How to handle the elder child on birth of second one?

My mother told me that every so often my sister asked could she have a baby brother or a baby sister. When she was 4 years old my mother had finally got pregnant with me. Then my sister changed her mind and wanted a kitten or a puppy. When I was born friends and family came to admire the new baby and they didn't take notice of my sister then aged 5 years old. My sister had to go to primary school and my mother had me to care for at home. I think my sister felt sad and left out. I have got a 16 year old son and he grew up like an only child. When he was 12 years old my disabled son was born and then when he reached 14 years old my daughter was born. There are two years and one month between my two youngest kids. I tried to get my disabled son to help me with my daughter when she was a baby. I gave lots of praise to my disabled son and tried to make sure he wasn't left out. One of my friends had her son get aggressive to her daughter when she was a baby. She was told to keep her son away from the baby sister for her own safety. It took about six months for him to realize she is a member of their family. Good luck.

when i gave birth to my son, my mom acts as if he i her own, haha but of course, i still have a big part on being a mom to my son. but my little sister who is 6 years old (my son's 1) always gets jealous when my mom takes care of my son. to the point that she acts disabled, mom get this, mom slice my food, mom i can you go with me to the bath room i want to pee. it's driving me and my mom sick.

I never had problem with my kids. I have 3 kids and the age gap is 2 years and 3 years. I let the elder ones play with the youngest even when the youngest is still a baby. I always tell the elder that they should love and take care of the baby because it need care and they're the elder so they should look after the youngest. So, my elder 2 kids never get jealous with the youngest when they're still toddlers. But now that they're grown ups,the youngest always been crying because the elders always tease him.

We only have one child, so i wasn't able to experience that. But when i had my training in caregiver, i learned that naturally the older child will get jealous of the attention given to the second child. So as to avoid that, the older child should be always be told that the younger brother should be loved and taken cared by him, being the older. It's as if you are giving him responsibility. Give him appreciation when he does that, so he would be consistent with it until he grows.