation and not just a one way thing.

Right from the start my boyfriend isn't good listener. After two year together, I know that's it's kind of one of his expression. But in other side, he's \care and concern with me, so I dont mind if he's not a good listener, but sometime it's so annoyying

My husband is okish at listening, but he does tend to start talking about something else. He usually zones out or does something else like watching the television. Sometimes I will be talking and I have to check in that he is listening because he doesn't say anything back. I love him and I have to listen to him whole heartedly, but it is not the same in return.

Yes he is a good listener and i love him so much of being my ears every time that i have problems. This is the characteristic that i love to him so much. You can lean on him and he will be your friends and lovers at all times. When i feel down and i saw him for sure i will change my mood and turn into happy moment. And i treasure him so much. Love the way he cares. Have a nice day!

I remember when my husband and I were still on the dating stage. He was always all ears on what I have to say. But after more than 25 years of being married, he now say that I am so annoying and that I have repeating and repeating what I have said. Sometimes it hurts me knowing that he does not listen, but he said it was just him who got hurt everytime I keep on repeating what I have said. He thought that I keep on thinking that he is non-sense and uncaring. But the reason that I keep on repeating what I have said is just to remind him of it, knowing that as we grow older, sometimes we tend to be forgetful. But when it comes to having conversation about anything, we make it a point to listen with each other.

i think my boyfriend is a good listener. and i reciprocate this too by being a good listener also. most of the time i provide him with the latest news in our workplace and this works because he eagerly does listen but then he also listens to the nonsense things i think of.

When I first met my husband, we spent a lot of time talking on the phone (neither one of us are much for talking on the phone), but I lived 40 miles away at the time, so we didn't seem to see enough of one another. He loved it when I rambled, and still does. He asks how my day was, and if nothing interesting happened (rather I was too busy to make time for those people that are filled with drama to come and bug me), he seems to actually be down about it. He has always been a phenomenal listener, with rare exceptions. Sometimes, he has a bad habit of touching when a subject is boring to him, which is distracting to me (and probably the main reason he does it). In the past, I have had many innattentive boyfriends, and I used to insert random phrases to see if they were paying attention. This requires the ability to say something off the wall without changing tone or giving it away. For example, he would say, "So, what did you do today?" And I would say, "Oh, it was pretty good. I did some auditing (insert accounting jobs here), and then Jane came in with a lobster in her purse, which we set on fire to cook it. (Then insert more fact about your day)." Obviously, if you did this correctly and he didn't bat an eye, he wasn't listening and just doesn't care.

Honestly, I hate socializing and talking with people and rather avoid talking as much as possible. I rather be the listener/follower of the group than do the talking.