staying in a relationship

I can only suggest that you speak to your partner and talk about your feelings. Communication is almost as important as trust in a relationship. Best of luck!

hi ddaguno, like all others, I suggest you talk to your partner about it. I have been to that stage and tell you what, not talking to my partner could have not saved our relationship. In most cases, we are just thinking too much and expect too much which makes us think of different negative things...negative "what if's" that scares us. When you have those thoughts bothering you, you would not notice you are changing too. Worst case would be, you are just thinking that your partner has changed but he sees you change. So I believe talking with your partner about this will clear things out. BTW, what happened after our talk? We have built a better relationship, a deeper trust and a stronger commitment. I hope this makes sense. Good luck!

Marriage is the ultimate commitment of course. But then you see people who marry for the sake of a wedding or to show off. Many people get married without discussing what the future holds for both people. To be in a committed relationship you have to work at it. You take nothing for granted for the first dozen or so years. You need to have a plan that both are following, you need to know where you are headed, separately and as a couple. You need common goals. Otherwise you are just drifting along with nothing really holding you together. Unless the two of you are in the habit of sitting down and discussing things then I say forget it. You will find yourselves in a rut and the relationship will grow cold and slowly disintegrate.

Everyone changes...experiences create the person. People do grow apart or grow closer. I have to ask...why would you feel relieved if the relationship ended?

At the same time relieve? Why would you be relieved if you break up? I guess you there are times that you are no longer happy with your partner. It happened to me before. In the middle of our 4th year of being gf/bf. I felt there was no excitement on our relationship and we always fight. Sad part is we are in a long distance relationship so fixing issues between us will really be difficult. What we did was talked after we had some time on our own thinking. We tried to work things out for a couple of days, we tried make things simple for both of us. We have had 4 yrs already after all. Good thing is we have worked things out and now we are almost at our 5th year and I would say that we are very much happy and our relationship was even more stronger now after that storm.

none of you are changing... it is the time that is changing... I wuld highly recommend a weekend together with only the two of you... bring back the spice and love before things start getting messy as they always tend to when you are together...

This is a very personal situation. You know what has or hasnt gone on in your relationship. Realistically. Relationships do get lazy if you are not working on them. There are really important things you should ask yourself and your bf. Where do you see your relationship going. Are you guys just hanging out or planning to marry? Do you live together? What is it that you think you might be missing inside and outside the relationship? You really need to express this to him and get his input on this. He might not be feeling distant from you at all. It might just be that you guys need to take some time to fall back in love and remember what it was you loved about one another and find new things to love. Relationships are very hard work and there are times that you might not really like one another. You just cant let it stay like that for long.

I guess this is what they mean by the honeymoon phase, that time when we are so in love and enrapt with one another, we are so passionate, so loving. That doesn't always last forever. But with some it does, and that makes me jealous. I have to be totally honest, I have been feeling like this myself lately. My husband and I have been married almost 14 years. Watching the royal wedding last week kind of pinched something in me. I want what they have. William and Kate are so obviously in love and respectful of one another. I don't feel I really ever had that and start feeling like I "settled". But at 35 years of age and with 2 kids, how did I know I would ever find that kind of love? Love is not a feeling, it's a choice. You choose to love the one you are with (or you choose not to). What we need is to rekindle that spark - like someone else said, a weekend away together. My husband and I have never done that since we got married. He's also not a romantic type of guy and don't know whether he can become more romantic if I give HIM more attention and affection. It is said, you can't change the other person but you can change yourself and they can change in reaction to your change. I don't think you are alone in the way you are feeling, but I guess talking to our significant other is the answer. I keep telling my husband I want him to be a prince. Yeah, that's pushing for the impossible dream. But I did have a real dream one night about a week ago. I was sitting on the floor bawling and screamed, "I just want to be loved!" It's a two-way street. If I want my husband to treat me with love and respect, I have to treat him that way. I don't have all the answers. Mostly, I'm just thinking out loud and maybe something will make sense to you. Good luck.

ddaguno sometimes we b oth change but still thats to be expected as people do change from year to year but that does not mean if you talking marriage of course you change as you mature and ev en life changes but that should not mean the end of a marriage. After all if we did not change and were the bubbling can't get enough of you we had in our first year when we were in our sixies we mioght think something is wrong with us.After all when you are in your golden years making love four times a day might seem a bit childish. No matter what almost all of us will start to have a few aches and pains in our later years and cavorting like a teen is something best left to the teens. If you are not married I suppose in the way of young people today three years is a lifetime as most only last a few months and c hange partners as this ones all worn out.lol guess I am not fond of three year shack ups. just a temporary arrangement at best. nobody is hurt I g uess.How could you know if its your partner as its you who has this feeling?Could be your marriage line of communication is no longer open.talk to him ask him how he feels now, if you cannot do this maybe you both need to see a marriage counselor to help your

