Her:" what a pretty necklace you have on" and me" Thanks for the compliment."

Hello Hatley, I know that a few nice words can do miracles. And also the opposite is true. For instance, if a person doesn't feel too good, if you tell her "you're pale, what happened to you?", this will only make her feel worse. That's why, when a friend or a colleague doesn't feel well, I say only encouraging words, even if I know they are not true. Why would I say "you feel bad, I can see this"? What good would this bring to me or to anybody else? I rather say nothing or I try to tell an innocent lie like "you look better than yesterday" or something like this.

it's the little compliments that mean so much. i agree with your discription of making you feel fuzzy warm inside. when i was a manager i used to go out of my way to compliment all my team every so often. if you watch their faces you can actually see the appreciation and that warm blushed look in the face. it gives me as much of a kick as they get. plus, at work it is all to easy to criticise but some are slow to congratulate. (i may of went of tack there!)

Love your title, hope that makes it clear the first line is a "quote" I know that complimenting someone can make one feel really good. When I receive compliments, sometimes I take it and ponder on it for a while, basking in the warm of encouraging words. I probably don't compliment enough though, probably because it is hard when I am around guys all the time..Then again I do make a point to encourage my youngest boy, because he seems more receptive than the other two. Another problem is when I compliment my oldest, I feel like it goes to his head as he already has a high enough ego where intelligence is concerned.. I think the main problem with compliments is determining if it will encourage someone or if it will go to their head, that is how I feel when I say something good to my son.

It's so true, when a friend or collegue or as simple as someone who you don't know who stops you in the street to say "Those shoes are amazing!" or "I love your Hair!" It really gives you an ego boost and sense of self that you can carry arround for the rest of the day!! or in your case Hatley, the life of the adoreable necklace!! I do like to tell people if its in an appropriate place then i will tell someone if i really like something they are wearing and have even asked people wear to get items of clothing i felt i couldn't live without!I think that if you are tastefull and respectable about it, then it will always be appreciated even if it makes them shy away the first time they get 1!

Hi Hatley. The last time I was at Mum's we went out and about into the local Town (as you do) and it involved me purchasing a top from a rather wonderful shop there called Madhouse. Anyway, I'm 45 and have often thought, "Do I still HAVE it?" and the lady serving me - I reckon was about 25 tops..and she said, "Wow, I LOVE that leather jacket you're wearing, it looks really nice on you!" Well, you could've knocked me down with a feather Hatley..I had a grin that could light up the whole world so I just blushed and said.. "Thanks very much! I got it from that leather shop at Fleetwood Freeport..you know, the first shop on the right as you walk in..if you're interested." "I'm going there tomorrow!" she replied. "Thanks a lot!" Despite me being overweight now I never thought I'd receive a compliment from a complete stranger EVER again. It doesn't matter that it was a woman..in fact, I preferred the fact it was a woman because she appreciated what I was wearing. Isn't that cool? You're right Hatley, compliments go a long way to making us feel warm and fuzzy. Oh, and when John saw the top for the first time he said, "Nice top!" He NEVER says these things and again..I felt top of the world...again. Haha!

It depend on the person,character decides someone's fate.every one prefer the compliment than truth!as for me,when i met a lady i have knew i would tell her that you look young and smart, though she is old in fact,the other will be very happy!but there's some people not being good at expessing themselves,they may talk straight.

I often do tell people I like their top, dress, shoes, etc. I feel funny some times as not many people do this any more and I do get funny looks sometimes. Like you say not may say this anymore. It is nice to hear. I have had others tell me the same and it did make me feel good being told. I went out and I wore a beautiful long dress, and it was dressy a young lady came up to me and told me that it was nice seeing someone come out dressed up as not many peopled did that anymore. It made me feel good that she did that because before she did I was feeling out of place a little.

