Has anything "big" happened in your family and you didn't know anything about it

I am used to being in the dark in my family. before i had my guy and my own friends i would be hurt but now I assume if they want me to know things , they will tell me and if not , that's ok.

Well I have to say, some families are like this and mine is one of them. For example, I doubt if I would ever know if something was to happen to my oldest daughter or her children because I am not family to them. My cousin who I got in touch with a few years ago, calls me out of the blue months after he had a heart attack, because he was home from work and bored... I keep those in my family who speak to me up to date with what is going on in my life, and unfortunately that isn't everyone..

Not really. I come from a close knit BIG family. Everyone keeps everyone else informed about big events...marriage, babies, etc. But my mom's brother is a little aloof and doesn't talk much to anyone in the family. I visit him every time I go to my native place but we don't communicate otherwise and he doesn't take the effort to keep in touch with my mother..let alone me. So, I didn't get to know about his son's wedding till months after it happened. But I've invited him for all my sons' events where I have invited the rest of the family too. It's another matter that he hasn't attended a single one. My mom's sister is not financially well off and they don't even have a phone. So, it's really hard to keep in touch with her. But when we do happen to meet, she is nice and friendly. She attends all the functions that happen in the family (where my mom makes it a point to invite her). But I wasn't invited for her son's engagement on Easter this year. I got to know only because my dad's brother's son was getting married on the same day and my mom told me I could choose if I wanted to go for the wedding or the engagement. Since I'm in good terms with my aunt, I could have attended the engagement without an invitation..if I wanted to.

Hi jill! Yeah, I have been left out of family events a few times. But I have learned to not be bothered by it because most of the times, it's my choice not to get involved. So when there's something major going on, they don't usually try to involve me unless I get involve on my own initiative. It probably sounds selfish and unattached but that's just how I am. I think I just don't like responsibility.^^

No, I have been included in all family events. Two of my nephews married a week apart in the U.K. so that my husband and I could see both of them married whilst we were on vacation. has never happened and it is so rude. My former BIL was not going to his sister's wedding as he did not approve of her husband and my sister told him that she would hold it against him all of her life if he didn't go to the wedding. he went but then he didn't approve of me marrying either and stayed outside of the Church. I did not even know he wasn't there as I did not miss him

My grandmother (from my dads side) had been in hospital for a whole week before my dad was told. He felt a little left out there and I can understand why.

Hi,, for me,I haven't came across that case...it sounds unbelieveble...^^ I guess the gentleman may not keep a good relation with his sister... if my sister get married,I will be the first person to be informed..^^

For em if you are a normal person then you know it very well.

I just thought of something else! I've got a mother-in-law who has a weird attitude about staying in the loop with her children and grandchildren. I made the "mistake" of telling her my kids hangout with their cousins and talk to them on facebook! Ever since she has to call me when she learns any little, itty, bitty bit of information about anyone in the family! She picks up the phone as soon as she has this "information" to tell me. Sheesh! I don't have a half hour to discuss which kid is moving out or back into the state! These info requirements drive me nuts!

You touched on a subject that was just insane in our family. Our mother made it very clear we were not to talk to any member of HER family without telling her first. She made it very clear HER family was HER family, not ours. Her family knew how volatile my mother was and only made sure to include her into major events. They told her very little else. Now that she has passed away I can enjoy a new relation ship with my extended family. They are cautiously approaching my friendship. So to answer your question, yes I was left out of a lot.

Tons of times we are always out of the loop with the family. We have come to the point now we just don't care anymore because it will just upset you.

I have never been left out of my family events, but my husband has with his family all the time. Thanksgiving, birthdays, Easter, and even engagements in the past. It is rather sad that his family is like that.

My sister being a huge drama queen and constantly fighting with every possible member of my family, I miss out on alot of "important family events" that happened, because I am generally laid back and am impossible to argue with.

Yes,I was dumped without any expectation,he lied to me,he told me we would be engaged and then he just disappeared and told me he was with his ex-girl.I'm extremely hurt,I even don't know how could this happen,I don't kown how to move on my life,I'm stuked.Awful!

Yes. My daughter got married to a boy we barely knew. They went before a judge in the courthouse and got married without telling any of the family beforehand. That really hurt alot of us badly.

Hi Jill, I haven't ever been left out of family events myself but I must admit at my sons recent Christening I didn't even tell my dad and one of my brothers although I told didn't invite as it would have been too far for him to traveland there was no room at the inn so to speak as I was putting up the Godparents who had also travelled, but then I was 17 when vetted by the army and discovered that his surname was changed to my surname a year after I was born, that one was kept from me. Huggles. Ellie :D

The first thing that comes to mind is when my sister-in-law had a miscarriage. I didn't find out about it until her annual Christmas letter came out. Yeah, I felt a little bit hurt.

I found out a few weeks ago that my grandparent's house burned down. It happened a couple of months ago. I guess my mother tried to contact me, but dial my old cell phone number. My grandmother and grandfather are okay, which is good to know. i went to a cookout to see the family a few weeks ago, and they told me what had happened then.

There have been times when something huge has happened and i have been left completely in the dark. i hate being the last one in the family to know something important. it does hurt and it can make you feel like you are unappreciated.

Yes, I have had this happen to me fairly recently. In fact, I even started a discussion about it. I had three separate instances where family members were in the hospital for serious medical issues and I read about it on Facebook. And, yes, I felt extremely hurt. I am not the kind of person to just stew in those hurt feelings, so they all became well aware of the fact that I did not appreciate being kept out of the loop when it was alright for them to update their facebook status about it. If something major (and potentially life changing) happens to my direct family, I want someone to call... Or even just a text saying, "So-and-so is in the hospital, will give you more information later." Another time, my dad got remarried without telling anyone until the next day. They had only been engaged about a week, and less than a year later, divorced. It still hurt, however.