I can't believe that my cousin got so offended over a small thing.
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
May 12, 2011 4:00pm CST
This week, I told my cousin Happy Mother's Day on Facebook. And he told me that he was not a Mother, but Happy Mother's Day to me too. I then told him, that if he has a Mother, then Mother's Day was meant for him too. After I said this, I placed the word smiling, into parenthesis. I did this because I wanted him to know that I was smiling when I said this and that I was not trying to be rude at all. So, for some reason, I felt odd about what I said to him. I personally felt as if he had taken my words to him in offense. So today, I decided to go back to his page to see if he liked the comment that I responded back to him with, but then I have discovered that he has deleted the entire post that I wrote to him and when we both responded back to each other. I don't understand why would he get so offended over something that I have said that was true to him. He is in his early 20s and he is acting like a child to be bugging off something as petty as this. I just don't get him at all. He still has me under his family listed as his cousin though. I just really feel that I will never say anything to him anymore, because he takes every small thing that I say to him too seriously. He should learn to let loose a little. He can't live in this world always being so serious, he will have to let loose some.
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@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
12 May 11
I don't know you, and I certainly don't know your cousin, but I think maybe you
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 May 11
hi cream but why on earth would you wish a guy happy mothers day? I mean maybe he was a little puzzled but angry oh thats so silly its was just a goof onyour part and he should have laughed not got mad over it.He must be a man with no sense of humor and the smiling should have brought a smile to his face.I was lucky in marrying a man with a terrific sense of humor and I enjoyed our 33 years so much because he made me laugh.
Your cousin I guess is one who has no sense of humor gene at all, sad for him too.
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@zukichucha (991)
• United States
13 May 11
I am also confused about you would write that on his wall. I don't think it is that big a deal but I see why he deleted it. He probably did not want anyone to tease him. Don't be offended! If he was angry about it he would have deleted you off his friend's list or commented back in a negative way. I think he just thought it was weird and so took it off his wall.
@KillaCali (9)
• United States
13 May 11
I agree. I think he just deleted it because he didn't want to be teased. Guys are pretty brutal to each other.. Considering he is in his 20's he probably just didn't want his friend's ragging on him about how he's a mom or maybe calling him a MILF lol.. anywho I wouldn't think he would really be mad about it.
@shynie (556)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Hi Cream!
i guess it's best if you dont worry about it. Greeting him that on his facebook wall could make him feel embarrass that's why maybe he had to delete it. But I am sure he is not that mad at you as you think. Guys are just like that. they want to be manly in anyway, and greeting them a happy mother's day doesn't say anything manly about them. I hope you get what I mean. Don't worry. Everything will be fine. have a nice day!
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
13 May 11
Welllll.... mother's day is for females mothers not males...on the other hand if he was bringing up his children as a mum then that would be different because he would be a mum and a dad! I remember a few years back when my son called on father's day to wish me happy father's day! and I said I Am not a father...and he said to me you have been both a mum and a dad! so happy father's day to you! now how lovely is that!
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@prasanta (1948)
• India
13 May 11
Hi, just forget it. Perhaps it is because of male ego, or it was a misunderstanding due to misinterpretation. also, the other possibility is he somehow wanted to cut off the relationship or push you off from his Facebook activities. Whatever it is -- take it easy. So many others are there to accept your good wishes in right spirit.
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
13 May 11
Maybe he just wondered why you wished him a Happy Mother's Day when he is a guy. I wouldn't tell a guy Happy Mother's Day cause it's a special day for a mom. Maybe you should have just left him a comment that said for him to make sure he told his mom to have a Happy Mother's Day. I'm sure he probably just deleted it because he didn't want his friends to ask him about it. I'm sure he's probably not mad at you for it.
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@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
13 May 11
Hello cream.
I figure he did not take that as idle chat at all and did not understand the friendly tone you were talking to him. Bear in mind that even at his early 20s (and i speak from experience) he is far from being a full grown adult, and he may still act like a child in different situations and misinterpret talks.
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
14 May 11
It's a gender thing. You offended his masculanity.
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@apples99 (6556)
• United States
13 May 11
Oh man that's wired for sure, I mean why would a person take offence to someone wishing them a happy mothers day? friends and family wish me a happy mothers day on during mothers day as well even though I have no children I think its sweet
Your friend must have misunderstood you, or maybe he was just having a bad day because there's no logical reason for a person to get upset over a kind word
Some people have a hard time loosening up I guess.
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@singuri (571)
• India
30 Sep 11
We can see such kind of people now. It was quite common some don't like if we point out some mistakes, and some don't like giving suggestions to them.I could be like a childish or the way they take the thing into their mind.For such people we can do is to wait for few days some how by some experiences they will change their way but some will never change even they experience bad situations because of it.It all depends on the way they go through in the life.
. It was quite common some don't like if we point out some mistakes, and some don't like giving suggestions to them.I could be like a childish or the way they take the thing into their mind.For such people we can do is to wait for few days some how by some experiences they will change their way but some will never change even they experience bad situations because of it.It all depends on the way they go through in the life.
@succeednow (1633)
• Singapore
11 Aug 12
Hi cream97,
I too don't understand why you are saying 'Happy Mother's day' to a guy. If someone said this to me I would consider this weird. Your explanation of because he has a mother then mother's day was meant for him too is kind of strange. I don't see the logic. Anyway, I would take that as some iind of a joke and brush it off. It may be a small thing to you but some people are more sensitive than others and can take offense with such types of remarks. So I think you should respect them. Guess you should be more careful in future.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 May 11
Sounds pretty petty to me. Understandable that he did not understand the Mothers Day post but then you clarified and smiled so that should have been that. I guess some really do not take kind to nice thoughts, so my only suggestion would be to forget it for now and when his birthday or something special he post you can ignore it or post back, not sure I should wish you and or congratulate you because I am not sure how you will take it.
That there will leave for him to ask if anything is wrong then you can explain that you were hurt by him not being kind with the smile and clarification the last time.
It is hard to understand some people though, and since he is family sometimes we either distance and or forget about their little annoyances.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
13 May 11
This is not uncommon.
among cousins sometime one may interpret wrongly and react. Do as your conscience tells you. Accept him as he is. "I then told him, that if he has a Mother". Obviously every child has to have a mother and this remark could have offended.
Be careful in future.
@Mayuko (1268)
• United States
16 Jun 12
I don't think your cousin did anything wrong. For one, he is male. It would be weird to say to a male, "Happy Mother's Day" just as it would be weird to say to a female "Happy Father's Day". I get your 2nd comment on his profile but Mother's Day is for mothers, not sons (or daughters).
It must of bothered him to see that written on his wall. He probably didn't want the people on his friends' list to see "Happy Mother's Day" and question why it was there. People might jump to all sorts of conclusions.
Actually, I think you're also taking this badly. He simply deleted the post. He didn't complain, insult or say anything rude to you. Him deleting the post isn't so terrible. After all it is his profile so he should be able to decide and control what appears on it.
You have to understand that not everyone is the same. Something that irks someone else may not irk you and vice versa.
