Adopted people
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31046)
United Kingdom
May 13, 2011 12:43pm CST
Some of my friends were adopted. One of them came from a background of neglect with her older brother. A lady and man adopted them and went on to have two children naturally. Another of them came from a teenage mother.
One of my friends works as a foster carer. She often cares for children before they are adopted. She has had some lovely children over the years that I have known her. One time she had Marie Ann and Ann Marie. That was funny that they had such similar names.
Last night I saw a program called Long Lost Family. A lady knew her 4 year old brother had been adopted due to poverty. They found out he went on a ship to Fiji because his adoptive father worked there. Then they moved to Bermuda. She managed to meet the other adopted boy but her brother had died aged 34 in an accident very sadly.
In the 1960s in my home country a pregnant teenager would like at a mother's house and look after her baby for 12 weeks. Most babies were given up for adoption. It can be challenging to find a biological mother or an adopted child. Some of the people managed to find their long lost relative.
Do you know anyone that was adopted?
What do you think of adoption?
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13 responses
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
14 May 11
I guess when u get adopted or when u adopt a child..is all a twist of fate for both the baby and the adopting party. It's a blessing when we are given the opportunity to adopt somebody so that he or she can have that chance of experiencing what it is like to belong to a family.I know a lot of people who are so close to the ones who has raised them, notwithstanding whether they are the bioligical parent or not.It is the bonding that makes both parties one family.
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
14 May 11
sorry too late to fix a typo, should be biological (^_^)
@mandylee (267)
• China
10 Jun 11
i have the thoughts in my mind that someday i will adopt a child though i'm single.maybe in your country it's easy to adopt kids,but in china,it's difficult to fulfill the dream,you had to apply and detail your job,your income,your health.....all in all,it's so complex that i can just think about it but cant come true
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 May 11
We adopted our sons. Their mother was a farm girl who lived in the country and she had a horrible experience. She was also of German background like me, and it was a semi-closed adoption. I also gave my only birth child for adoption when I was a teenager as there was no one who would help me take care of her. Oh once she was adopted, then all my so called friends came out of the woodwork and were so solicitous. I think that happened to many teenager mothers then. They waited until the girl gave up her baby.
I also have a friend who was adopted, but do not know more then that.
I am for adoption if the girl is unable to care for her baby even with help. So if the grandparents take care of the baby all the time and not when the girl is working. That means if the girl goes partying all day and night, that baby should be adopted out.
I do not think adoptive children should search for their parents out of dissatisfaction with their adopted parents. Now if the adoption was illegal and the adoptive parents were criminals criminals and child abusers, then it would be a different story or if they need a blood or bone marrow transplant or something like that.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
9 Jun 11
I think adoption is a great thing, and I know there are long waiting lists for babies.
I used to work for the state run registry in Texas and I know of a couple of reunions that took place, one arranged by the state, another where the adoptee found the birthmother on her own.
I also know of a family that adopted 3 siblings from an abusive situation... it wasn't the happiest situation because the eldest child kept trying to return to his family. One time he took his younger brother and got them both on a bus to San Antonio where they were from.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
16 May 11
I think adoption is great! I think parental love is indiscriminate, and could easily be given to any child or baby, even if she has a different colored skin.
As I was growing up, my mom had a habit of adopting her nieces and nephews who were struggling financially. They came and lived with us, yet they could always go home to their family if they wanted to, and after they completed their education.
It wasn't real adoption, but I liked that she was helping relatives.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
14 May 11
I know of two kids who are adopted ...they are very small now....3 years and 1 year.
Though they are adopted by two different family friends, they are adopted from the same place.
I've heard one of my uncles was adopted....but he was born to a single mother within the family. So, he's still family.
It's nice when a wonderful family adopts a child that has been neglected. The child gets a chance in life. But I have a concern (please don't jump at me anyone). With the increasing number of adoptions, I was just thinking that most adopted kids do not know who their biological family is. What if they grow up to fall in love with a biological sibling? No one's fault really.
@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
13 May 11
I had a co-worker that was adopted at a young age. What's funny is that her siblings remembered her and didn't stop looking for her. When she was around 40, they found her and got in touch. It turns out that they were a wealthy family that lived up north and invited her to go live with them. Her birth mom had some sort of mental health issues at the time she was given up.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
14 May 11
i think there is nothing wrong with being adopted. people who are adopted should not feel that they are not loved because the fact that someone who is not related adopted them and accepted them in the family that means that they are wanted.
i really dont know and can't say about people who gives up their children because i am sure that it is hard to part with somehing you have worked hard for, a material thing, so much so as to part with a child...
@lwelizabeth (288)
• United States
13 May 11
My uncle was adopted but I'm not sure I've ever known anyone else whose been adopted. My uncle looks NOTHING like any of us, but he definitely fits in with our family and jokes that he got all of our crummy medical history just by association, lol.
@missybear (11391)
• United States
14 May 11
Not exactly but when my mom was 18 she gave birth to a baby boy and she gave custody to her then husband after they broke up.
After 2 years she lost touch and never seen her son again till he found her on line 6 years ago.
That's when I found out I had a brother 8 years older than me.
We never met yet but when I found out I send him a letter and he responded and now we talk on Facebook.
Maybe one day we meet.
I'm still in America and he's back home in Germany
We never met yet but when I found out I send him a letter and he responded and now we talk on Facebook. Maybe one day we meet.
I'm still in America and he's back home in Germany
@vandana7 (100282)
• India
14 May 11
There are issues that can be bad with adoption, though they can be bad with natural parents as well. My mom lost her mother when she was about six. She was brought back to maternal grandparents, and eventually looked after by her mother's older sister. My mom's father paid a hefty amount for her upkeep. But this aunt used up the funds to maintain her family since her husband was a gambler, and they didnt have monies. What more, she broke my mom's alliance when she learnt that mom inherited some more monies. She eventually got mom married to dad as dad was ignorant about monies. During my mom's minority she made dad sign GPA documents, effectively making my mom lose everything. So when it comes to money, adoption is not always right.
Out here, girl child is always looked at as a burden because of dowry system. My colleagues were often asking me "Since you dont have children, why dont you take my daughter..". Now, if I want a child, I will help out a child who has neither of the parents because that is where god expects of me I think.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
13 May 11
Come to think of it, no, I have so far not known anyone who is an adopted child yet.
Do I have very little friend or what? haha. But I have not meet one yet.
I think adoption is a very practical thing. Families who want children but are unable to give birth to one can turn to adoption as a way to get a child in their family and this child have the chance of being brought up in a good environment. This is because most child who gets adopted, the families are usually accessed by some community and must be deemed suitable for a child to grow up there before they can be adopted into that family.
However, i think your friend, the one who works as a foster carer is a very nice person. For me, i have always wanted to be a social worker, but I am not allowed to do so. I believe the job and happiness and satisfaction that your friend has far supersedes us.