Hi Hatley! I'm one of those people who do often do not pay compliments to people even though I feel like it. I mean, I'm too shy most of the time to express what I think. And sometimes, just like what you said, I take for granted something nice that I encounter. But I do give compliments sometimes and it's not just the person feeling good about the compliment, but the person who gave the compliments also feel good for making someone feel good.^^ I try to do it more because I also know how it feels when you're given compliments. There's also another side for this. You know, when you give compliments just to get the favor of a person. Even when you don't mean the compliment, you still say it so the person will favor you. This happens everywhere I know. I've done it. lol Cheers.

gOOD morning hatley, i love to get compliments & i love to give them. I think we could all do better at doing that. I try to find something good in everyone & tell them if i do. My favorite grandson is the sweetest thing about telling u sweet things & i love it. hope u had a nice mother's day & got to see your son.

I hear what youre saying. I don't really think I take compliments for granted. I am alittle embarrassed, even now at nearly sixty, and find it hard to respond sometimes. I think I may act like I am taking it for granted but I really am not. I really do appreciate compliments and enjoy getting them.

I love to give support to others. If they are newbies i can support my level best. If they are experienced (in a particular field which is close to me) i can give a suggestion. And i too want appreciation from my well wishers, isn't wrong?

I don't know, but i am a person who gives compliment when it's due. I would give a compliment when i see that your new haircut looks good on you. When i see that you have a new dress , i would appreciate it if it's nice. Whatever nice things i see on someone or on a place, i won't keep it to myself. And my compliments would really bring a smile to the person. Though, i only give compliments when it is really due.

In my opinion it is all about the education the parents gave the children. The nice words come along more often when we were young because we use to need more people around us to feel good. I don't think that people say nice things once they have other priorities then human relations.

I do this all the time. I do it because it really helps others. Maybe they are having a bad day. You pay them a simple compliment and it could completely chang it around. Funny how we tend to forget that something as simple as a compliment could really make somebody's day. That's why I make it a point to do this for at least one person every day.

In general we do seem to get too busy to be civil. Kindness counts. Sometimes we do not know how much a kind word will mean to someone. Especially if they are having a bad day. The other thing is, we want to deny compliments, we have lost the simple grace of saying "thank you" when praised or complimented.

Oh I just love to get compliments. My daughter bought me a pretty blue dress for Mother's Day and I wore it to Church. I already had matching shoes and I got so many compliments and it made me feel so good. she bought me two dresses but one is for tomorrow - my birthday. she went back to the city but just had to show me. she cannot keep a surprise from me. I am going to wear that one tomorrow night as I am taking a friend to dinner - she has Alzheimer's but still knows me. I hope that you had a wonderful Mother's Day Hatley. Many blessings

i give out compliments but only when i think of them - if somebody is wearing something nice or has had a good haircut or just looks good generally and i notice i'll tell them. i don't make an effort to give compliments, but i suppose that at least means the ones i do are genuine.

Everyone loves compliment and hates insulting words. That is why we are encouraged to say the only good things so everyone around us will stay positives and happy. I have met with people who likes to talk bad words and yeah that is why her life is always in mess and misery because she say it, for me when we say the words mean we pray for it and when you ask for it then here you will get it. Sometimes people might think that compliment words and praise too much means we want something from that people but for me if that person deserve it why not? It is a sincere compliment anyway without any hidden intention~ It will make that people happy and perhaps will help them to get motivated and act better in the future~

A simple you look great today can certainly brighten a smile. I find myself often doing so and enjoy watching the smiles. I also enjoy that my boyfriend does not ever call me by my name instead for the last 7 years calls me doll. That make me fuzzy and smiley all the time. He also will be the first to notice something different like a clothing style and or new way of styling my hair. Tells me he is always paying attention. Happy Mothers Day Mrs. Hatley.

Hmmmm dear Grand ma I like this type of compliment but not receiving but giving means mostly I give the compliments to most of the relatives wow!!! your sari is nice, wow!!! your necklece is nice and you are good looking etc. They replied ohhhh dear I know you are telling lie I laughed and say ohhhh why you think such they say you always gives the compliment to everyone...then I again laugh and say hellloooo dear bhabhi I swear I am telling truth...