Im almost due...what should I do?

Oh go to your mom! Your husband should be more considerate to you as you had taken the pains of child birth. You should be with the one you are comfortable with and that is your mom. I think you are also wary about living with your in-laws for a while because you need to make adjustments. So just talk it over with your husband and say you are staying with your mom. I hope you have a good and fast labor!

I would say stay home. Stay home and have ppl come visit you. Having two kids I did not want my mom in the delivery room or anyone, but my husband and I. We live in a different state so this was easy to accomplish. I had ppl wanting to come right after my first was born. I didnt want anyone in the house but my husband and I. I was tired and were adjusting to a newborn. We needed to learn her scheduale and ours. Also we needed to learn how to do this on our own. Your not unable to do anything after giving birth. I was walking, cooking, cleaning, etc when we got home. My daughter was a wonderful pregnancy and birth. I broke my tail bone and tore, but nothing i cldnt handle. My son was a hard pregnancy and the birth was a bit different too. Still i went home to my house, took care of my daughter and son, my husband took a week off. Two weeks after he was born we moved from VA back to WA. After my daughter was born I didnt have anyone come over to stay until she was a week old. Personally this is all your own comfort level. If your more comfortable having someone take care of you than thats fine. i think its better for you to be in your own home though. I find others who come in to help though try to take over and it causes more stress. Depends on your famiy to though. if they are laid back, than it shldnt be a problem. Just something to consider. Your will be tired and stressed enough i dont recomend adding anymore stress.

In my honest and sincere opinion, you should go to YOUR hometown! Seriously, if you think that is where you, your family and your baby would live a good life then get a move on and go over there! I'm really sure if you would just explain to your husband all the things you said here about your hometown and how it is way better for your baby he would understand and move on there. If he doesn't really love you though, which I highly doubt he would disagree and stay.

I think you should stay where you live now. Then you can have medical care from the doctor who has looked after you throughout your pregnancy. I know cultures are different, but I'm a little bemused by all this being taken care of by your mother or mother-in-law. Won't you be taking care of yourself after you give birth? Being a mother is hard work, but it isn't an illness.

You are the one having the baby. You are the one that could possibly be in pain afterward (sorry) and needing her mommy. I know I did! I don't know what I would have done wihtout my mom. Where do you live in referene to the in-lawas. Can yo ustay at your house and have them both help out? If you really must choose, you should choose the place where YOU will be most comfortable! Best wishes.

I agree with everyone else that says you should go to your mom's due to it being what seems to make you most comfortable. You have to keep in mind that with childbirth and having a new infant around you will be feeling very overwhelmed and comfort is the biggest thing that will keep you grounded. You are most familiar with your mother and she knows exactly how to take care of you I'd imagine. Like most new moms, you'll probably be fearing a lot of little things with the baby and you trust her because she's been around kids multiple times. It can be good to have someone like that there for the first couple of days or weeks. You will then go back home with the baby feeling very confident in how to care for him/her. Also, you need to have a quick discussion with your husband about adjusting his attitude over doing what is convenient for him first... With a new baby coming, all of that is going out the window, I hope he knows!

hi p2ks616 well I am all for telling hubby it is you who should be considered in where to go and I would go to your mom as you are more comfortable with her and you will need her help once you are home with your precious little one.Your husband just as to be more concerned for you and your care not his.You are the one going through the process of childbirth not him.This is the time your needs have to come first and I would tell husband that at once.I feel its really important that you be with your mom at this time so convince your hubby that you need your mom now.hopefully he will understand and come around.

Hi, yeah,if you feel much more free in your own hometown,I think then you'd better deliver the baby in your home... anyway,,the mother is the most important/.

You need to decide for yourself this time. It's always best to have your own mom around/besides you when giving birth. I delivered all my 3 babies without my mom besides me,so i know how does it feels when you needed her most. i suggest that you go to your hometown and be with your mom... I wish for your safe delivery

I think it is important for you to go where you are most comfortable. You will be the one needing help not your husband and it is you who will need the most support not him. May I ask where you live that you bring this up at all. Many here in the states stay where they are and more often or not that place is no where need their parents. I live almost 200 miles away from either set of parents and we did not go "home" to have our children that were born to us after we moved. Those who wanted to be with us came to us. In our case it was my family as per usual but they where here only a few days to care for the older children until I was released from hospital.

I think you should convey your views to your husband. You can just tell your husband that you are more comfortable staying with your mom. Most of the time your husband is out for work and tell him that you are more comfortable that if you need something it is more easy for you to ask your mom and not your mother in law. :)

Hi p3ks, GO TO YOUR MOTHER'S. I agree with other members here. I think your husband should be telling you to go to your mother's. Let's face it, childbirth is not a small thing. Women have to endure lots of pain and well, the trouble of caring for a new born. I have experienced both - that is having a baby with my in-laws taking care of me and having a baby with my mother taking care of me. Let me tell you, nothing compares to having your own mother with you. My in-laws are one of the nicest people I know and took great care of me. But when you ARE having a baby, you need to be taken care of and the newborn baby needs to be looked after. With the hormones coming to play, you want someone with you with whom you can totally relax. Stay in your hometown. If your husband insists, tell him it is nothing against his family, it's just that you need to be with your mother for childbirth.

Being a woman too, it would be more comfortable if you could stay with your mom. It would be hard for your husband to stay in your place because he has to do some adjustments but your health and your welfare should be given more attention. I am like you when I am having my first baby, I am just too lucky that both my parents and in-laws leave very near to our home. I stayed with my mother most of the time or she goes with me at my house. But on my second baby, I wanted to take care of my baby by myself so they just visit if they want it. That was more difficult but more memorable. Take care!

i think that you will live with your mother.because when you give birht you need help and she will help you more. and a matter ,when you live in your hometown .you will fell fresh air and you child will strong. and your matter (eating habits ) ,you need to talk with her about your idea .it will good for family love

It would be really hard to please everybody. I understand that this would be your first baby(?). And if so, everybody would want to have the chance to be with (you, and) the new baby. So, I would suggest that you go to where you would be most comfortable for the first few weeks. If it would be with your mom, then go there because it's you and not your husband who would be having the hardest time. But, you should also discuss with your husband how long you would be in there. Because you shouldn't stay there forever. Your place would always be with your husband.

Hi p3ks626, Your own mom knows best for you. I suggest you go home to your hometown. Your mom on your side after giving birth who will give her full support is what you need. Good Luck and God Bless!

In my case, i was able to stay at my mother in-law's house which in the first place i really don't like it because i'm not comfortable and i want my mom to be with me. During my first month of birth, my mother in law is very supportive that is why I am grateful and it made me comfortable to deal with having a baby for the first time. I always communicate to my mother through my mobile phone so she gave me ideas and ways on how to take care of my baby. I think all husband in the world are not comfortable to stay with their in-laws just like our feelings. =)