I don't know the full story of your relationship but I want to know what really the reason why do you want to broken up the relationship. Do you still love your partner or someone involved that love you better than your current relationship?

everything changes, nothing is perfect and with that in mind, you should be able to realize, reassess and reevaluate where you stand. change for the better or change for the worse, adapting to changes should be initiated and hopefully it would turn out for the better both for your and your partner.

I think at some point in a relationship this happens. I'm not sure if it's true for everyone. It happened between me and my husband. Somewhere along the way I felt that something has changed between the two of us. I can't pinpoint if it's me or him. All I know is that I can no longer feel warmth and secure when we talk, kiss or hug and even when we sleep at night. And then one day we had a big fight. He told me that he can no longer feel I love him. I told him that's exactly how I feel. I told him I'm no longer sure if I still love him because I can't feel that he still cares for me and sometimes he raises his voice when he gets upset just because of petty things. And then, we tried to work things out. We eventually realized that along the way we stopped communicating. We stopped having our own conversation between him and me. We stopped having our own private time and moment. We sorted things out. We started going out alone- just him and me again. We started caring for each other just like when we were still boyfriend and girl friend. The warmth is now back. Everything turned out fine. :)

Both of you perhaps~ Why do you have such feeling?? If you think that there is something wrong with your relationship then figure it out. Mostly man did not like that. I know that sometimes ladies can be so sensitive and thinking about it more than guys (most of the time they did not realize that you feel something about him). Talk to him and have a discussion. It is better if you tell him what you feel rather than thinking about it by yourself. This is about both of you, so he should know how you feel and perhaps you can make the relationship become better in a future.

Maybe your partner was just tired last night. Sometimes, when we are just so tired from our work all we could do is to hug and cuddle in the evening. That alone can be called bonding to the both of you. Perhaps, the next morning when you feel both refreshed from the night's sleep, it will be a warmer way to share your love with one another.

Oh god, that's a creepy question!Well you have to be aware that sometimes changes in a relationship is needed and thats where you will see progress and growth but you have to pray that changes for the better and not for the worst. So now, for yourself to know if its you or vice versa, then better start evaluating your self, actions and thoughts! Do a little chitchat on your own and see how have you been acting. And if you find out that it is not you, then better do quick errand NOW to save your precious relationship. I hope it all end well! Goodluck!

Hey there, Seems like something is going on and the only sound advice would be to set out some quiet and calm time between the two of you to discuss your feelings. It cannot be swept under the carpet because generally it does not get better on its own. I would start by explaining this is how I feel and because I love you and want this to work I would like to discuss, what I have been sensing lately. I use the I a lot because usually while approaching a partner and we say you this and or you that they at times either feel hurt and or defensive. Do remember that you do love him so do not be afraid to discuss, you might find that it will bring you two closer and or maybe you will realize you do not belong together. At any rate best of luck and do hope all goes/works out well.

I believe both of you are changing. Relationship between couples will change and i believe since it is your 3rd year together, there will be a difference. You can't expect it to be the same when you both just started out together. It is the same for me too. I am currently in the 5th year with my boyfriend and i am sad that it is slightly different. Like what you said, we still cuddle etc. However, we need to know that once we get settled into a relationship, things will change between both. However, is this persisting very long or you only have this feeling recently. I believe i have the same feeling as you do. At times. After some time, this feelings goes off and I'm back to normal again. I would also advise you to talk to your partner so both of you can understand each other more, understand what is happening and whether is there really a problem between the both of you. One most important question you should ask yourself is whether you still love him.

hello, Don't feel bad of what will I say but maybe you are thinking of that and he is not. You are just worried without nothing to worry about. Well, have you notice that he already change?if not well the problem is in you but if you think that you will relive if you tell to him the truth then go tell him what are the things that bother you. I know he will understand you but you just said that you smile,laugh and cuddle to him. Maybe it is not the coldness maybe he is just tired give him a time. good luck

Well, dont seem you both have a serious problem. YOu just feel afraid and worry too much. I think refreshing is needed

Being Paranoid Will be making everything seem as you thought because your only concentrating on pointing out the things which fit, give it a few days of not thinking about it and see how you get on :) xx